Penny.....have you tried contacting the Pearls with your concerns? I do not want to speak for them but I have heard them say their writings are not a template for all situations! .....Penny, thanks for asking The Lord to give ME wisedom.....I do need it!
Penny, have you read actually read the book? I happened to be at a conference once where the Pearls were at...crowd was filled with people who had "heard" about the Pearls. The Pearls stayed after the session and talked to everyone and answered all questions. I just sat and listened.... Say what you will but if there is something you disagree with I would challenge you to contact them.
I have read the Pearls books and have met them in person....are they perfect? No! You can say what you will about the Pearls but one thing they emphasize is knowing Gods Word! In other words, study the scriptures and show yourself approved and don't just follow someone else's teaching blindly! We as Christians should make sure we have all the facts before racking our Brothers over the coals before the whole world!