you Welcome to Message for Our Age. Many young people in our day are concerned about how to choose their life partner. They don't want to make a mistake in this serious decision. Brother Stephen David gives practical wisdom from God's word on how to choose one's life partner. The translation from English to Telugu was done by Brother Rajesh. This seminar was organized by Cornerstone Youth Fellowship in Karimnagar on June 2017. The contact details would be shared at the end of the message. May you find wisdom and understanding as you listen to this message. Brother Stephen David, from the word of God, with his experience and knowledge, will tell you how to choose the right path in life. This program was organized by the Cornerstone Youth Fellowship in June 2012 in Karimna. You will get to know the complete details of the Cornerstone Youth Fellowship at the end of the speech. As you listen to this speech, you will gain complete knowledge. You do not always find directly yes and no answers in the Bible for everything. There are some silences in the Bible. And some things are cultural issues. So it was, Bible doesn't address the culture of India. And Bible doesn't address the culture of the western countries. Because Bible is not the book of human customs. Of course, there are customs in the Bible but not every custom is related to us. I'll tell you an example. The culture of India is arranged marriage. When we say arranged marriage means parents decide marriage. And then boy and a girl can agree. That's the culture of India. But the western countries like Australia, Europe, in America and there are great men of God in these places. But like Billy Graham, John MacArthur, John Piper, I don't know. Their culture is different. Their culture is, in our language, Love marriage. They cannot imagine arranged marriage. You will not find a single person who goes for arranged marriage generally in this western countries. Single. There, the boy and girl like first. And then parents get engaged. And then they give preference to children in Western countries. But that culture is different. Now Bible is not talking about what Indian customs should do or what the Western countries should do. There is no yes or no answer in the Bible. It is silent. Bible only says sex before marriage is wrong, but nowhere it says love before marriage is wrong. So it's an issue of freedom. It is an issue of personal conviction. We should not try to add to the Bible that it doesn't say. No one can show from the Bible that love marriage is wrong. You can only teach people what is right love. That's what I'm doing. But if you say it is sin, This should say that, you not. And if this is them saying, you cannot create sin. You cannot add to the Bible. That's the biggest problem the Pharisees did during Jesus' time. They added so many things, this is wrong, this is right, this is wrong, this is right. And they were trying to find fault in everything. They become judges of people, not on the word of God. But based on their own thinking. And Jesus challenged them. How do you think like this? And what does the Bible say? They had problem with Jesus because he was not following their customs. So please, I tell you that don't expect yes or no answer in everything. Bible clearly says adultery is sin. We can clearly say that. Bible says homosexuality is sin. We can directly say that. Bible says lie is sin. Bible says that idolatry is sin. Bible says lust is sin. Now, wherever the Bible says it is sin, we can clearly say. Now, when you get married, should you put the ring or should you have a necklace? Bible doesn't speak about those things. It is an issue of freedom. You need to think about whether we need to practice this wisely or not. So you have to get wisdom from God and from the Bible. The problem with our culture is, whatever the man of God says, That is right. That's why so many people are confused. One man says this is right. He is a godly man. Another man says this is wrong. He is a godly man. Another person says another opinion. He is a godly man. Who is right and who is wrong? You need to examine from the Bible. Don't take human opinions as your authority. What if I say, okay, love marriage is wrong? I condemn it. It is sin. Oh, it is sin. You believe it? Are you fools? You should ask me questions. Show me from the Bible. On what basis, brother Stephen, you say that? It's good if you say that, but on what basis? You cannot shake your head for everything I say. We need to examine from the Bible. That's the biggest problem with the churches. I challenge in my own church, my own people. I challenge in my own church. Don't believe everything I say. Because I am not Jesus. I am a sinful man saved by grace. I tell them, examine everything according to the Bible. If I am wrong, come and tell me I am wrong. If it is right according to the Bible, follow it. But don't make me the authority of your life. Because we live in a celebrity culture. In the movie field, they idolize Mahesh Babu, Chiranjeevi and whatever those people are. And in the Christian, they would idolize, who are there, I don't know, much of, the Buxing, or brother Satish Kumar, they idolize them. Whatever they say, they follow it. Wherever they go, they follow them. That's not what he should do. There is one scripture that I show you. Acts 17 verse 11. Acts 17 verse 11. Right. Now, These, it speaks about Berians, were nobler than the Thessalonians because they received the word with all eagerness examining scriptures daily to see if these things were so. 1711. Since you are more powerful than him, you can accept his words with interest and check daily whether what he said is true or not. What do these people do? Is there anyone today living greater than Paul? Anyone can say, oh this man is greater than Paul. Maybe Sathish is greater than Paul. He was one of the great opposers. What did the Bereans do? When Paul preached, they examined what Paul preached, whether it is according to the scripture. And Bible says, appreciates them. If Bible appreciates for examining Paul, how many people should we examine whether it is according to the Scripture? We should grow and become mature, not be like children. We need to build everything based on the Word of God. Many things I say I don't know when people ask me questions. Because Bible doesn't say that. Bible doesn't say that. People ask me, where will children go after they die? I can't say that. Bible doesn't clearly say that this is what will happen. Some people are better than the Bible. They simply say they go to heaven. And they try to use some scriptures which doesn't speak about that. You should learn to say no, brothers and sisters, nothing wrong in that. We are not ATMs, okay, answering machines. We are not here to tell every answer. We can only give what is in the Bible. And whatever the Bible doesn't say, we can just give you some options. And then you have to decide for yourself. And you examine and you come to your own convictions. So again I'm telling you, whether arranged marriage or love marriage, it is a cultural issue, it is not biblical issue. Bible is not a book about Indian culture or American culture. We should only think about what the Bible says as sin and we should be careful. So, if any brother or sister tells me that I love a person, you know what will I tell? How dare you do that? You are sinning against God. Did I say that? I can't say that. You know what I can tell? I will give what is love and lust. If you think that you are loving, are you lusting or loving? Think about that. And then the other things I will tell is my next session. How to choose your life partner. Now that is what I'm going to deal with you. How many of you people don't want to marry in real life? I don't want to marry. I want to be a bachelor for the whole one day today. All want to marry, right? Knowing that marriage is a world of troubles, still you want to marry. Good decision. You are a man and a woman who wants to fight the battle. So, rise up soldiers and get into the battlefield. But don't fight against one another. Because you are not the enemies. Our enemy is... You will find the answer later. Okay, now let's see what the Bible says about, what does God's word say about choosing marriage partner? There is a wedding party. Party, party, man. The problem is I know Telugu, so that's the problem. If I don't know Telugu, you have no problem. I understand Telugu, but preaching is a little difficult. Okay. In a wedding party, you know, a woman was wearing the ring on The middle ring. Now this is a very good example. Which is the wedding ring? This finger or this finger? This one? This one? Wedding ring. Now, according to the Bible, which finger is the wedding finger? This one or this one? What will you answer? Tell me yes or no, okay? Yes or no? This ring or this ring? According to the Bible, which ring should we wear, brother? May I have an answer? Very good. There is a brother who is having an answer. According to the Bible, which ring? We're not getting... If you remember, please call me and tell. I will tell everyone that you told me that. Okay. Who knows, according to the Bible, on which finger you need to wear your wedding ring? Any single person? Now what should I do? Which finger should I put? Now, did you understand that is what you are doing with me? Love marriage or arranged marriage? Yes or no, tell me. What should I tell? Now you tell me the answer to the wedding ring, I will tell you the answer for my arranged marriage. Like Jesus. I will tell like Jesus. Jesus was asked actually, under what authority John gave the baptism? And you know what Jesus said? And then finally when Jesus asked the question, they said that, we don't know. They lied actually. Now, what is the answer? Biblically, is there an answer? Now, let me ask you another question. If somebody puts a wedding ring in the middle finger, is it sin? Come on! Where are the judges here who can judge? Middle finger, wedding finger. Is it sin? You are very smart. When I am asking you yes or no, you are not ready. You want my answer yes or no? The way you are facing the problem is my problem when you are asking me yes or no. Because the Bible doesn't speak about that. We can only guide people to get married. We can only teach people don't break your fingers, but you can… whatever finger you want to put, we cannot decide. Only thing is don't break the finger of your spouse. Only thing is don't break the finger of your spouse. Okay, so I'm just giving an example. Okay, so let's go and see what does the Bible say about how to choose your life partner. Some of you people will be shocked. Some traditional beliefs will be shaken. You know why? Because I speak the Bible. We people listen to all kinds of different, different opinion stories and we think that is right without examining according to the scripture, that's a problem. After I speak, If I am biblically wrong, please come and tell me. I will submit to you. Okay, but if it is not from the Bible, please don't tell me. You can be silent. Okay, so let us see what the Bible says. But one thing I would like to tell you here. Okay, one thing we need to understand that marriage is not a deliverance from sexual temptations. Marriage is not a cure to be loved. Some girls, you know, my mother never loved me. My daddy never loved me. And then you know what they think? If I love a boy, He will love me. But you need to understand that marriage is not an answer for that. You know, first of all, even that person also is thinking that somebody would love me. The boy will think she will love me. She will think he will love her. Both are begging from each other who will love me. But where will they get the answer? Where will they get the answer? Marriage is not a cure for that. I say that for these answers, you need to find at the cross. Only Jesus can give us true happiness and Jesus is the one who can deliver us from temptations. Okay? So, let me tell you the wise steps in choosing your life partner. Okay, so let me show you some. So these are in English, so you can make a note if you want. It's not opening. OK. Somebody can solve it? OK. So let me go. Now let me tell you the most important thing. How many of you want a godly partner? Okay. What is this? All want ungodly partners? Okay, let me ask you another way. Who doesn't want godly partners? I need a worldly partner. This is a good question. Now, let me tell you something. The most important thing in life is not marriage. Are you understanding? The most important decision in life is not marriage. The most important decision is this. All other decisions are dependent on this. I have already mentioned, but I want to remind again. Okay, let me say that. It is, you need to personally repent and trust in Christ for your salvation. If I am not born again, if I am not godly, can I expect a born again believer to get married? If I want a godly partner, I need to be godly. If I want a born again Christian, I need to be a born again Christian. When I am going to hell, I cannot expect a partner who will go to heaven. Now this doesn't mean that you have to believe in Christ for marriage. There are people who take baptism for marriage. Shame on them. And shame on the pastors who give baptism for such people. What do you think about baptism? It is not for marriage. It is a sign that you have been dead to the old life and believed in the Lord Jesus Christ. Here is Rajesh, unbeliever, and he wants to get married. And my church says that without baptism, no marriage. And Rajesh says, That's it. Just dip into the water. I'm ready. And the next Sunday there will be announcement about marriage. And then he will take baptism. And then after that you get married. What is this? Is baptism for marriage? It's a sin to get baptized for marriage. How can I say that? Because Bible says that when Peter said, he said that repent and be baptized. He didn't say get baptized and get married. There are people who are taking baptism, no repentance. No repentance. Why? For marriage. Now, you need to be very careful about that. A nominal Christian is not a Christian. I have lived a nominal Christian for 19 years. I went to church, took Lord's supper, I was engaged in little ministry. I was memorizing, I was praying, I was doing a lot. No Christian I was. People might be thinking that I was a Christian. It is at the age of 19 that I repented and I trusted in Christ and truly took baptism. So don't think that every Mark, Harry, John, Julie is a Christian. Maria, Mark, There are many Abrahams who are going to hell by having the name Abraham. There are many people who are going to hell through the gates of church building. There will be many people who will be thrown in eternal fire who have dipped into the water. Why? Because they have never repented. Their father is a Christian, so he calls himself a Christian. You know what I tell my children? My eldest son is 12 years old. My youngest son is 10 years old. I tell them, You are not a Christian. Unless you repent and believe in Jesus, you will never be a Christian. Don't think you are a Christian. I tell them, you people are going to hell. You need Jesus to save you. Your father will not save you. Your church will not save you. Your marriage will not save you. Your culture will not save you. Your knowledge of the Bible will not save you. Only Jesus will save you. And you have to cling to him alone. Don't try to play with baptism, church and all when it comes to marriage. So what I'm telling you is this. The most important decision in your life, the most important decision in your life is not marriage. It's not job. It's not about house. It is about where do you spend your eternity. That's the most important thing. So I'm encouraging you, my dear brothers and sisters, if anyone is not born again, never repent it. More than marriage. More than love or arranged marriage. More than boy or girl. Think about Jesus. He is the one you need. If he is not there, you will destroy your life, you will destroy your marriage, you will destroy your future. Only Jesus is the saviour. So that's the most important thing. And the second thing is this. when you want to consider marriage. Now, there is a very prevalent teaching in our churches. You pray. God will show you the girl and a boy and go and get married. So Rajesh will pray and he prays, prays, prays and then he will come and say, Brother Stephen, God spoke to me to marry the girl. And I'll… it sounds very spiritual. And I'll ask the question. Rajesh, how did God speak to you? I felt peace in my heart when I… when I prayed. Rajesh, let me ask you a honest question. Did you see… you might have seen lot of girls and liked them. And I'm sure you felt peace about them. So how many pieces God will give you in order to get married to different girls? Then you'll be thinking about, what should I do? I have peace. And all the people who said that I have peace, when they get married, lose their peace after their marriage. Some people are not even spiritual, they are supernatural. What do you mean supernatural? When they close their eyes, the girl with the red dress is moving around. And suddenly the next day, he saw a girl wearing red dress and going away. Yup! This is the confirmation. The problem is, after some time, Another girl goes with a red dress. Now, which one is the one? Now, this is how Christians are playing when it comes to marriage. And somebody will come and tell, the so called prophets and prophetesses, what told you to go and marry that person? What? Who has the authority to tell who should get married or not? God told me to tell you to go and get married. And you will be under fear, Rajesh. God spoke to me. The prophecy came. And if I don't marry, I'm disobeying. I'm cursed. What should I do? This is again another problem. What does the Bible say? What is the authority? People? Feelings? And some people are not only super spiritual and not only supernatural, they are also They are very good at listening to how the scripture speaks. They are biblical. They are biblical Christians. And then they open the Bible one day. And then they will find the scripture. Go and do likewise. Context, nothing you will see. He'll say, go and do likewise. Means God is telling me to go and get married. Go, go, go. Some people find another scripture. Go! and make disciples. I will be thinking, oh, if I get married, I'm making a disciple. And then I will have children, I will make more disciples. And what do I do? God spoke to me, go and make disciples. And Rajesh, come to me and tell that Stephen Brother, God spoke to me to test the world. And if Stephen Brother has wisdom, he will ask him, how did you find? But if he has no wisdom, what do you do? Come on, get married. But if I ask him, how did you get? And then I will tell Matthew 28, 19 to 20. God told, go and make disciples, baptize them and teach them everything. So, I have a sister-in-law or something, I want to marry her. She is an unbeliever. She will take baptism. I will get married and I will teach her every day about the word of God. What a great commission they are following. Is this what the Lord Jesus said? People are playing with scriptures when it comes to marriage. Only when it comes to job and marriage, they will think what is God's will. When it comes to how to spend money and lot of other issues, just go and do whatever you like. Only marriage and job. What is the will of God? Rest of it is all my will. Where in the Bible does it say that? Only when it comes to marriage and jobs you need to seek God's will. Rest of it is your will. Now, let me tell you something. Bible lays one condition about marriage. And that is the will of God. And you know what is that? Please turn your Bibles. I will show you a couple of scriptures, but let me show you only two scriptures. 1 Corinthians 7 verse 39. Okay, 1 Corinthians 7 verse 39. This is speaking about a woman, not a particular woman, but generally a woman in church. It says here, a wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord. 1 Corinthians chapter 7 verse 39. Now, let me tell you something. The Bible doesn't clearly tell everything about whom should you marry. It says one condition very clearly, no doubt about it. It's... It says that she is free to marry anyone. But, he should be in the Lord. In other words, it says, you should marry only a believer. Now some people tell, brother this is speaking about if the husband dies. So that means first husband you can marry an unbeliever, second husband should be a believer. Does it make any sense? That's nonsense. What applies to the first marriage also applies to the second marriage and third marriage. It doesn't mean you will have more spouses. It means when the husband dies. And the Bible says she is free to marry anyone. The only thing is, he should be in the Lord Jesus. Now let me tell you something. I have been reading the Bible for 21 years. That doesn't mean that I know everything. There are so many things I have to know. And let me tell you something. Nowhere I found, if you see the law, if you see the law, Moses law. You know how many laws are there in Mosaic law? More than 600 laws. How many are there? 600 laws, more than. If you look at all the law, And if you look at all the teachings in the New Testament, nowhere does it say, God will tell you whom to marry. If it is there, you tell me. Only one person God told to go and marry. You know who is that? God told Hosea to marry a prostitute. That's the only way you will find. If you see the law, no commandment. If you see the teachings in the New Testament, now some people think, you know, God created, you know, Adam and Eve. And he took the bone out of Adam. And they think that there is a missing bone in every man. And they need to find a suitable partner for that. Good thing is we have x-rays today. You go and make x-ray of your body. Show me which bone is missing in your body. And I will really understand that. You know, when God created Adam, it was the first creation. Not even He took the bone out of Adam, He took even the dust out of the man and He created it. Later what happened was reproduction. That means Adam and Eve met and their children came. They met and their children came. They met and their children came. That's how the reproduction happened throughout the whole history of the world. You and I are not created like the way God created Adam and Eve at first. Adam was not born as a baby. If you look at it, God created him as a man. And God did not create a baby. Eve. He created her as a woman and brought before her. And when Adam saw her, he sang the first song in the Bible. Flesh of my flesh. What a beautiful song he sang. That's a first creation. How are you born? Directly you are born as a man. Created from the dust. How are you born Eve? Directly you were born. From the bone. That's a reproduction. You need to understand the Bible rightly. The problem is people read the Bible, don't understand it and bring out weird theologies. And they will be in search of missing bone, missing bone, missing bone. Now, if that is really so, God should speak to Abraham, Joseph, David, and you know that Adam, I think David and Abraham must have missed two, three bones actually. Not only one bone. And you know the answer why? Because they married more than one woman. He had thousands actually. I mean people wake up, think properly the Bible. There is no such teaching. Only Adam and Eve were first created. We all came through the reproduction of different people in the history. Only Jesus was a born was born without conceived in the womb and even Adam. Only Adam and Jesus were born without having any, you know, intercourse. What I mean is, without man and woman coming together and then they are born. Are you understanding what I am saying? The Bible says that you are free to marry only a believer. But what kind of believer again the question comes. And the Bible tells that believer should be six feet height and little fair. And she should have 34 teeth. And she should be, by the way, she has done Master in English. And you go and get married to that person. Does the Bible say that? Your Bible says that? The Bible says, believer. Now let me tell you 2 Corinthians 6.14 what it says. Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. What does it say? There is an implication here not to marry an unbeliever. Wherever you see, Wherever you see, even if you go to the Old Testament, God tells the people of Israel, do not marry outside of the Israel nation. You can marry any person among yourselves. But don't marry an unbelieving nation. That is sin. Same thing in the church we see. A believer is free to marry any believer. But the only thing is that person should be a believer. Nobody can decide who should marry, only you have to decide with the counsel of the... We will speak more on that, then how to go ahead. I will give you some wisdom on that. I have two kids, Joy and Joe. I don't have the authority to tell them who should they marry. I am their father. You know why? I will only help them and guide them to make a right choice. Because it's not my marriage. It's their marriage. But that doesn't mean that I will just tell them, go and marry anyone. No, I will not say that. I will teach them. This is how you make a decision. I will help you. But, I cannot force him to marry someone against his wish. Because only a person who is getting married knows what happens after marriage. As a pastor, I don't tell my believers who should they marry. I only tell, marry a believer. There are pastors who tell you, you get married, you get married, you get married. And if they don't get married, you are disobeying the man of God. Where did God tell the pastors to tell others who should marry? Paul himself did not tell these people here in Corinthian. He tells only marry a believer. You are free to marry. But marry only a believer. Paul didn't say that. Who am I to tell that? But I can help people to make a wise decision. The first thing I tell people is, make sure that person is a believer. When I say believer, you need to understand what I mean, okay? Not baptism, not church. Even unbelievers will go to church. Unbelievers are getting baptized. Unbelievers read the Bible. Unbelievers read, pray. So that's not the criteria. You need to see that whether the person is born again. We need to see that person should repent of his sins and trust in the Lord Jesus Christ. Now what is the other thing that we need to consider? Okay, believer. Now, there is a question over here, and this is very, very strong. Can I marry an unbeliever? Some of the questions is, my relatives are there, and they are telling, get married, get converted, whatever you do, you do it, just get married. As if you know, God has given them the license to give salvation to people. Nobody can save any person. I did not save my own life. Bible condemns marrying an unbeliever. It is sin to marry an unbeliever. You want yes or no? I am telling more than that. It is a sin to marry an unbeliever, be it your family members, relatives, whatever it is. The Bible says it is sin. What is my authority? Bible says very clearly, I showed you the scripture. But there are people who say, I will marry and I will change their lives. What do you think, how good idea is? Now, I will tell you what Paul said about that. I didn't think about saying this, but because I heard in my lunch that lot of people are struggling to marry unbelievers. So, please turn to one Corinthian instrument. Read carefully. Examine the scriptures. Okay? Now, read this verse. Carefully, okay. Now read verse 15 and 16. Okay, 16 you read it. Listen carefully. Okay, shall we all read this together? Okay, 1 Corinthians 7 verse 16. Okay. Is it clear? No, it is not clear. I'll tell you what. This Paul is not speaking to those who are not married here. He is speaking to married couples. If you read the above verse, you will understand clearly. Now I'll tell you the example. You read the Bible later, then you will see very clearly. If you read the above verses, imagine that we both are couples, husband and wife. Okay? Then I will believe in Jesus. And my wife is still an unbeliever. And the wife says, you trusted Jesus, so I don't want to live with you. And the husband says, no, no, no, you should stay with me. But the wife says, no, you believed in Jesus, I cannot stay with you. Now what should we do at that time? Paul says, since she is an unbeliever, She doesn't want to stay with you. Let her go. Don't force her. And if the husband says, What? No, no, no, I will change her later. That's what Paul says here. Husband, how do you know you can save your wife? Wife? Sri, how do you know you will save your husband? If the unbelieving spouse doesn't want to live with you if you believe in Jesus, then let them go. He doesn't speak casually, means very nicely. Are you understanding? Now listen carefully. He spoke these words to the married people. And here people are questioning about before getting married they want to change people. The plot is about, I'm a girl but this is my bava. So I'll get married and slowly change him. Or I'm a bava or I want my marudal. And slowly I will change him. This is worse than what the Bible is speaking about here. No, that's not. You cannot change. Maybe some people have changed, we don't know. But the Bible doesn't say that this happens to everyone. Are you understanding what I'm saying? Let me tell you that. I know a brother who is a good brother in the Lord. He loved a girl. They got engaged. And the marriage was approaching. And then in the meantime, this brother came to the Lord Jesus Christ and believed this. They both are from Hindu. Now what do I do? Engagement over. Marriage is coming. He went and spoke to the family. I believed in Jesus. I became a disciple of the Lord Jesus. And according to the Bible, I cannot marry an unbeliever. It was very painful for him. But he wants to be faithful to the Bible. Those people were hurt, they spoke bad words, they cursed him. He was silent. And then he came out and engagement was broken. And today he got married. Today means not today. He is married sometime back. He is having children. And he is doing wonderful ministry in North India. He obeyed the scripture. My dear brothers and sisters, I'm encouraging you. Marry only a believer for this is the will of God. Which believer to marry? Now I will tell you some steps you can think about that. Shall we give a break? I think it's 3 o'clock. I think you need a break. Now, one of the things I tell people to pray a lot, you know why? Because when you pray and think, there is a possibility to think spiritually. Or else you will be carnal minded in selecting a life partner. Or maybe you will see, for example, if you are not prayerful, you may say that, oh, our physical body is so good, I want to marry her. Or the physical body of the boy is very good. He is handsome, he is having moustache and beard. So those kind of carnal thinking you will come out. Oh, maybe that person is having lot of money. If I marry, my life will settle down. Especially that person is having government job. So, job is safe, husband is safe. Now, that carnal thinking will come out when we pray. We have to pray for patience. We should pray that we should not think carnally. We should pray for patience. Because I told you that patience is very much required when you choose a life partner. First sight is very dangerous. Marriage at first sight is very dangerous. You need to be patiently examining. Now let me tell you something very important. Marriage is such a relationship, once you get into it, you cannot come out of it. Death is your only redemption. So be careful. You need to pray and think. It's not that you change your jobs, you change your spouses. It's not like you change your dresses, you can change your spouses. Marriage is a permanent relationship. Until death do us part, we confess and make a covenant in marriage, we are committed to one another. So it is such a relationship. When Jesus said this to the disciples, not to the baby, you know what the disciples said? When he said that divorce is not God's will, you should stay together, you should not divorce, permanent relationship. When Jesus spoke so hard, you know what the disciples said? How many of you remember that? You know what the disciples said? It is better not to be married. Matthew 8 in Prophetic. Is there a better not to be married? They understood rightly. That's why I say that be patient. Oh, I like the point. go and marry. Whoever likes the girl, go and marry. No, don't be hasty. Marriage is a serious relationship. It is a permanent covenant. No matter what, you have to stick together. It is sin for believers to divorce from one another. Yet if you go in the high court, so many Christian divorces filed. So many divorces filed to the lawyers. And America is even worse. Everywhere divorce. And it is also spreading a lot here. Why so many divorces? No patient, wise decision. I like her, I like him, they get married. and then they will face the consequences. Even in villages it's happening. I was just speaking to a brother, he said that they got married, in a year they got divorced. This is God's will. That's why we have to pray for wisdom. Marriages, you know, sometimes when I look at the advertisements about couples and all, when they show, and when the boy and girl, when they love each other, The way they speak to one another, so romantic and they dance together. They sing a song together. When I see that, you know what I will do? I laugh. This doesn't work in marriage. This is not how couples live. This is all bogus. Marriage is a real life. It is not so romantic as the media is presenting. It is not so romantic as a boy and a girl propose to each other. You know what I tell to the couples? The most difficult place where you have to die to yourself every day and take up your cross is at home. It all depends upon what kind of a life partner you choose. If you want to carry a heavy cross, Go and marry anyone. If you want to carry a lighter cross, be patient. Be patient. Be patient. Don't rush. Take time. Pray for wisdom. God, this is a serious relationship. You know, one of the things, my wife and I, when we… sometimes we talk like this. You know what? Before marriage, how sweetly you used to speak to me. Slow voice in the phone. Hello? Hello? Hello? Hello? What happened? What happened, Chethu? I asked her. And she asked me another question. In the bus stop, how many hours you were waiting for me? You cannot come for 10 minutes shopping now. And I go daily and pick up my wife from bus stop. And if she is late for 5-10 minutes, Where are you? I am waiting for you for 10 minutes. What happened before marriage? I am telling you the facts. This is how marriage will be. I praise God that I am carrying a lighter cross. I am not carrying a heavy cross. My wife is carrying a very heavy cross. So, you need to go and ask her. Please pray for patience. Pray for the wisdom. Don't depend on emotions. That's why I say you need to pray. Not that you will hear some voice from heaven and say, as Jesus heard the voice when he was baptized and came up, this is my beloved daughter, go and marry her. But you will have some wisdom about making the right choice. Another thing very important you need to consider. The good thing is, the thing is, not all believers are good. Isn't it? Not every Christian is a good Christian. There are different levels. So you need to be careful about what kind of a person you are choosing. Now let me show you one important scripture here. Please turn to the book of Ruth's. Okay, the book of Ruth's. Chapter 3, verse 10 and 11. And this is what Boaz says to Ruth. What did he say? The Lord bless you my daughter, he replied. Now, if you understand that, this is Boya speaking to Ruth. And they got married later. And you'll be surprised here, Lord bless you, my daughter doesn't mean that she is literally his daughter. Some people, you know, get uneasy to get married in their local church. I used to call him brother. And now, how can I marry? Or I used to call my sister, sister. How do I marry? Brother and sister, that doesn't mean that you're literally brother and sister. It's not a blood sister or a blood brother. Even my wife is my sister in the Lord. Okay, it's in the church, in the family of God we are speaking about. Here Boaz says that my daughter, he was just respecting her and in the culture it was common. And he was not thinking, oh, I called her once upon a time, my daughter, how do I marry her? So, culture was different. Now listen carefully what he says. This kindness is greater than that which you have showed earlier. You have not run after the younger men, whether rich or poor. And now, my daughter, don't be afraid. I will do for you all you ask. All my fellow townsmen know that you are a woman of noble character. See, very important. Wait one second, the last one. Wow! Do you see the testimony? All my people know you are a godly woman. What a good testimony! Now what do I say? If you want to choose a life partner, What should you do? Look for good testimony of that brother and of that sister. What kind of a testimony the brother has? What kind of a testimony the sister has? Can people speak good about her? But don't believe in the false testimonies. You need to examine and get to the right testimony. If she is a woman, always shouting, shouting, shouting. You don't need a home theater after you get married. It will give you background music, front ground music, everywhere music. Okay, you don't need to have a tape recorder for that. Think about the boy in the same way. Don't see that he is a handsome man. Very handsome man, if he slaps you after marriage, that is not so appealing and fascinating. If a man beats his parents, I will never give my daughter to such a person. If that is a testimony he has, if he can beat his parents, he can beat my daughter everyday. You need to examine the testimony. How will you know? You need to examine with the wisdom of God. Many people don't do this. They all depend on peace inside. People, be careful. Your emotions can deceive you. Your heart can deceive you. The Bible says, heart is deceitful above all. So, you cannot be casual in that. Examine. Go to the local church. Talk to the pastors. Talk to at least 10 people in the church. There may be some people who will speak bad, not everybody. You cannot trust every testimony. See, that's why we say that we need wisdom to discern everything. And don't expect a perfect testimony. Anyone tells you, She is perfect. Boy is perfect. Run away. Nobody is perfect. Are you understanding? Honest testimony we need. So look for a good testimony. The other one. Fifth one. Proverbs 11 verse 14 says, where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in abundance of counsellors there is safety. What does the Bible say? There is wisdom in the counsellors. Don't make your own decision. You know what is an interesting thing? When somebody wants to buy clothes, my wife asks always, how is this? Do you think that I should buy this? Or if the friends go for shopping, what do you think? Should I buy this? They will ask, right? What do you think? What do you think? Very common. But when they want to marry a person or like a person, they will not ask anyone. Because if we ask, they may say no. And we don't want to hear no. We want to hear yes. Now you can say, super choice. That's the answer we want to hear. And we want to go and ask only those people who can tell us super. If anyone challenges your decision, keep them away. That's not what the Bible says. People, marriage is so important. Generally, when a boy likes a girl or a girl likes a boy, do they go and ask counsel from others? No, generally no. Or when it comes to marriage, taking counsel from people may be little. So that's why I say my dear brothers and sisters, please take counsel. I'm talking about taking counseling from proper people, not from cardinal people. from people who are very wise in giving. That may be parents, or pastors, or matured believers in the church, whatever they are, please take some counsel. Don't go ahead and just get into the relationship. So these are very, very important. You know, one of the things that I challenge people to ask is this. Where is some basic important things? Now this is what I say to the young people. I wrote an article in my blog some years back. If you want to marry any person, ask these three questions. Are you giving a good gift to God? Are you giving that person as a gift to God? What does it mean? Are you telling God, Lord I want to marry a person who lives and dies for your glory? That doesn't mean that he should be a pastor and a missionary. He may do a job. I'm not talking about only missionaries and pastors are super spiritual. Even other believers can be. I know wonderful believers who are having jobs and they are sincerely following the Lord. So you pray for them. Lord, I want a person who can be used for your glory. It's not about me. What does the Bible say? In 1 Corinthians 10 31 it says, whether you eat or drink, and then says, whatever you do, do it for the glory of God. So what are you telling? Lord, I need a boy who is for your glory. Lord, I need a girl who is for your glory. Do people ask such questions? No. You know what does a boy needs? Generally, I need a girl who will be my glory. This is so beautiful. I can tell everyone, she's my wife, she's my wife. So that people can appreciate, you got a nice wife. And even girl, I need a boy for my glory. So that I can tell everyone, my husband, software engineer. And parents want a son-in-law for their own glory. My son-in-law. Ten acres of property. America. Own glory. This is what is happening. Let us seek the glory of God. If my son brings any woman, she may be a toilet cleaner also. She is a woman who lives for the glory of God. I am telling you before the Lord, I will bless my son and say that you made a good choice. It's not that those who clean the toilet are the low class people. The worst class people I have seen are the high class people. No humility. Such people don't have humility. Very few people. And what does the Bible say? God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble. So what I'm telling is, choose a person who lives for the glory of God. The second person. You know what is that young people I tell? Choose a person who would encourage you in your walk with the Lord. Now, if you marry a person who is an unbeliever, will he tell you, let's pray together? Let's do Bible devotions. Let's go to the church together. We will not do that. What kind of a person are you giving to yourself? Or if you marry a believer, so-called believer, not interested in God? And especially I tell women this. And I challenge men also in this. You know what is the biggest challenge I find? In our church, in other churches, everywhere I go, I rarely find men who are spiritual heads in their family. Their wives know Bible better than them. Their wives pray more than their husbands. The husbands are less passionate and the wives are more passionate. How can a husband be a leader? How will I be? And then he says, I am the head of the house. Why head? Why did God put you as head? To lead your wife. To lead your children. Not so that you can have horns on your head. It is to lead your family in the ways of God. So I tell young women especially, When you marry a boy, see that he is little mature than you. Because he can guide you well. Or else, in many houses I have seen, women are the head of the houses. They will tell the husbands to pray. They will tell the husbands to read the Bible. They will tell the husbands to go to church. That's a fatherly condition. Go to the churches. You will find more women than men. Fasting prayer. More women than men. That shows that today's men in Christian homes are not spiritually sound. That's why I challenge men, you are the head of the houses. That doesn't mean that only respect, respect, respect. You have to function as the head of the house and lead your wife and children. So, ask for a boy or a girl who will encourage you in your walk with the Lord. Someone asked the question during the Q&A session. Can we talk on phone before getting married if we are engaged? I ask people, what do you talk? Your voice is sweet. Your eyes are very good. This is what they talk before marriage. After marriage, demonic eyes. What do they talk before marriage? All nonsense mostly. They will not talk like, you know, before marriage. How do you think we can lead our family? Shall we have daily family devotions? Yes, yes, we should have it. How do you think we can open our home for hospitality? Oh, let us at least invite once in a month a couple to our home. How many children do you think we can have? Two or three children? Where do you think we can live after marriage? They don't talk about all these things. They talk about after marriage. Before marriage? Hours and hours that which are not helpful after marriage. Speak about these things. Think that which is very helpful after your marriage. Marry a person who will help you in your spiritual life. I have found so many women in my life. they will marry a person who is less mature than themselves and suffer. Same thing, men. People, I'm telling you, bodies are not… bodies are good, but they are not everything in marriage. What sustains marriage is not beauty. What sustains marriage is character. It is better to marry a dark, like me, like a dark person who is ugly to look. But I am not so good in character. What is good in character is better than marrying a handsome person but bad in character. Beauty will only be helpful after marriage on the bed, not on the floor. But not on the floor. Only 23 hours you will be on the floor, maybe one hour on the bed. So don't compromise. You be very careful that how to walk on the floor, think about it. Not how to rest on the bed. I'm talking very honestly because a lot of people make decision marriage based on physical body and attraction. They have made a bad choice. My husband is not at all loving. My wife is not at all submissive. What is the base for choice? Physical attraction. So that's why I say that, it's not beauty that sustains marriage, it is godly character. And the third thing, you know what I say? Many people miss this. You know what is that? One is that giving a gift to God for His glory. And second thing is giving a gift To yourself. You know what is the third thing? Giving a gift to your future children. A lot of people don't think about children when they get married. They only think about you and I. Just about one or two months, pregnant. And then the children will come. Then the lifestyle changes. What I encourage you my brothers and sisters, you know what is, there is one beautiful thing I want to hear actually. After you get married and have children, Your children should come to you and say, mother, I thank you for giving such a good father. Father, thank you for giving me such a wonderful mother. Think about children. Not just you and husband honeymoon and all kinds of moons, not just about that. Children think about that. You will have children. Give a very good gift to your children. If you make these decisions wise, You will make a wonderful choice in your marriage. But again I'll tell you, there will always be challenges in your family life. Your happy life and sad married life is all dependent upon your obedience to the law of Jesus Christ. It's not about your husband and wife. It's especially about you. Okay? So this is my end of the session. Right at 10 to 4. So let's welcome the questions. OK, fast. We will only entertain questions related to what we have spoken, not the questions that are out of the context. The question is that, I have said that we are made for the glory of God, not for each other. But in Genesis it says, it is not good for a man to be alone, and he made women for her. What do you think? Now listen carefully to what I say here. If you turn to Colossians 1 verse 16, Colossians 1 verse 16, and especially the last part of this verse, all things were created through Him and for Him. Listen carefully. All things were created for Him and through Him. Okay? Now this is the most important thing. Now the other one is, even when he was created for man to accompany him, it was for the glory of the Lord Jesus. Now, the best example I will give you. Now listen carefully about this. What is Ten Commandments? What are the 10 commandments? No, I'm not calling on the list. What are they? They are commandments of God. And you have to obey them. Yes. And what is one of the ten commandments? You have to obey, honor, and obey your father and mother. So, my question is, should you obey the commandments of God? Or should you honor your father and mother? What will be the answer? The command of the Lord is to honour your father and mother. So, when you are obeying and honouring your parents, you are obeying and honouring God. Now, look at here now. Bible says all things are created for the glory of Jesus. And then woman was created for man. How do you apply that? When a woman is serving her husband, she is serving the Lord Jesus Christ. When she is submitting to her husband, she is submitting to the Lord Jesus. So in fulfilling her role, she is bringing glory to the Lord Jesus Christ. Just as the way you obey your parents and obey the Lord Jesus, when a woman is living for her husband and serving her, she is living and glorifying the Lord Jesus Christ. Now I'm telling you one most important interpretation when you study the Bible. Never Never ever come to a conclusion based on one verse. Are you understanding what I am saying? Never ever take one verse and come to a conclusion. See what the Bible speaks wholly about this issue. If you read just Genesis 3, it seems woman was made for man. But if you look at the entire Bible, Isaiah 43 says, God created Israel for His glory. And even we see 1 Corinthians 1.16, all things are for the glory of Jesus. 1 Corinthians 10.31, all things, eating, drinking, everything, do it for the glory of God. Romans 11.36, For from Him and through Him and to Him are all things. To Him be glory, honour and praise forever. So, you must see Genesis 2 in the light of Colossians 1.16. Next. I think that brother or sister is sleeping when I was preaching. Why should I marry? Is it only for sex? What's the first thing? First of all, if I see a girl, how do I know that she is born for me? God has created that person because of me. Right. I have told already. God doesn't create people for one another. God didn't create my wife for me in the ultimate meaning and purpose of life. But in marriage, God has made her so that she can be submissive. God has created us for his glory and not for one another. Are you understanding? So please remove that false understanding that God creates people, puts them into the womb so that one day she will grow and marry another man. That's not biblical. Okay, God created people for his glory, so they have to live and die for the glory of God, and when they are living for the husband and serving, they are actually fulfilling the role and purpose of their existence in family. I'm telling you, the second question is very rude. Whosoever asked the second question, I'm sure that is a boy. And you should have some common sense when you ask such questions. You know why? Because I told you already that marriage is not for sex alone. I think there is some sarcasm in that question. So that is not good. And this Q&A is not to entertain you. You know very well that you should not marry any girl or any boy for the sake of sex. If you are a man full of lust, then you will do that. But if you are a man who dies to self and want to have a godly marriage, then you will think about other things when you want to have marriage. Sex is God's gift, but it's not the purpose of marriage. So please be careful and understand well when you ask such questions. And there are girls also over here and you need to respect them. I don't see any wisdom in that question. So I'm just correcting you in a well way so that you can be careful the kind of questions you ask. Okay, right. There is another one here. The Bible is silent in many areas, then is Bible incomplete? Now we need to understand here, Bible is not a book of answers for all your questions. You know why Bible was written? You know what is the centrality of the whole Bible? It's Jesus Christ. In Luke 24, He spoke to the people and said that from the beginning till the end, He explained all the scriptures speaking about Him. Some people ask, you know, who married Whom did Cain marry? The purpose of the Bible is not to give all the answers that who married whom. That is not the purpose. The purpose of the Bible is to show the glory of the Lord Jesus. How all things were created. How people fell in sin. How the promise of Messiah was given. How God chose Israel through whom Jesus was born. And how Jesus lived for 33 and a half years in Israel. How He died on the cross. How He rose from the dead. And how God saves people. And how the church should live according to the commandments of Jesus. And finally Jesus is coming soon. And He will put an end to the world. And there will be new heavens and new earths. That's the purpose of the Bible. Not about where to put your ring, which finger. Arranged marriage or love marriage? Or whether a girl should be little older, little younger? You need to understand the big picture of the Bible. The Bible is not about yourself. The Bible is not there to meet your needs. The Bible speaks about the glory of God and you and I have to live for His glory. That's what all the Bible is. So, understand the purpose of the Bible. I don't see Bible as incomplete. When it comes to salvation, when it comes to obedience to the commandments, when it comes to the meaning and purpose of life, Bible is complete on that. Just because whatever petty questions I have, if there is no answer, it doesn't mean Bible is incomplete. Now let me tell you something a wise person said. You know what he said? He said that the problem I have with the Bible is not with the things I do not understand. The problem I have with the Bible is with the things that I do understand and I cannot live accordingly. My problem is that to live a holy life overcoming lust. My problem is with the love of money. My problem is with the anger. The problem is with the love of the world. I do understand clearly. Bible clearly speaks. But here we fall. But not in the things we don't understand. Now finally I will tell you to read Deuteronomy 29.29. Very easy to remember. Understanding? What is required, Bible tells you. Not whatever you ask, Bible doesn't answer. That's not the purpose of the Bible. End of the answer. Now there is another question, beautiful question. What will happen if God speaks to me like Oshia? Very good question. But you need to understand the purpose behind why God told Hosea to marry a prostitute. God wanted to show to Israel his love and grace. He wanted to show to people that can anyone marry a prostitute? Here is a man who married. Amazing! And God took this to teach to the people, you people are like prostitutes. You committed spiritual adultery. You disobeyed my commandments. But yet, I still love you. I still love you and I care for you. Only to teach Israel a lesson. I don't think so God speaks to you again like this in order to teach a lesson. It's not for Hosea did God say that. Not for the sake of prostitute, not for the sake of Osea. It's for the people of Israel. If you marry a prostitute, it will be because of lust, not because God says to you. Please be careful about that. And even if God tells you also, I'll tell you, you will not marry. You will marry a prostitute. If we don't have people like Osia still. Nobody marries, I'm telling you that. I don't know whether people marry. Prostitute. It was very hard. It is not a simple question, people. It was very hard for Hosea. So, it doesn't apply to us now. And God will never speak such things now. And he did that only once. Like for example, he tells to another prophet, sleep on one side. For many days, he didn't say to other person. He tells Jeremiah not to marry. Because the nation was ungodly. He didn't tell to another person. He tells Osha to marry a prostitute. He didn't tell to the other person. These are unique examples that we find. Even it was not followed in the Bible, why do you think it will follow now? In Bible itself it was not repeated, why do you think it will be repeated? Are you understanding? Next question. Adam did not desire Eve in his life, but God has given him. Should I desire husband or wife? Adam may not desire Eve, but he will definitely desire Eve. Because you are not Adam. The thing is, you need to understand that when God created, everything did not fall into existence at one time. When God created, everything didn't fall into existence at once. Now, when you read Genesis 1, it seems everything happened pop, pop, pop, pop, like that. But if you read Genesis 2, you will see the explanation. You will see Adam tilling the ground. Animals were named. And then a woman was created. So progressively God was creating, progressively God was teaching. So when God created Adam, he didn't have the sense. That's why God has created woman out of the rib of a man and he brought before her and then his eyes were opened and he sang a beautiful song, flesh of my flesh. So today we don't have that problem. Every man needs a woman and every woman needs a man. And there are exceptions where some people commit themselves to live a single life. Okay, so don't think that you are like Adam. The biggest problem is you need to escape from the many Eves. I have to preach my sermon again for one hour. I told you carefully. What is that? If God the Holy Spirit will lead… When God the Holy Spirit will lead, nowhere in the Bible says that, He will lead you to a right man. It says He will lead you into all the truths. And that all truth is Jesus. Not a man, not a boy. So the Holy Spirit was given to you and me not to find boys and girls. Don't treat the Holy Spirit cheap. The Holy Spirit was given to glorify the name of Jesus. To reveal the glory of Jesus. to guide us to deeper truth about Jesus. With that perspective, we need to think about marriage. If you remove Jesus, you have no Holy Spirit. Are you understanding? No Jesus, no Holy Spirit. Because the purpose of the Holy Spirit is to glorify the name of Jesus. Are you understanding? And also, in Acts 180 says, when the power of the Holy Spirit comes upon you, you will rush to the right boy and marry him. Or you will rush to the right girl and marry her. What did he say? You will be my witness. You will preach my gospel. You people don't preach the gospel, which is one of the main purposes of the Holy Spirit. When it comes to marriage, you need the guidance of the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit is not a matchmaker. He came to empower us to live and die for Jesus. If you are a man or a woman filled with the Spirit, you will preach Christ. You will preach the Gospel. You will live for Jesus. Not even make pick and choose kind of decisions. So, I'm telling the bigger picture of the Holy Spirit. Now, let's come to the secondary purpose. Holy Spirit, whatever He does, He will not do anything beyond the Scripture. All Scripture is given by the Holy Spirit. God is true to His Word. Whatever the Holy Spirit does, the Bible says that. The Holy Spirit will not do anything against the Bible. because God will not go against his own word. So if God says, you are free to marry whomever you believe, and you have the freedom, but you should marry only a believer, the Holy Spirit will lead accordingly. And if God says, be patient when you get married, the Holy Spirit will lead accordingly. The biggest, biggest, biggest, biggest problem in Christianity today is this. They think that God's word is this, This is the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit goes like this, the Bible goes like this. The Bible says this, the Holy Spirit will say something else. That's heresy. The real teaching is, Holy Spirit and the Bible goes together. Ephesians 5.2 says, Be filled with the Spirit. Colossians 3.16 says, Be filled with the Word of Christ. We need Word and the Holy Spirit. Because Word is given by the Holy Spirit and the Holy Spirit will lead us according to the Word. If the Bible has no answer, the Holy Spirit has no answer. If the Bible speaks, the Holy Spirit speaks. So don't treat Bible something else and the Holy Spirit something else. Because the Bible is a gift of the Holy Spirit. And it will be true to the word. Next question. We have 10 minutes. I'll ask you, you need to endure some of my answers. I'm very hard in giving some answers. The reason I do that is because I want the foolishness of the people to be awakened. We need to understand that this is… we need to have a clear… because Holy Spirit is treated like which job to get, which girl to marry a boy. They treat Holy Spirit so cheap. The big picture of the Holy Spirit. He came to guide us to show Jesus. He came to be the witnesses of Jesus. They don't think about this. Marriage. Job, way to settle, as if life is all about you and the Bible is all about you. So, when I speak like this, I want you to be awakened of that. So, not to insult you, but to correct your understanding in a proper way. Okay, because a lot of questions that we see in the Christianity today are not related to the meaning and the purpose of life. Teachers also entertain those questions. Nicely we will answer all these nitty-gritty petty questions. What I have learned is, everything should be seen in the light of Jesus. Because everything exists for Him. He is your life and my life. There is nothing that exists without Him. Everything was made by Him, through Him, for Him. So, I want to see the supremacy of Christ in the lives of Christians. So I am speaking with little zeal, so please endure me. Okay, maybe one or two questions maybe. Should I marry compulsorily? If I don't marry, what will happen? Please read 1 Corinthians 7. Paul, not now. If you read now, it will take five o'clock. Go home and read 1 Corinthians 7. Paul says that it is better to live single. But again Paul says that not everyone has this gift. So if you have the gift of self-control, you can remain single and it's a blessing. You will be safe from lot of troubles. I don't say that. Bible itself says that those who get married will have a lot of troubles. And nobody can deny what the Bible says. But I tell that not many people I find who wants to remain single. And I found a lot of young people who say, I want to remain single. One or two years, they're gone. It's a… it's not very clear question. If you think about someone, if it is lust, thinking sexually about another man or about another woman. The Bible says that it is sin. But if you think about another person, And pray for that person. Or think about the good of the person. And think about how God can bless that person. This is good thinking. And I encourage you, please think. Think about others. Because a lot of people are only thinking about themselves. So if you think about others in the light of God's commandments, it is good. But if you sinfully think it is wrong. Teenage inter? Those people who are doing intermediate, how can they be delivered from girlfriends? The question is like as if girlfriends are demons and how deliverance will come from them. Even boyfriends also they need to be delivered, girlfriends. You know, again I am telling you that you need to understand the difference between love and lust. And also you need to understand the big purpose of life. What is the big purpose of life? I'll just say this and then I'll finish this question. It will help you. If you see me in the hospital and if you ask me, Stephen, what are you doing in the hospital? Is it easy to answer? I came to meet a doctor. If you meet me in a hotel, And if you ask me, Stephen, what are you doing in the hotel? I came to eat food. If you meet me in a marriage party, Stephen, what are you doing in the marriage party? I'll say that I came to eat. These are all the little purposes of life. The big purpose is this. If you come and ask me this question, Stephen, why are you in this world? Will I say that to go to the hospital? Or to eat food in the restaurant? Or to eat food in the marriage for which many people go? No. When you ask about the world, you ask about the bigger purpose. These are all little purpose, what are you doing in the hospital, what are you doing in the marriage restaurants or whatever it is. So, the biggest problem with teenagers or older people or younger people is this. They are thinking like you are in a hotel, like you are in a marriage party, like you are in a hospital. You need to think about what is the purpose of life. If you know the purpose of life, All your decisions will be very smart, wise for the glory of God. Whether it is job or marriage or settlement, everything, because you know, my purpose is for Jesus, to live for Jesus. So, every decision should be But if you only think about marriage, job and not the bigger purpose of life, you are not understanding well. So, whether… I want all people to be taught first, know and understand the purpose of life. So, teach those teenagers what is the purpose of life. Whether boyfriends, girlfriends, husbands, wives, employers, employees, businessmen, businesswomen, teach them the purpose of life. Answers become very easy if they understand the purpose. Very easy. Are you making this decision according to the purpose of your life and bringing glory to Jesus? It's very easy for them to feel guilty. No, no, no, no, I'm doing it for my own pleasure, for my own sake. I need to have a right perspective. So please understand the purpose of life and teach them, then the decisions will be very wise. And then teach about love, lust and all the things that I've spoken today. You take the messages, they are recorded. Okay, so I think we're last. It is like saying, after listening to how to get married, I understood how to get married, but tell me how to get married. And if I'm a fool, I'll get surprised with the question and then I will again teach you how to get married. But I think I have little wisdom of God in me. I don't want to be a fool. Listen to my message. Okay, let's stand and pray. People, let's once again focus on the purpose of life. Think about the glory of Jesus. The Bible says one thing, people. In 1 John 2.17, the world and its desires pass away, but the man who does the will of God will live forever. And the will of God is this, deny yourself. Take up your cross. Follow Jesus, who loved us and laid his life for us. Every decision that you and I make will be pleasing to God when they are made with this purpose and understanding. Heavenly Father, we thank you for this time. Thank you for all the brothers and sisters here. Thank you for your grace upon us. Thank you for teaching us. I ask you for our forgiveness of sins. Because we are thinking life is all about us. Life is not all about us. All about life is Jesus. And every decision that we make should be for the glory of Jesus. And we need wisdom and understanding and discernment to make wise choices in every step of our life. Save my people here who are standing and praying, save them from lust. Save them from making unwise decisions in marriage. Give them wisdom. May they build their life on the word of God. And may they be filled with the Holy Spirit and be filled with the word of Christ. And may your name be glorified. Please do bless my people and lead them for your glory. Most importantly, if there are nominal Christians here, just living for namesake, but they are not born again, we pray that you lead them to the cross. May they know the gospel. May they know Jesus on the cross. May they be saved from going to hell and coming to the kingdom of God. May they understand the love of Jesus. And with the love of Jesus, may they learn to love in life. Have mercy on our people. Save us from foolishness. Save us from deceptions. Save us from false teachings. Save us from church mental spirit. Help us to have a proper understanding of your words. Ignorance of your word is a room for deception. So help my young people to study their Bibles every day. May they know that the Bible is the voice of God. Day may they read. Meditate on your word. And lead them safely in your ways. In the name of our Lord Jesus we pray. Amen. Let me tell you finally, I don't know what God's will is, whom you should marry. Because I don't know about you. And I know that only Bible speaks about marry a believer. I'll tell you what is God's will for you boldly. Blessed is the man who meditates on the word of God day and night. You study this, obey it, even what we speak. We can speak only from this. What you listen, only from this. If you neglect this, if you don't study this, you are ignorant of God's will, and you will ruin your life. Are you understanding? Study this every day, brothers and sisters, and you will have amazing wisdom from God. when you want to obey also. Okay, thank you. Thank you for listening to this message. We hope you have been greatly encouraged. For enquiries on Cornerstone Youth Fellowship, you may call Brother Benjamin, 9908609805. I repeat, 9908609805. Or Brother Jeevan, 9059696939. 9059696939. You may also email us at messageforourage at gmail.com. God bless you. 0 9 8 0 5 Once again 9 9 0 8 6 0 9 8 0 5 Or the life of the brother 9 0 5 9 6 9 6 9 3 9 Once again 9 0 5 9 6 9 6 9 3 9 You can contact the numbers You can also email us at messageforourageatgmail.com. May God bless you!