Just for Women. Listen to Mrs. Waite speak from her heart to your need. Pause a moment and care. Just for Women is an unusual broadcast for women in the midst of a crooked and perverse generation. Yvonne Waite, deals biblically with the many issues facing women today. The Bible tells the older women to speak the things which become sound doctrine, and teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands. Let the word of God be not blasphemed. Listen now to Mrs. Waite speaking just for women. Hi girls, the Apostle Paul wrote to the Philippian Christians there in Philippi saying rejoice in the Lord always and again I say rejoice And I always think that he spoke about rejoicing so much that perhaps they were not rejoicing. We are always told many times by preachers that the Philippians were rejoicing people. But if you are doing something you don't have to be commanded to do it. So I keep thinking there may have been problems that they couldn't rejoice in. Is there anything in your life that you have a hard time rejoicing in? I'm sure there are many instances and with me too. Then he goes on in verse 5 of chapter 4. Let your moderation be known unto all men. And in our Defined King James Bible, moderation means gentleness or mildness or fairness. So let your gentleness be known unto all men. The Lord is at hand. So I suppose if you have a rejoicing heart, your gentleness will be known. Then in verse 6, be careful for nothing but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving. Let your requests be made known unto God." So they were not being careful. They were being very anxious and this means stop being anxious. So that makes me think really they weren't rejoicing. They were worrying. They were upset. Stop being anxious. Be careful for nothing but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving Let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. Now I want to talk about something today with our daughter, Diane Cosby, who's been with us for several programs. We're going to talk about something that she and I know a lot about. Sometimes we talk about things that we just know a little bit about. But we happen to know a lot about this, and it's hot flashes. And there's a big generation difference between Diane and me. And yet, this is something that we know about. Diane, welcome again to the program. Thank you. It's very nice to be here. We're always glad to have you here. You're a blessing to us when you come and visit us. So, we're going to talk about hot flashes. Now, when was your first experience with hot flashes? Well, let's see. I'm 51 and I probably have been having hot flashes for about 12 years. I don't think there's any end in sight if I'm like you. Oh I hate for that to happen to you. Now I had a surgical menopause and Diane didn't and as soon as I had that with all the ovaries removed and everything I started getting hot flashes. I was very familiar with hot flashes in the family because my grandmother Barca my mother's mother had them and she died at 92 and I think she had them till she died. and my mother she got hot flashes too I remember so well seeing her rush to the refrigerator and drinking ice water she had a certain big glass of ice water she would drink and it was very difficult for her as it is for all of us so yes I remember that too grandma doing not drinking the ice water but I remember her getting hot flashes yes and my grandma all the time they all everybody would tease her and she'd be fanny. But it's something I guess it has to do with our hormones do you think? Yes it most definitely does. I have learned that this is my life and that this is just how it's going to be and there's nothing for me that really helps or stops them and I just have to accept them. Right and it's very hard. You can't sleep when it first happens. I can't sleep and for years you can't sleep and you wake up soaking wet and you learn to use wear cotton at night and the sheets are all wet and so I was I was on hormones for many years I forget 30 years I've lost track many years on hormones until I had a slight a little cancer and then I was told not to take hormones anymore and I thought how am I going to how am I going to live but God was gracious and they're not as bad they're probably bad for someone else but what I had before wasn't as bad but you don't take hormones no I never have I opted not to because there is is a slight risk for cancer or for other other things breast cancer was the main thing and I just decided not to take the hormones However I do have osteoporosis so that's another slant to the... Because you didn't take hormones? Well it may have happened anyway but doctors do suggest that you take hormones to help have a stop the osteoporosis. Uh-huh. So that's another another slant. Of course you didn't drink much milk after you left me. I don't think I drank milk when I lived with you either. Oh you were supposed to. You had Sanilac. Oh Sanilac. We had that mixture milk. Powdered milk. Oh yeah I guess so. Do you think that gave you that? No. I think I probably would have had it anyway. I was predisposed. but that was supposed to be milk don't make me feel guilty about this. 85% of the women in the United States experience hot flashes of some kind as they approach menopause and for the first time or two after their period stops between 20 and 50% of women continue to have them for many more years as time goes on the intensity decreases but we see women lots of times fanning and some people say oh like last week in church someone said well I didn't know it was so hot in here but several people were fanning and I said, they're having hot flashes. I think that was a man that said that. They're having hot flashes. So tell us any experiences that you want to about this. Well I used to get them worse. They have tapered off a little bit. I used to get them I used to time them just like you would labor pains and I'd get them about every three minutes I'd have a hot flash the kind where you're wringing wet sweat just pours down your face and and in the last year I would say I only get about one hot flash an hour which is a real blessing and when I'm when you're for myself when I'm finished with a hot flash then I get chills. Oh the chills are almost worse. That's why I can't dress in sleeveless you know waiting for the hot flash because then I'm going to be freezing so I have to dress in layers. Right that's right I used to be so hot for one year after I had this come to me these hot flashes I didn't take anything my husband didn't want me to take anything he wasn't having the hot flashes. and so for one year I would peel all my clothes off about every 45 minutes and then there were those small hot flashes in between that were it was just a horrible way to live and you couldn't behave properly it's very difficult and and so it would be to have the apostle Paul come and say rejoice would be pretty hard during those periods Yeah, that's right, mom. It's very, very hard. But you do have to reach a time, and I did, about I don't know how many years ago, maybe eight years ago, where I just had to realize this is going to be my life. I cannot use this as an excuse. I'm going to have to learn to live with this. I'm going to have to live with it in the right way with the right attitude. and you do have a good attitude and I'll say for me now it's so much better that they've let up some but I have them a lot they wake you up in the night then you have to run to the bathroom because you're all it's all sort of all as you get older it's all together so considered by many to be the hallmark of menopause hot flashes are the most common menopausal symptoms in Western society. According to the National Institute of Health, the National Institute of Health, a hot flash is a sudden temporary onset of the body's warmth, flushing, and sweating. The intensity and frequency of hot flashes varies greatly from women to women. Hot flashes are considerably less common in non-Western countries such as Japan, Hong Kong, Pakistan, and Mexico. where studies show that 10% or less of menopausal women experience hot flashes. It has been postulated that the low incidence in Japanese women is due to their high fiber, low fat diets and high dietary intake of soy products. I do know that sometimes certain circumstances bring hot flashes on and lots of times when I'm not around certain people a lot I don't get as many hot flashes. Yes, stress brings it on for sure. I know and people don't understand that especially husbands. Other people don't always understand this. Now there are some women who never have one hot flash. My aunt, my mother had all these hot flashes but my aunt never had a hot flash which was a blessing for her but she couldn't understand. I have another friend that has never had a hot flash. She's never been married. She never had children and I don't know if that's connected to hot flashes or not having a family. but she she thought that women who talk about hot flashes they just say that to get attention and lo and behold that is not true at all and it's most hurtful to us who have hot flashes to be accused of doing making a mountain out of a molehill don't you think? Yeah well I don't know of any I don't have any friend any not even one that has a hot flash. Really? None. I know one person that had them during menopause but once she finished with menopause that they disappeared. I know that's the usual thing. They say to me, see I'm 81 now, and they'll say, oh you're too old to have hot flashes. Well, news. And they say to Diane, you're too young to have hot flashes. But who are they anyhow? They don't know. So I just think it's something that we women should be aware of and be considerate to other people. Sometimes you get real sick with these hot flashes as they come. Especially when I'm at night. and I'm trying to go to sleep or something or I'll wake up real sick. I can't explain it. It's a sickish feeling and also you become sort of depressed. I'll speak for myself. The world doesn't seem very nice and all of a sudden I think oh I'm getting a hot flash. You have a bad attitude, a bad feeling and all that and then the hot flash comes and then that negative thinking goes away. But it's very difficult. It really is. So do you have anything else to say Diane? I would agree with that. I want Diane to read this poem here written by Gertrude Sandberg on peace. A wonderful peace I have in my heart, a precious and beautiful calm. Though there are tears, in my heart there is joy, and God's peace as a healing balm. This wonderful peace I take into my ears, the weary I am in the fray. The God of all peace will hold on my hand. and give peace to my heart day by day." And the verse that goes with that is, "...and let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to which also ye are called into one body, and be ye thankful." Colossians 3. Thank you, Daniel. You have been listening to Just for Women with Yvonne Waite, sponsored by the Bible for Today Baptist Church in Collingswood, New Jersey. We invite you to visit our church Sundays at 10 a.m. and Thursdays at 8 p.m. If you need more information about our church, our broadcast, or our Savior, please call us toll-free 1-800-JOHN-10-9, email bft at biblefortoday.org. The organist and pianist is Mr. Dick Carroll. Your announcer has been Dr. D.A. Waite, pastor of the Bible for Today Baptist Church. We invite all you ladies to join us next week, same time, same station, to hear Yvonne Waite and Just for Women. I'm under God's care, are you?