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Well, I'd like to welcome you
again. This is the second evening in which we're having issues
surrounding Christian ethics. A little short four-week series
entitled Christians Living in a Sin-Stained World, Some Ethical
Questions Christian Face Today. Last week was our first and second
sessions, or one evening in which we took up two topics. moral reasoning and then worldview
as grounding moral reasoning. Tonight, which is our second
evening, taking up sessions three and four, we hope to look at
issues surrounding human sexuality, very specifically pornography
and transgender issues. We're not going to take up homosexuality,
but transgenderism. To get started, shall we ask
God to bless our time. Gracious God and Father, you
are kind to us and good. You are faithful and loving.
You know the world we live in, which finds itself in sin and
in misery and sorrow and brokenness, and also a world where there's
much sexual dysfunction, where there's infidelity. where there's
lack of trust and communion, where we don't live out your
good created purpose for us, where there's many individuals
who are caught in sexual misery as well, find themselves caught
up by the tentacles of pornography, or even find their own sexual
orientation and their sense of self challenged or sidetracked
or where they face confusion. And Lord, your church lives in
the midst of a world in which it seeks to be light and salt.
and to offer hope in Christ Jesus. Help us to have a compassionate
heart, but also to rest strongly in your word. Your truth is grounding
us in an understanding of the world, of ourselves, of our neighbors,
and of the brokenness and the hope of redemption in Christ
Jesus. So bless our time this evening, and may we be able to
think together Christianly and grow in knowledge and understanding.
We ask this all in Jesus' name, amen. We welcome many more viewers,
not only those of you who are here physically with us, but
many more viewers who are tuning in online, some of which don't
tune in live, but later from the recording. We're glad you're
with us as well. So tonight, session three, issues
surrounding human sexuality, particularly pornography and
how this brings on marital trials besides many others. I'm going
to be reading through these notes. You can read along. I'll be also
making comments besides what you find printed here. But Western
society, the world we live in, has changed rather radically.
I'm old enough, because I was born in the 1950s, to at least
remember programming from that era. And I certainly remember
programming from the 1960s and the like. And television, 1950s
television and movies, is the sexual standards depicted there,
is very different than what we find today. Back then, gays weren't
called gays or gay-oriented people and the like. They talked about
being in a closet mostly. Terms like gender dysphoria was
a culturally unknown concept. Pornography existed, but was
a scandalous hidden indulgence, kept in private drawers, stashed
away in boxes in basements, behind other boxes in the basement. Pregnancy out of wedlock was
the occasion for shame and public embarrassment. Even divorce was
a sort of scarlet D. I'm not saying that was a good
thing, but it was. sort of the Scarlet D branded
on people's chests. With the advent of Playboy magazine
in 1953, the sexual revolution commenced. You could argue that
it was partly underway already back in the roaring 20s, but
was sidetracked because of the Great Depression and the Second
World War and the like. But the sexual revolution gained
real momentum with the arrival of the pill in 1960. This liberated women from unwanted
pregnancy. About that same time, James Bond Playboy extraordinaire enticed
a whole generation of young men to fantasize about the exploits
of the sexually conquering male with little emotional attachment
to any female. Then too, the 60s revolution,
the hippie movement, free love, along with women's liberation,
and more social forces. Each and all these coincided
in ushering in the brave new world of sexual freedom. In the 70s, gay rights gained
sway and an onward march ever since. More recently, transgenderism
has become the focus of attention, most notably when Bruce Jenner,
the famed Olympian decathlete, transitioned to become Caitlyn
Jenner. We've moved then from the world
of Ozzie and Harriet, which I don't remember very well, and Leave
it to Beaver, which I remember very well. I still watch reruns
of it. To the Conners, which has a transgendering
child as one of the characters. Beavis and Butthead, a big thing
in the 90s. But I heard it's making a comeback. If you've never heard of that,
my apologies. But that cartoon depicts two
fellows by that name who offer every rude, crude, sexist cliche
imaginable. We're a strange culture in which
We want to hold women up, and then we also celebrate shows
like that that do the very opposite. Pornography, and not the tame
sort of stuff of Playboy fame, but explicit, hardcore, triple
X's that used to be referred to pornography. of many in this
room couldn't imagine the content of, is only a few clicks away,
a few clicks of some buttons on your computer or your cell
phone, so that literally you could take out your phone now,
and with a few clicks you'd be shocked what will pop up. That's the world we live in now. Pregnancy out of wedlock is now
publicly paraded as an occasion for celebration, even on national
TV. Gay persons have moved from the
closet to the spotlight from a hall of shame. to a hall of
fame. In fact, the old values and social
mores are increasingly viewed as what should be shot into the
closet and hidden away or exiled. In these two sessions, then,
we're first going to look at pornography and then, as I noted,
transgenderism. So pornography. We don't have
to look very far to know that our culture indulges lust, celebrates
it. It's not a vice. Lust is luscious. It's not a deadly sin. It's a
charm. This is how our culture depicts
it. It's an engine that fires us,
or a fire that fires our engine. It brings on life's adventure.
It fuels fun. The media portrayal is that it's
hardly a vice. In other words, lust isn't vicious. Of course, the biblical portrait's
different. As a vice, lust is vicious. a sexual coveting of bodies,
and outside the bonds of vowed love called marriage, it's a
desire gone astray. This vice in a world alienated
from God, is often, that is, the device of loss is often packaged
with other sorts of sins, like greed, like anger, like envy,
and the like. Sexual loss can be manifest in
many forms, premarital, marital, extramarital, postmarital. It can include any sort of sexual
desire or pleasure or satisfaction that really stands contrary to,
against God's will for us. Though the window of the eyes
can breed lust in the heart, this is a important thing to
understand about ourselves. It's not the case. Lust is out
there. And it gets me in here. The eyes
might be the windows in which we see out there, but it's the
heart. that directs the eyes, and it's
the heart that receives the information and translates what's out there
into lust. In other words, Jesus taught
us a long time ago, lust is a heart problem, first of all, not a
sexual organ or sexual desire problem, first of all. It's a
heart problem. Our hearts are disordered. Our
hearts are misdirected so that we see with our eyes even with
our mind's imagination. And because our eyes, what we
see with our eyes is then twisted into lust. The Bible has various
ways of talking about sexual misbehavior, fornication, adultery,
lustful fantasizing, and everything associated with the same. And
all of this is easily practiced, by the way, in the privacy of
one's heart. Inasmuch as lust is sort of a
private coveting of bodies, a coveting of a neighbor's wife, or a woman
in your heart, it can be a very private sin. Men can be quite,
and I suppose women too, can be quite expert of, I checked
her out, and she didn't, and no one else even knew I checked
her out. But indeed, I did. And it's up
to your heart what you do with that, what starts rolling around
in your mind and imagination. Inevitably, loss aims to push
beyond the confines of the imagination and find satiation through another. And even though our culture judges
loss for the newcomers, I'm on page 10 of the handout. Even though our culture judges
lust as harmless and private, just as long as you don't hurt
anybody, a corrupted imagination is a type of self-harm. What
are you doing to yourself? And if one is in a committed
relationship, it harms one's partner, compromising or altogether
corrupting trust, commitment, friendship, fellowship, union. Lust does put another person
between you and your spouse, for example, you and your fiance. Part of the fidelity of marriage
includes mental fidelity. Of course, sex itself is good.
And so let's sort of shift a little bit here. Sex itself is good. It's not shameful. It's a wonderful
gift of God. Who invented it? He did. Who
wired us? He did. Who knows about our sexual
desires and celebration and the wonderful intimacy and ecstasy
of our sexuality? God does. He made us that way.
He's not ashamed of it. He designed as such. God invented
it then, and I consider it, along with many others, a rather great
invention at that. God is not ashamed of sex, but
we're able to make it shameful. Certainly a part of sex has the
purpose of procreation, but that's not its sole purpose. Humans aren't merely animals
who come into heat. We are not meant for just any
body handy, but for life lived together and committed love and
fidelity. That's the design then, a design
plan for human happiness, for human flourishing, God's plan. And the Song of Songs, many take
it merely as a metaphor, allegory for Christ and his church. Well,
you can look at it theologically and draw conclusions, but what
it is first of all is a celebration of wedded sexuality and celebration. Pornography, by contrast, mounts
a full frontal assault on this divine plan. Pornography, the
word being derived from two Greek words, porne, which literally
means prostitute. And when one's engaging in porne,
it's a kind of whoring. And grapheme, writing or drawing. Pornography is whoring, prostitute
writing. whoring, drawing, depiction,
a portrayal of sexually oriented material in written or audio
or visual form, deliberately designed to stimulate sexually,
to incite lust and passion and longing, sexual desire this way. It contains explicit descriptions
or displays of sexual actions, and or organs with the aim of
stimulating sexual feelings, desires, and the like versus,
say, mere artistic expressions and depictions of the human body. Ancient pornography. once came
in the form of paintings and drawings, literature, carvings. Now pornography comes in the
form of photographs, films, live sex shows, literally. Internet
pornography is now the dominant avenue. in which it's consumed
through personal computer, tablet, cell phone. Now you can subscribe
and have very particular people, internet sites that will send
new content to you unsolicited for a fee and by the same token
you can sign to be treated to very specific people, even celebrities
who do pornographic shows for a very limited audience for a
fee. This has become a new thing. Some students were informing
me about this today, as a matter of fact, where there's big money
to be made for such sorts of persons. If you have a million
subscribers, and you charge 50 cents or a buck, there's a million
bucks. Bam. One of the most troublesome
features of pornography, as some authors have noted, is not that
it reveals too much, but of course it does. But it's talking about
one of the most troublesome features, is that it reveals too little.
All it reveals are objectified bodies, body parts for sexual
arousal rather than God's image bearer, rather than a person's
heart, mind, soul, spirit, rather than love, commitment, embrace,
intimacy, communion. None of that. It incites lust,
not love. It arouses lust. but doesn't
satisfy. It objectifies persons and reduces
them to sexual playthings in both directions, by the way,
male toward females and males toward males, females toward
females, et cetera, et cetera. It also sells a fantasy world
of sexuality that is just that, fantasy. I remember seeing a
TV show late back from the 80s and a character on the TV show,
her husband was a consumer of pornography and she was upset
and reviewing him because he wanted her to be like that. And she rightly said, but those
are fake women behaving in a fake manner. Yeah, a fantasy indeed. The persons performing in pornographic
media are acting, to be sure. Women are reduced to sex-starved
sex machines that enjoy being disrespected, brutalized, becoming
the sex object for any sex organ, performing most any possible
sex act. Men are reduced to sex stars,
sex machines as well, who live for that one singular purpose,
to be satiated by any and every possible sexual activity. In
pornography's devolution, the sinking corruption of the human
soul, that next sexual high is to go lower, thus the descent
into child porn, incest, rape, bestiality, a descent lower and
lower. And all of that literally is
clicks away from your cell phone or laptop. That's our world today. It's a global world like that
today. The church has mostly turned
aside, looked down at their feet. You know, you'd like to do one
of those comments where the names have been changed to protect
the innocent, but some years back I, through a colleague,
was told about, a porn stopper site, you know, that you can
put in on your computer so that pornographic content may not
come on. So I asked him a little more
about it. And I thought, well, this might be helpful to advertise
and put in the address and so forth. So I went to the elders
and the pastor and told them about that. And they agreed. But this is how they put it in
the bulletin. Not we, the consistory session, have made the decision
to help facilitate sexual purity in our church. I recommend that
you have porn-stopping software on your computer. And here's
one such thing. Instead, it was put this way.
Dr. Beach says. It was very stark, I thought.
Oh, we don't care about fool. We've never been tempted in our
life, perhaps Dr. Beach has, so he's offering some
helpful advice for the rest of us. This desire not to embrace
something that is startling in the statistics and the facts
that can be known about it, And I know, I have no doubt there's
people in this room who have no clue about and have not ever
witnessed such content. I also am quite convinced there's
people in this room who've witnessed exactly what I've talked about.
And certainly there's those listening by way of internet who likewise
know what I'm talking about. So it shows too little. It doesn't show a world in which
there's love and commitment and celebration and vulnerability
and self-discovery and mutual discovery and growing together
sexually in union. None of that. It's use her, use
him, perform for her, perform for him. A new high means to
go lower. So why pornography? Well, I suppose there's always
been pornography. Before I was ever exposed, well
I wouldn't say ever exposed to pornography, but I can remember
in public high school, crass boys drawing their own pornography. I worked in a grocery store in
which craft boys used potatoes to sculpted their own pornography,
rather raw at that. And once again, where does that
come from? From the human heart, from us. It's not a sin that's
out there. It's a sin like most sin that
starts in here. And we're all damaged sexually,
pretty much all. And some of that damage is toward
perversity and multiple, the desires for multiple scenarios
and others. We're damaged because we don't
really believe it's a wonderful gift of God. We don't believe
God invented it. It is shameful. It is to be denied
and repressed. And the devil's winning both
directions with that. So why pornography? Why is it legal? Why does it
remain legal in Western society? The biblical answer is it's a
reflection and result of human depravity. I don't mean that
in a superficial sense. I mean it in the depths of what
we are. We like to sin. We're bent and tilted to it. It becomes natural for those
who cast off the natural. The legal answer, and this isn't
by statistics, this is a theological professor's opinion based on
his knowledge of the human heart. The legal answer for pornography
is that it represents a form of free speech. That's the way
it's defended. It's free speech. It's free expression. But truth be told, and this is
my personal opinion, the legal answer is but the outcome of
human depravity having its way. For in brief, much of the male
population, including the white-collar judges, lawyers, and politicians
have a porn habit, and they want to indulge in some pornography. They don't want it to go away. Porn is here to stay because
much of the male population enjoys it, or at least think they do. And more recently, with the rise
of internet pornography, an increasing percentage of women and girls
are becoming regular users of it as well. This is what's happening. The trends aren't, it's not improving. It's not a high and then, well,
now it's sort of, It's not a wave that lapped under the shore and
has now receded and isn't going to come back. And that's not
what's happening. Now, part of the argument that
goes with this is, what's the harm? It's a person's private
business. I think most of us have heard
these sorts of comments. How does it harm individuals
or families or society at large? In fact, it's argued, it's healthy.
It helps free people from their sexual inhibitions. Some have
even said it's public sex education. The statistics are unsettling,
but while many churches and sessions and consistories act innocent
in regard to pornography, because the church is just much too pure
to fall into such a scandalous sort of sin and sinning, the
facts say otherwise. I have a little footnote there. Some 90% of American children
between the ages of 8 and 16, and I know that's a pretty wide
range, but have been exposed to it. Long before internet pornography,
I was exposed to it simply because it was thrown in the trash and
trash cans fall over. And boys walking through alleys
see stuff. I didn't go seek it, but it was
found. Others bring it to school. There's
different sorts of mechanical shops and things like that where
posters were put up. It wasn't your choice, but it's
plastered right in front of you, okay, of a more mild sort. But
it wasn't long before more raw stuff is passed around or shown,
giggling, teenagers in a corner or something. According to the
statistics, there's over 1 billion online pornography sites. Billions. According to a 2016 Varna study,
the majority of pastors, some 54%, have reported being former
or current users of it. And what of all the statistics
that bothered me more than others is that many practicing Christians
report feeling no guilt about that if they said many practicing
Christians felt guilt about it and struggled to be rid of it
and don't, they're not very successful, that I could have believed and
understood. What I had a hard time is to
feel no guilt about it. That shocked me. and still does. About two-thirds, but there are
many, and pastorally I've confronted this. I haven't been in the pastorate
for some time, but I've even dealt with students from time
to time in which they know deep shame and misery from this and
want liberation and freedom from it. About two-thirds of Christian
men view pornography at least monthly. What? Yes, that's the
statistics, which isn't very different than non-Christian.
So it doesn't mean all men are watching pornography, but a lot
of them. And it doesn't mean they're all
indulging in it with a smile on their face, but they're falling
into this sin that is so readily there and easily made private,
undetected by others. So for the many who say they
feel no guilt, there are many, too, that feel immense guilt
and struggle. None of this is very edifying
to hear about, is it? Putting this together is like,
I want a new topic next week because I'm not enjoying this
one at all, neither of them. It's unedifying for a pastor
to focus too much attention to the poor porn problem in our
midst. And it's not exactly helpful
for children to be always hearing about this. And I've known parishioners
who've suspected their own pastor of having a porn problem because
he talks about pornography from the pulpit too much. And I wonder about him. Well,
I guess you can wonder. But you ought to be wondering
about everybody if you're going to start wondering. You know,
men are a little wired a bit differently than women. And one
of the marriage books I have is, men have sexual thoughts. How many times a day? 20, 30.
What the why? You think you know us. You don't
know us at all. But that's true of many men.
They think very sexually. So it's not edifying to overdo
it, but it's also not helpful to act like ostriches head in
the sand because we're too ashamed to admit our own churches are
seeding with lust. And it doesn't take internet
pornography. It can help feed lust, fuel lust,
reduce women to sex objects. And the same women can look at
men this way. But internet pornography can
degrade us so that it then becomes rather easy to look at any female,
even as she walks the aisle in church to come to worship. and
look and evaluate her sexually constantly and fantasize accordingly. It's so easily a sin practice
in the privacy of your own heart. Now interestingly, the Presidential
Commission on Pornography, appointed way back in 1967, when you were young and spry
and strong, and when you didn't exist. Basically gave pornography
a clean bill of health as having no social negative repercussions
on society. But that study was refuted virtually
on every conclusion it reached. by the Attorney General's 1986
Commission on Pornography. If some of you were listeners
of Dr. James Dobson back then, you probably
remember that he served on that latter commission and reported
all kinds of scandalous things. And some of the things he talked
about aren't fit to talk about here. Like all political debates,
however, public debates on morals, on morality, wallows in a quagmire
of opinion and so-called scientific findings, or that's your opinion,
or that's your religious view. You can't impose your view on
us. Well, somebody's view is being
imposed on everyone else. I mean, that's inevitable. So
what about some scriptural perspective on this? When you start to evaluate
something like pornography biblically, what do you find? We turn to
what scripture, well, although the Bible doesn't address pornography
directly, it does address lust, sexual immorality, violence,
racism, abusive or exploitive attitudes and actions. It also
talks about things like modesty. Whatever else you want to say
about pornography, it's not modest. Pornography fosters all such
behaviors, sexual immorality, lust, racism, because pornography
often uses all sorts of racist stereotypes in the way it depicts
things, persons of different races. First, we know that lusting
in our heart is mental adultery. Jesus teaches us that. We're
told to make no provision for the flesh, and yet that's exactly
what pornography's up to. Provide, provide, provide. in sight, something pornography
is quite deliberate about. Believers are exhorted not to
walk in the way of immorality, impurity, coarse joking, or filthiness. None of this fits the way of
faith, Paul tells us. And certainly, pornography then
falls under that same sanction. By contrast, we're urged to dwell
on what is noble. What is just? What is pure? What
is lovely? What is excellent? What's of
good repute and praiseworthy? Think about that. Well, pornography
is none of those things. In other words, people find themselves
dwelling on the very opposite of what we're urged to dwell
on. Its pornography is dastardly,
it's debased, debauched, impure, shameful, disgraceful, and leaves
minds in the gutter. Women are reduced to sexual objects
for sexual exploits. It leaves the minds of its consumers
choked with poisonous sexual imagery, with a sensual idolatry
etched in the mind. Now when you view something like
that, it sticks. It's in there. And it's not easily
taken out of your head. It leaves the minds of its consumers
choked with this sexual imagery. In this way, pornography inhibits
or inhabits, excuse me, inhabits the mind long after a given visual
display is over. Thus, or this in turn, feeds
a sex-saturated heart, feeds a sex-saturated society, as it
just gains this momentum and takes on a life of its own. And
all of this is the opposite. Whether you're participating
as an actor and producer and director and wonder of pornography
or you're a consumer of it. What's true about all of it is
you're not loving your neighbors yourself. It's also true about
all of it as a consumer or otherwise is you're supporting and giving
your money and time and attention to prostitution of a type. That's what it is. I would never
visit a prostitute, but yeah, you actually do. And most women
who are prostitutes, there's exceptions, but most are forced
into it, are abused into it, are sexually broken and fall
into it, have been abused by other sorts of persons. There
are brazen people who are simply in it for the money, didn't have
to do this, they chose to do it. Yes, there's that too. But
even those people, there's often sexual brokenness in their background. If you hunt back further, they've
been abused so that they deviate in this way. Again, this is all
very opposite of loving your neighbor as yourself. What would
you want for your neighbor? So why are you helping this neighbor? Why are you promoting and becoming
part of this destruction, this brokenness? You're not looking
for your neighbor's welfare at this point. And it also involves,
I'll put it strongly here, a taking off of Christ and pursuing waywardness
rather than a putting on of Christ and pursuing righteousness. That's what it is. So the scripture
is clear. Sexual desire is permitted and
natural, but it must be directed toward one's spouse alone. Pornography,
though, works in opposition to that, in opposition to a passage
like 1 Corinthians 7. That's the passage where husband
and wife may rightly expect conjugal rights from one another. and
are not to deprive one another, none of this using sex to punish
him or her. No, no, no, no, no. Your body's
not your own. It belongs to the other. And
if you do deprive one another, it's by mutual agreement and
for a set purpose. That's the biblical depiction
there. Pornography, though, given that
it's mostly accompanied by masturbation, involves isolated sex versus
a communion between partners. It all too easily involves depriving
the victim's spouse of sexual affection, being replaced by
a fantasy on the screen, or it's used in a manipulative way to
guilt the victim partner, usually the wife, into becoming more
like the fantasy is found in the imagery of pornography, to
do or perform or act like the women in porn do or perform or
act like. Hebrews 14.4 informs us that
marriage is honorable among all and the marriage bed is to remain
undefiled. But pornography defiles it very
deliberately. In fact, it talks about God's
judgment does come upon adulterers and fornicators. We have a whole
culture saturated in this and we keep flaunting our sin in
God's face and, Lord, we should flourish as a nation. I mean, we're testing God, literally. We will deny you, sin against
you, spurn you. We'll give you the colossal,
forget you. But bless us. I mean, who are we trying to
kid? Pornography doesn't honor marriage. Do you want to honor
marriage? Pornography doesn't. Pornography
is wholly disinterested in sex between a husband and a wife,
unless a third party is brought into the situation, a daughter,
a stepdaughter, a sister-in-law, a neighbor friend. That's what's
depicted in pornography. It feeds human perversity, evokes
deviant behaviors as normative, the naughtier, the better. The more scandalous, the more
exciting. The more corrupting and debauched
and novel, the more sexually creative and fulfilling. That's
the depiction. Perversity's pleasure by this
account. So in short form, pornography
takes the beauty and wonder of our sexuality, debases it, cheapens
it, poisons it, dishonors fidelity, It's not ever about that. Celebrates
sinful behavior and incites the same in the lives of all of its
consumers, whether one is a believer or unbeliever. Cultivates lust,
certainly that. And certainly adultery in the
heart cultivates that. tempts some to find casual sex
from internet sites, to go to Craigslist for little liaisons,
induces men to go to strip clubs to pay prostitutes, or turn to
other partners in the pursuit of sexual excitement. It also
debases our view of persons, Both men and women, but women
tend to be more the abused side of it. Darkens hearts and minds
and damages and brings disintegration of marriages and families. So
this is, I think, when you look at it from a biblical portrait,
what we find happening. And it's happening every day,
24-7, non-stop. All sorts of children have innocently,
being on the computer, come across it. All sorts of people, simply
because they're pursuing, who is that exactly? Who hasn't photoed? There was a photo of something,
and then a few more photos, and now suddenly a pornographic photo. pops up. You didn't go looking
for it, but there it is. And that's by design, it's on
purpose. So what is a TARM? Well, It commodifies
people. People are flesh to be sold and
used. I've, through the years, done
a series, both of sermons and lectures and the like, on the
seven deadly sins from medieval fame. They're deadly not because
they're mortal sins, but because they're sins from which, out
of which, other sins easily blossom and flourish. And loss is among
them. One of the books of treating
the seven deadly sins had artistic interpretations of each sin.
So envy depicts, for example, this awful looking person eaten
with envy and anger, peeking through a keyhole, casting the
envious eye. But lust I found interesting.
What is it going to show? Something pornographic? Not at
all. It simply showed a person lying
down and another person standing in dominance on top of them,
over them. You are available to me. You are at my disposal. Commodifies people. I have dealt with women and men
have to be sensitive when sometimes women just feel like meat, like
a commodity for their pleasure. Pornographers prey on that. Runaways are exploited. Runaway children, girls are exploited
this way. Boys too. There is underground
child porn and the like. Women are forced into it by abusive
boyfriends. Women and girls trafficked from
poor nations. Other financially needy women.
Most of those who are the performers, as I mentioned earlier, have
been sexually abused. Much of the profits never finds
its way, and most of the actors and actresses who are part of
it. But pornographers get rich. There's a humiliation depiction. Women are often made to perform
acts, choking them, hitting them, gagging, many other acts not
fit to describe here. Online porn is designed to offer
free services that then hook you into paid services and to
make it a habitual, literally a habit. Psychologists have tracked
how it hyper-activates appetite systems, creates new maps within
the brains, makes us dopamine-like, that pleasure thing. And when you have something mapped,
you want to go back to it, and that kind of thing. So it's not
exactly reckoned as an addictive behavior. But most people who
deal with people trying to free themselves from sexual addiction
recognize it as such a kind of addiction. This sort of dirty
industry incites other dirty industries. And what does it
do when you introduce what woman can compete with all those? What
wife can compete with all those? None of them. Who can compete
with a fantasy? A man can't compete with the
fantasy world of pornography either. If a woman is incited
with this kind of lust and you have to be like this sexual,
a man of the sexual prowess and posture and physique, you're
a slob. Everyone's left diminished. Everyone's
left decrepit and ashamed. And it breaks fidelity. It breaks
trust. It breaks respect. and it's supporting
prostitution. Now, I'm gonna stop. There's particular harm given
to women, to children, poor children who come across this. Boys start
getting all twisted in what sex is, how it's to be expressed.
And the same can happen to girls. I have to make my boyfriend love
me. He has to accept me. He's telling
me to be like them. I have to be like them to be
counted. So it damages both ways. And
if you're struggling with it, I offer six little things. But this isn't a pastoral care
class. If it was pastoral care, then
my approach would be different. This is ethics. And you're making
a moral evaluation based, grounded on a biblical set of principles,
a worldview grounded in that we're ordered and created and
designed a certain way for a certain purpose. But we live in a culture
in which all of those givens are misdirected back to structure
and direction. The structure of our sexuality
is good, but now it's pointed and directed in ways contrary
to God's will for us. And sin always bears its consequences,
its misery. I'll allow a couple of questions
and then we'll take a break. Yes ma'am. that they wish they could unsee
what they see in their own home, you know, from a pornography Exactly. I don't have the statistics,
but anecdotally, I've known many such occasions where Dad has
his stash. Even before internet pornography,
he had his little collection of movies. A child inevitably
discovers it, inevitably out of curiosity views it, invites
neighbor kids to view it, and you're innocently raising your
children well, but it's not, you know, they get exposed nonetheless. I get exposed simply being a
boy walking down an alley, you know. And as you say, there's those
who are rather brazen about it. I've known homes where men view
pornography brazenly, publicly, in view of their family. I've
known of college students who did the same. And now they're
just getting all hardwired into, and then if you're raised in
that, amidst that, now what? I would think that a young boy
would be raised with a devaluation for his mother and other women. Right? I mean, he might conclude
his father is broken and perverted, and I don't want to be like him.
But it's just as likely that, like many behaviors, what's modeled
to us, then we in turn perform. So yeah. How many? I'm going to start
with the little secret stash thing. always get discovered one way
or another. But that doesn't mean you're
discovered as the stasher. It's not like the kids run and
tell mom, we found a dirty magazine in the wood pile. But it is found nonetheless. Any other questions? Sobering, isn't it? Not a happy
topic. You have to pray for our nation
that this is such a given in our culture. It's so much part
of the warp and wolf of what's normal Americana. And it's not
just America, the whole western world and beyond. It doesn't
bode well for the human predicament. Let's take a brief break, 10
minutes. We'll come back at 35 after the
hour. And we'll treat another topic. sexual issues. All right. I'll invite you to take your
seats. And we'll commence with our fourth session, which is
the second in our second evening class. And this one will deal
with transgender issues. I want to preface my remarks
here. First, that I'm no expert in
this area, either theologically or scientifically. or something
in between that. This is scratching the surface
of this topic. It's a sketch, so it needs to
be heard and understood accordingly. It's a sketch about an issue. In other words, we haven't dug
deep down into all the things. Once again, this is not a a pastoral
care approach to this question. It's an ethical approach. These
can coincide and interface with each other, of course, and I
do have some pastoral comments I make along the way. But I'm
mostly trying to sort this out and then look at it from a reform
biblical sort of perspective and offer some assessment about
it. And in making an assessment,
I'm not trying to disrespect anyone or grind anyone into the
dirt or disregard them or anything like that. So that needs to simply
be put out there. Now transgender, so this is a
question about particularly transgenderism. It's a rather recent trend following
in the wake of homosexual activism and the wider social shift regarding
homosexuality. We might say embrace and acceptance
of it. What is now branded as the LGTB. LGBTQ+, lesbian, gay, trans,
bi, queer, questioning, and other stuff you add on to it, has become
normative within large segments of society, especially in the
academic world, the corporate American world, large swaths
of liberal political and media world. So what does it mean to
be transgender? Well, one definition I came across
offers it this way. Transgender is an umbrella term
for people whose gender identity differs from what is typically
associated with the sex they were assigned at birth. It is
sometimes abbreviated to trans. Transsexual refers to persons
who experience a gender identity inconsistent or not culturally
associated with the sex they were assigned at birth. That's
all rather abstract. Another term that needs definition
is that of gender dysphoria, which refers to the distress
a person experiences whose gender identity differs from their biological
sex. You might have male sex organs,
but you feel in your soul, your heart, your desires, perhaps
you feel like a female. Yes? The term transsexual used to
mean somebody who had a sex change operation. Has the definition
changed over time? Yes. Well, yes, all kinds of
definitions have been shifting. And it's hard to stay abreast
on the way terms are used. But they view themselves as transitioning
sexually somewhere else. Another term, gender dysphoria,
is this distress that people feel they have a gender identity
different from their biological sex. Gender identity has reference
to a person's internal sense of being male or female, or nowadays,
back to this fluidity, other. I'm not one or the other, but
other. Or I'm some of this, sometimes
some of that. Sex refers to biological sexual
organs, physical, biological, hormonal, anatomical characteristics. In this connection, we also know
that some people suffer with disorders of sexual development. And this is referred to now as
intersex, historically to persons who were hermaphrodites. Maybe
I didn't say that exactly right. Denoting a congenital condition
in which the development of a person's chromosomal, godinal, internal,
and or external anatomical sex is atypical. I remember seeing
a show, it was sort of like a 60 Minutes or one of those kind
of shows about a girl. who by the time she was around
eight or nine, I mean, all the pictures of her, she looked very
boyish as a girl, to speak in that way. She looked tomboyish. She looked boy, but they thought
she was a girl. But at a certain point in her
development, Her sexual anatomy, basically
testicles, penis, emerged, dropped from what heretofore had looked
female. So in fact, all along, she had
been a he. She always felt like a he, carried
herself like a he. I told her parents that she thought
of herself as a boy, but she looked physically like a girl
until this happened. And there's other versions of
this, and it can be the other way too, but there's that. That's, in one sense, that can
be a case in which there's gender dysphoria. What's happening with
me? From the above, we see that sex
and gender, given the new trend about transgenderism, sex and
gender are viewed as distinct, such that persons can take on
roles and identity of a sex different from their biological sex. Gender
has reference to roles. This is how it's defined now.
What is gender? Well, it's defined as referring
to roles and a sense of identity. A sense of identity is subjective,
not biological. Gender also has reference to
culturally defined roles, behaviors, expressions, which often are
labeled as masculine or feminine. And in that light, without those
kind of definitions, gender non-conforming persons refuse to act or identify
according to those labels. You might say that this is what
a masculine gender is like, but I don't accept that. Other terms
used are queer. That term doesn't mean what it
meant when I was a boy growing up. as a way of simply saying
you're a homosexual person, you're a queer. That term has now been
re-owned, re-appropriated to refer to people, this is what
I am. And it doesn't mean I'm a homosexual
as such. It can mean I'm questioning.
I'm in a state of fluidity, a state of deciding. It can be even non-binary. You're not male or female. What? But yeah, that's part of
this big equation and trend of thought. Some persons who are
transgender have transitioned or are transitioning having undergone
or are undergoing medical treatments such as hormone therapy and sex
reassignment surgeries to bring their bodies into alignment with
the gender with which they identify. I again remember seeing a show
back some 20 years ago, perhaps, in which a male and female, a
husband and wife, each flip-flopped. So the wife became the man, the
man became the wife. They each had sexual reassignment
surgeries and the like. and stayed together with this
switch of not only gender identity, but the biological sex changes
to accommodate that. Others make only a social transition. They make non-medical changes
in their person, their clothing, their name, their personal pronouns,
and the like, in order to live in alignment with this gender
identity. So those are some basic definitions. Increasingly, though rare, although
I heard on the news today some town in the Chicagoland area
elected transgender mayor or something. I didn't quite catch
it. But some of us, you know, maybe it's a barista at Starbucks
or a waitress or waiter somewhere, meet people who count themselves
as transgender. And certainly on college campuses,
you would find a much higher percentage in that sort of setting. Key to this debate is the question
whether sex and gender are distinct from one another. Beginning in
the 60s, and over time, this distinction became normative
in the field of psychology. So if you're asking, does the
psychological sciences recognize this as a legitimate thing, yes. I mean, it gives credence. It endorses this. at least for
the most part. From a biblical point of view,
believers are placed in an awkward position in counting as normative
what seems to be prima facie disordered or malfunctioning
or not normative. Yet human language has now been
turned on its head, at least in my opinion, as terms like
natural or normative and the like. If used one way, well,
that's not natural, or that is natural. That's normative. This
is what's normative. If used one way, it's branded
as oppressive speech, or phobic, or sexist, or bigoted. But if
used as descriptors of freedom to decide what's natural or normative,
then those words apply. They have wholesome import. That's
what I mean by language. being kind of turned around.
With the concept of gender fluidity and the like, humans are to be
viewed as a mix and match assemblage of parts. In other words, you
know, and it was like the potato head. It was always Mr. Potato
Head, and there was Mrs. Potato Head, and now there's
just Potato Head, right? At least I heard that on the
news or something. I personally don't own a potato head, but
as a child you don't need a potato head to play with potatoes. All
you have to do is have your mom mash them up and then play with
them. but a mix and match assemblage.
That is, physical sexual biology is one thing. Gender identities
across ranges, another thing. Sexual desires across ranges,
another thing. Some may opt for internal coherence
to match physical biology and sexual preference. So let's say
you feel like a woman, but you're a man, but you want to become
a woman and you have sexual desires toward women. That would be your
sexual preference. Or it could be toward a man. The idea, though, is to have
internal coherence. Others reject the idea of internal
coherence. That's oppressive to have internal. That's Neanderthal to have internal
coherence. Now, in assessing this, Now again, I'm a beginner really
in this area, so I don't pretend to be expert at it. I haven't
taught it in ethics courses before because on the most part it was
so on the periphery and you have so little time in an ethics course
to cover all sorts of different topics. They can just read about
that on their own. But now it's become more in public
purview and is normative. And I think as I started reflecting
on it, It really grounds, it really
illustrates how things ground down into worldviews, a basic
perspective on reality, what gives us authority, what gives
us meaning, how we view ourselves within a world and a cosmos. And so ethical issues are shaped
by worldviews. A definition of worldview I didn't
offer last time, but this might be helpful, is a commitment,
a fundamental orientation of the heart that can be expressed
as a story, or in a set of presuppositions, assumptions, which may be true,
or partially true, or entirely false. A worldview doesn't necessarily
mean the view you have is right. but it's the view you have. And
these presuppositions which we hold, and we can hold them consciously,
subconsciously, we can hold them consistently or inconsistently,
But we hold these beliefs about the basic constitution of reality,
and that provides the foundation on which we live and move and
have our being, by which we think and decide things and evaluate
things. C.S. Lewis noted the Christian
and the materialist. A materialist is a secular kind
of worldview. All there is is physical stuff,
and that's all we are, chemicals of stuff. The Christian and the
materialist hold different beliefs about the universe. They can't
both be right. The one who is wrong will act
in a way which simply doesn't fit the real universe. They could both be wrong, but
they can't both be right. Christians, of course, believe
that they're right about the world, the universe, the moral
universe God has put in place. Secularists, sometimes called
humanists, materialists, atheists of different stripes believe
they are right. In addressing this issue, we
need to recognize that we interact with a rival worldview to that
of Christianity. So if you're saying, Toto, we're
not in Kansas anymore. And well, that's because you're
not. You're operating in a world that's
not operative for you, but operative out there. And you say, well,
wow, this is way different. That's right. It's the worldview
of secularism. There's no God. There's no law
giver. There's no moral standard except
what we construct for ourselves. There's no right and wrong, again,
except what we collectively decide for now to call such. And that's
very fluid, by the way. And there's no heaven, there's
no hell, there's no afterlife, there's only this life now. As
such, there are no consequences beyond immediate gratification
for self or the selves that embrace yourself. And you live for that. Of course, there are many rival
worldviews to the Christian faith, but everyone has one. Everyone
has a way of making sense of life and living it. Even someone
who's pure hedonist. Drink tomorrow, be merry tomorrow,
you die. Well, OK. There's your values. Live for fun. Live for the maximizing
of pleasure. Live selfishly. But live, man. And all sorts of teenagers live
like that, right? What are you doing with your
life? I don't know, man, but I'm having fun now. What are you up to? What's your
goals? Man, this is the beavis and butthead
version of life again, as depicted in the cartoon. Someone else can, say, have a
more sophisticated version of the same thing. It's just like,
man, I live to make money and have fun and take trips and do
exotic things and buy stuff and experience what there is to experience
out there to the max. It's much more sophisticated
than Beavis and Butthead, but it's the same basic world view.
Let's see. Worldviews then shape and account
for authority, what counts, who tells you what to do and why,
what you know and how you know it, who knows what's right and
what's best, and also trustworthiness, who loves us and wants the best
for us. So you can take a pure secular
sort of person who can have all kinds of morals and values grounded
in what? Not in a sturdy foundation, but
a collective agreement. You know, a collective agreement
of Jews are bad. We should get rid of them in
our society. Yeah. And, oh, we can't deport
them, I guess we'll have to kill them. A collective agreement. People that have wealth and own
stuff are bad. We have a collective agreement
that they should be reprogrammed and punished, sent to gulags,
and retaught values in life. And if they won't be retaught,
we'll execute them and be rid of them. So fascism and forms
of communism have done that. But it's all fluid, right? You
can shift. And well, now, these sort of
sexual expressions are bad. But now you come together and
say, no, it's good. So I was recently in the Midway
Airport this fall, traveling and sitting there at the bar
and having something to drink, waiting for my flight. And there
was various people. And there was a person who had
a big white jacket on, self-made, registered nothing to me. Had
a purse. Okay, someone you would identify
as probably gay or something. Okay, fine, whatever. I noticed
certain people were very friendly toward him. and deliberately
would come to him and strike up conversations. An old dog
like me, and no one wants to talk to it. People wanted to
talk to this fellow. I'm observing this. After a while, he looks my way
and holds up his drink and gives me a smile and goes like that.
So I go, hi. I'll be friendly, whatever. But
then I notice right behind me someone else. And that's who
he's. Because this person, had I saw
him being self-made and so on, and had bought him a drink, And I admit, I mean, I was confused
by this. And then the guy behind me says,
well, the more the merrier or something. Because I said, oh,
that was for you. And he didn't buy me a drink. Anyway. I mean, I was quite confused
by it. I was thinking, OK, this guy's
evidently gay and fine and has a lot of bling and all that.
But it was only, to be perfectly honest, in putting notes together
like this that I realized what was being celebrated now. That identity self-made, see? It was transgenderism that was
being celebrated. He was out there publicly letting,
you know, an advertisement I am this different person. And regular, they mostly look
like 30-something, 20, 30-something, with a long beard, wearing very
nice clothes, but dressed casual. In other words, well-to-do Chicagoites. Here's to you, man. You're the
best. That's what was happening. I
see it now, totally. But at the time, I was too naive,
and I was just like, what is this? There's a cultural shift
going on here. I'm out of the loop. Because
I was. I see it now. Well, when you
look at the worldview of secularism, you see that it prizes science,
but truth is fluid. Even scientific truth, because
scientific truth is always changing. Natural order, even so-called
natural law, or the laws of nature, is all a matter of interpretation.
Morality is a choice, not an objective state of affairs. See,
for Christians, this is all just really difficult to put together.
Morality consists of feelings and preferences, like, ouch, That's morality. What you feel
that feels bad to you, it's bad. And it feels good to you, it's
bad. That's morality. That's its definition, your preferences. In keeping with this, life is
split into public and private. The private sector is viewed
as those places where religious beliefs and the morality derived
from them comes from. Keep it private, keep it subjective,
keep it personal, and keep it out of the public square. The
public sector looks to scientific authority and the sanctions of
that. It forms values for the public
square. It's called objective and valid
for everyone. It's incontestable. And you're
contemptible if you challenge what's incontestable. Because
this is how the universe works. So to speak of values here is
only to say that science supports a kind of fluid, evolving set
of opinions about humans, how humans should behave to one another. And right now, it supports buying
drinks to someone who's self-identified as self-made. But not the poor
old guy who's sitting there minding his own business. In order to
understand this secularist materialist worldview, we need to understand
that this view splits apart facts and values. This is key. This means that there is finally
no objective truth out there, facts. We only have ourselves
creating our own values as we see fit. Now Christianity denies
this split. Theological biblical facts are
inseparably related then to moral values. If one denies the facts,
if one denies the giver of facts, God, then one also denies the
connection between facts and values. Friedrich Nietzsche's
program, in part, was to declare God dead, along with the Judeo-Christian
values grounded on him, in order to transvalue to a world of our
own making. He thought we could get to a
better world of our own. But over a century ago, he was
on to this. And ideas, over time, gained
momentum. And this is where we're at. There
is no God. We must make our own values.
So when you get to this debate, you don't feel that way. Yes, I do. No, you don't. You
shouldn't. But I feel that that's fruitless. Because underneath
it all is a whole perspective of looking at life that's different. You do better to say, you interpret
the world from this perspective. I interpret the world. I'm grounded
in this. You're grounded in that. And
of course, then the lens by which we view all this stuff is not
the same. It also brings then, as we noted
last time, too many Christians split life into secular and sacred,
and then the secular is given to the devil. And this is played
out, at least in parts of the Christian world, in which we'll
pray for our children, but the unbelievers can educate them.
And we'll prepare them to die in Jesus, but the world can have
Adam, to learn how to work and live and have fun and play golf. You split life up so Jesus becomes
this sort of Sunday savior. And we're left to be sitting
ducks in a culture in which we've embraced it as belonging to Jesus
when everything about it is against the Christ. And we suddenly wake
up one day and say, what's wrong? Well, there's a lot wrong, and
it's been wrong for a long time. So this is why I attack this
dualism that has left Jesus on the church porch of our lives. Redemption is mostly escape from
this world. But the world we're escaping
from is under sin, but it's his. He made it, not the devil. You
have to be very careful how you think about these things. So
in reference to the question of transgenderism, scripture
doesn't endorse the notion of self-identity or being self-made,
not at least respect to human sexuality, in contrast to the
current blending of genders or transforming or transitioning
from one identity to another or seeking internal coherence
or rejecting that idea. are opting for one preference
of sexuality versus another. Scripture lays out principles
that present a different account of what ails us as humans, even
an account why we experience, at least some people, gender
dysphoria or associated feelings, conflicting desires, yearnings. Well, to see how that works,
and again, what does the Bible show us in this regard? Well,
here, I want to make clear again, I'm not trying to disrespect
anyone, including the gentleman I was referring to with the jacket,
self-made. Again, I thought he was offering
cheers to me. I wanted to be polite and kind
and love such a person in my capacity and so forth, not denigrate
or or be disrespectful or jaded
or anything. So we're called to respect persons.
And we're called to be compassionate and sensitive to human beings
and their suffering from their own sins and misery and the sin
and misery that afflicts us all. The Bible tells us we're fellow
sinners. There's always a we self. among sinners. I think the church
needs to relearn this. There's a huge distinction between
church and world, but there's also this unity that we're all
in this together, to use a COVID thing. We're all in this together,
but we really are in the condition of sin and needing grace and
forgiveness and help and rescue together. Christians have to stop being
so conceited. toward unbelievers. It's our
big, it's our congenital flaw. Unbelievers smell it on us. We're
conceited and that's unattractive. I've seen beautiful women who
are conceited and you're gross. You're icky. You're conceited. You're snobby. Christians aren't
attractive when they're snobby. I'm better than you, and I know
it, and you should too, and God hates you, and so do I. I mean,
even Robert Shuler at least did us all the, God loves you, and
so do I. But some Protestants were, God
hates you, and so do we. It's awful. So we need to learn
something about ourselves. We all need liberation, deliverance,
grace in spades. But because God loves us to heal
us, save us, forgive us, transform us, I use that word very deliberately,
We're all under transformation. He's not going to stop halfway.
Now, in this life, some people experience deep and radical transformation
of what's broken in them. Other people experience, frankly,
meager and faltering transformation of what ails and wounds them. simply true. But forgiveness
in God's grace is always deep and radical, just as it's persistent
and patient and finally infallible and irresistible. Scripture,
and a worldview informed by it, offers different diagnoses and
remedies to the issues surrounding gender dysphoria and transgenderism
Because no matter how much modern advocates want to erase differences
between men and women, biology refuses a radical erasure. You know, the new controversy
is those who have gender identify as males who identify as female. Now I get to play on the women's
sports team and all that kind of thing. Well, you're acting
against created order here, right? I mean, that from a Christian
perspective, this is an anti-creational. thing. You know, how does it
go? The average high school boys
soccer team can defeat the women Olympian soccer team in a game
because of the physicality differences. and its physicality differences. Women can defeat any group of
men. And I won't say it because I'll
be labeled. But their patience can come through
in ways that are amazing to the weak male. The Bible is pro-body. pro-sex,
pro-male and female, pro-marriage, pro-love, pro-fidelity. It's for, it calls all these
things good, yet from a biblical Christian understanding, each
of these can be and are disordered, subject to corruption, can be
twisted, have been twisted, misdirected. And so what do we find? Well, from Genesis 1 and 2, A
Christian views what is God's blueprint, his plan for human
beings and human sexuality, and he created them male and female
in his image. He created them for mutuality,
for a suitable mate, fit, for An animal of some or any type
is not suitable or fitting. A woman from his side to be at
his side, companion, one bringing together image of godness in
the unity and community. of their diversity. Also a unity
of flesh which is reflective of image of godness. I don't
think historically we've done enough with as male and female
created he them as image of godness. Even within the trinity there's
a trinity of one to another of communion and perichoretic fellowship,
which is then reflected in our imaging God, this vowed love
community, this one flesh commitment. In other words, you're going
to approach what disorders people. Well, what orders people? Where
is something broken or twisted, misdirected? Well, to talk about
that, there has to be something that is a standard for order,
for direction. a compass. What's north? You need to get to Denver, you're
going to have to go west. But if there's nothing that orients
direction, you might end up in Florida. And you're not going
to have a very good ski vacation down in the Everglades. You've
got to get to Colorado. You need something that's going
to give direction. But if we are the ones who decide
what we are and define what we are, and God's not allowed to
define what we are, well then everything's fluid. There's no
up, down, left, right. And no wonder, of course it's
fluidity. Why not? Because there's nothing
that serves the standard except my feelings. Now, here I don't want to be
unshareable, but all of us have deviant feelings. And if you say you don't, then
you're just a liar. We all have thoughts we think
that shame us, including sexual thoughts. Some of us more than others,
I'll certainly readily admit that. But sometimes our corrupt
feelings can be that we don't think sex is a good idea and
it's disgusting. That's not biblical either. Or
it's just oriented and it's directed to the wrong thing. There's people
called pedophiles. So they have sexual desires for
children. That's disordered. Until a society
says, no, it isn't. And there's those already advocating
for no, it isn't. There's those who have a disordered
sexual desire to humiliate women by raping them. That's disordered. That's a standard. You're hurting
someone else. Well, until someone says, well,
not really. See, when there's nothing that
grounds morality, morality's preferences and feelings, especially
collectively so, then Jews are bad people. And former landowners
need to be in gulags. And people who disagree with
this are, or you know, who says a five-year-old can't consent?
Who says that eight-year-old girl can't enjoy it? In fact, who says that incest
is wrong? Who says that bestiality is inappropriate? In the history of humanity, it's
been happening. Who says? See, if there's no
standard, there's no lawgiver, and we decide together, OK, right
now, we've collectively, as a society from a secular materialist worldview,
have still said, well, no. Collectively, no. and tell collectively
yes. Someone could say I identify
with canines. No, I'm not trying to make light
of people. I'm just trying to say, grounded
in what? And there are those, and there's
pastoral issues, people, pastors who've dealt with parishioners
who've engaged in that kind of behavior. What? Yes. Are they supposed to identify
their gender identity according to their most deviant behavior
or feeling? In other words, all of us have
deviant compulsions, dispositions, desires. But there's another
part of us that says no to that, that says resist that, that says
be ashamed of that, that says repent of that, that says God
change me from that. Reorient my mind. Let me trust
you, and I ask for your help and blessing to orient me back. In other words, we live in a
culture in which whatever I feel has to be right. So can a little
boy have a disposition toward art and music and not sports
and hunting? Yeah. That doesn't make him feminine. That just makes them a boy who's
oriented. I have colleagues who are like
that. They're very mean. They're very masculine on one
level, but they're not chewers and spitters and mechanics and
they don't cuss and chew and dance with girls and do anything. They're not a brand of male. That some aspects of our society
calls masculine. But they're still male and oriented
to females for their wise and fidelity. And by the same token,
there's men who are hunters, hunters and fishermen, and lift
weights, and the kind of guy you want there with you in the
dark alley. Take care of him. Flex your muscles. There's that kind of male too
who doesn't want to play piano. or have to listen to a recital.
Please dear, no. There's that kind of male. And
the same with women. They don't have to all want to
sew and cook and crochet. They can do, you know, cool stuff
too. Hey, I said last time, I learned
to crochet. And I did latch hook rugs as
a teenage boy. And I have lost none of my masculinity. The point is, is what's disordered
needs a grounding to be called that. Without it, indeed, everything's
fluid, not just our gender identity. All kinds of behaviors that we
would call deviant now could just as well, well, this is how
I feel. So this is my identity, and I should accept myself that
way. And society doesn't accept it
yet, but it's acceptable. Well, no. No. God says what we are. God gave
us the bodies he gave us. There's those rare people that
can be sexually nondescript, eunuchs of sorts,
the rare cases. We can be disordered in the mind.
We can be born with various birth defects, emotional habits of
heart, and dispositions. But we don't take what is disordered
and call it ordered. So such people need love, they
need community, they need like what we all need, love, respect,
fellowship, friendship, and biblical truth. They need the Christ. They need God's definition of
what life is and what we are. And however we're disordered,
and we all are, to be reordered, to be remade, to be given new
minds, And it is indeed possible to be happy. And for some people,
their calling in life is to be chaste and solid. That's not
an impossible life. There's many who live exactly
that life more happily than living with that guy or her. We just live in a society that
says that's impossible. But that's not true. not according
to the Bible anyway. So I'll allow a question or two
and we'll call it to a close. Any questions? Well if you know such persons,
pray for them, befriend them, love them, And may the church
learn to have collective wisdom on these topics. Again, I'm a
beginner in this area, so it's the best I can offer you tonight.
Shall we pray together? Lord, we ask that you give us
a kind heart of humility, for we all need your love. Sin distorts,
misdirects, redirects our sexuality from your good design. And there's
many things that can factor into that, brokenness from childhood,
abuse from others, even physical things that can happen to us
or we're born with that can disorient us in this way. We ask for healing,
for love, for help, for wisdom, and bless what we've sought to
explore this evening. Give us safety in our homeward
way for Jesus' sake. Amen. Next week we hope to look at
different ways and models in which Christians can engage a
culture like ours today.
Some Ethical Questions Christians Face Today Session: Human Sexuality
Series 2021 Spring Evening Class
In his second evening class on Christian Ethics, Dr. Beach takes us through the tough subjects of pornography, marital dysfunction, transgenderism, and homosexuality.
| Sermon ID | 4921192448624 |
| Duration | 1:41:47 |
| Date | |
| Category | Teaching |
| Language | English |
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