Overcoming the hurdles of life, victory over unforgiveness. Let's just jump right in, Roman numeral one. Sometimes, and this is so true, we choose to ignore or deny our hurts, hiding them deep within our souls. Now, that happens sometimes to us. In fact, some men really do that more so often than women. We choose to ignore or deny our hurts, how we got hurt or how we got offended, hiding them deep within our souls. Resentment, ladies and gentlemen, can stay buried so long we actually many times forget that it's even there. No matter how we cope with it, this anger never disappears. They tell us in studies that it stays hidden for years, causing destruction beneath the surface. The truth is that unforgiveness, the truth is is that unforgiveness should have no place in the Christian life. The truth is that unforgiveness should have no place in the Christian life. The truth is unforgiveness should have no place in the Christian life. The truth is that unforgiveness should have no place in the Christian life. Now we can move on. That's the truth, amen? Shouldn't be a part of our lives at all. You know why? Because Jesus Christ gave his life to those who believe in him could be forgiven for all of our sins. And as His followers, I believe we are required to imitate Him. Go to Ephesians chapter 4, verse 32. His example, and be a kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God, for Christ's sake, hath forgiven you. When we refuse It gives Satan a foothold in our lives and keeps us from being the people that God declares us to be. Now I know I've had problems with this and so have you in your life, no doubt. How many of you have ever felt unforgiveness toward you? Can I see your hand? You have felt unforgiveness toward you, all right. How many of you have participated in not forgiving? Now, be honest, please. Thank you. You see, forgiveness, what does that word mean? I counsel with marriage situations, and this is a big thing I hit in marriage counseling. The very first session in marriage counseling, we talk about forgiveness. In fact, I give a definition of forgiveness. Forgiveness is defined as this. Giving up, look at the screen, giving up resentment towards someone and surrendering one's right to retaliate. Forgiveness is this. I'm going to give up resentment towards that person that I think should be leveled. Somebody ought to chop their head off. Quit being so nice this morning. Some of you act like you've, I've never felt like this in my whole life. Come on. We're people. And sometimes we do not want to forgive. And sometimes there are people who do not want to forgive us. Now here is the definition of forgiveness. You've got to get this. I had to learn this. And I have been trying my best to practice this for literally years. But I learned it a long time ago. Giving up resentment towards someone. Quit carrying that resentment towards someone or something or some church or some group of people. Don't do it. Give it up. Give up the resentment. And surrender your right to retaliate. Quit trying to retaliate. Leave it go. In fact, quit talking about it. Let go of it. Now, that's what forgiveness is. No matter what the other person did, that's forgiveness. Now let's put down a definition for unforgiveness. Jot it down, if you will, please. It's on the screen. A deliberate, willful refusal to give up resentment. No, I am not going to give up resentment. No, well, I forgive them, but I will never forget it. Ever been around people like that? You haven't forgiven them. Well, I'll tell you, preacher, if they did to you what they did to me, you wouldn't forgive them either. That's not so. You've got to learn how to give Biblical forgiveness. Unforgiveness, a deliberate willful refusal to give up resentment or an insistence that someone paid for a wrong that was committed. They did me wrong and they need to pay for it. You gotta give that up. Now we have definitions for forgiveness in front of you there and unforgiveness. willful refusal to give up resentment, or an insistence that someone pay for a wrong that was committed. Forgiveness can be difficult because we think wrongdoers shouldn't get away with their offenses. But when we accept Christ as our Savior, we surrender, now listen closely, when you got saved, you surrendered your right to take matters into your own hands. Do we understand salvation? When I got saved, I cannot now take matters into my own hands. As I am a child of God, I have been bought by His blood, I belong to Him. And I have to respond the way He would respond. Our only responsibility is to forgive and then let the Lord take care of the rest of it. You operate in forgiveness. Now, this morning I trust that perhaps at the altar service we'll have some folks who maybe are holding a grudge against somebody who will not forgive. And you're going to give that to God this morning at the altar service. You're going to say, well, preacher, I'm saved, born again, I know God, but I do have a little, hmm, towards somebody or I have a little, hmm, towards a business or a church or whatever. And I'm telling you this morning, we need to give that to God this morning. Roman numeral two. Now I do not have for you the bullets that I want to put underneath here, so you have to write them in. They will not be on the screen. The nature of unforgiveness. Let's talk about the nature of unforgiveness. There are many reasons why we shouldn't hold onto this negative emotion of unforgiveness. We should not hold onto this emotion. Now why? Well, number one, if you're going to take a note and jot it down, it doesn't fit our identity. It does not fit our identity in Christ. You see, ladies and gentlemen, since we have been forgiven of all of our sins, and by the way, how many sins have you been forgiven of? All. Did everybody say all? How many sins have you been forgiven of? Oh, that means all the past? Does that mean all the present? Does that mean all the future? Ooh. All of our sins, past, present, and future. You and I who have been saved and born again have literally been forgiven of all of our sins. That's a wonderful truth. Now, we shouldn't hold grudges then against somebody who has wronged us because we've been forgiven. It doesn't fit our identity. Number two, it plants a seed of bitterness. Go with me to Hebrews chapter 12 verse 15. It plants a seed of bitterness. A refusal to forgive is not, I want you to know, an isolated act. It can take root and cause heartache in our lives. Bitterness can cause a heartache in your life. And unforgiveness can cause a heartache in your life. It will take root and cause heartache. Hebrews chapter 12 verse 15 says, looking diligently, lest any man fail of the grace of God, lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled. You see, we mess around with unforgiveness and we will not forgive, and it messes up a lot of people all around us. Many will become defiled, according to scripture. The third thing, it becomes self-imposed bondage. Resentment, go to Matthew chapter 11, verse 28. Resentment is a burden that God never intended us to carry. Unforgiveness is a burden we should never carry. However, when we surrender that to Christ, he gives us rest. Why? How can I say that? Because the Bible says, come unto me, all ye that labor and are heavy laden, and what does God say? I will give you rest. I will give you rest. You come to me and lay it down, and I'll give you rest. This morning, you need to come because you're holding maybe a grudge or a bitterness or something against somebody. I cannot forgive them, preacher. I don't care. And I talk to my young couples when they are counseling about marriage, and I say, now, it's easy to have forgiveness with small things, but what about the big things in life? We still have to operate with forgiveness. And I always use this. I was going to shock some of you, but what happens? They're not even married yet. I said, what happens to you folks? If one of your partners are unfaithful and they want to come back and they say, I'm sorry. Now that's a big thing in life. Do you realize, ladies and gentlemen, that forgiveness that God teaches us is just as important in the big things in life as it is in the little things of life. I said every single one of you sitting here today in my office, you need to understand that no matter what that husband does or wife does after marriage, you must operate in forgiveness or you never will have a Christ-centered life. I'm telling my church this morning, you've got to operate in forgiveness. You cannot operate in unforgiveness. Well, I'm telling you, they just hurt me so bad. Preacher, I can't, I can't, I can't, I can't. You can't operate like that. You have got to offer forgiveness. Now, some of you are thinking right now, I can feel it. You're thinking about situations that you're going through or maybe you're going through now. Listen, before the service is over, I'm going to give you a chance to come and kneel before God and give that to God. You say, well, I can't forgive. I have a hard time. I'm embittered. No, give that to God this morning. Come unto me, all ye that labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Actually, it's a rebellion against God, the fourth little bullet in my notes. It's a rebellion against God. Unforgiveness is sinful because it is a refusal to do what our heavenly Father has asked us to do. He's asked us to forgive. And when we refuse, it's a sin against God. Next, it breaks fellowship with the Lord. Go to Matthew chapter 6 and verse 15. Jesus warned us something. He said, but if you forgive not men their trespasses, now watch, neither will your heavenly Father forgive your trespasses. Wow. Now that doesn't mean we lose our salvation, but we can't be right with God while we're holding on to resentment. You cannot be in full fellowship with God while you're holding on to resentment or bitterness or unforgiveness. It's very important. Number six, it causes us to have self-inflicted suffering. Holding onto a grudge causes more pain for us than it does our offenders. Holding a grudge, I can't forgive, causes you more pain than it does the person you're holding that grudge or unforgiveness against. It's going to tear down your body eventually. Number seven, it becomes a barrier. Those who blame others and refuse to surrender the bitterness that's poisoning them cannot progress in life or achieve the prosperity that God's blessing has in store for them because they're holding unforgiveness. Now, if there's something going on in your life and you can't be free and you can't seem to enjoy singing and you can't seem to enjoy the service and you can't seem to enjoy the Word of God, there might be something going on with an unforgiving spirit in your life. Some situation, some trouble, The best thing I've found is give it to God, ask for forgiveness, give it to God. If the folks don't forgive you, that's their problem, not yours. You get it settled by forgiving and saying, it's done. I'm finished. I'm over. I've asked for forgiveness. I was wrong. I shouldn't have done what I did. And I give it to God now. And if those people can't forgive you, that's them. That's not you. But don't you harbor unforgiveness. All right, so we've talked about two things. I said sometimes we choose to ignore or deny our hurts. We hide them deep within our souls. And then we talked about the nature of unforgiveness. Now let's talk about the third thing, the consequences. What are the consequences of unforgiveness? Because I think as we study and we look at the whole Bible, we need to know not only how to get over the hurdles of anxiety and so on, but we need to get over this hurdle of unforgiveness. And sometimes it's buried so deep that we don't even want to talk about it. And we don't want anybody to preach about it. I don't want to be reminded of how I did and how I felt. Preacher, no, no, no, no. You've got to dig it out. You've got to dig it out. Number three, what are the consequences? When Peter asked, go to Matthew chapter 18 verse 21 and 22. When Peter asked how many times he should forgive a brother who had sinned against him, what did Jesus reply? Then Peter came to him and said, Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me? Now notice, how often shall he sin against me? In other words, when he sins against you, he did you wrong. How many times could my brother do that and I forgive him? And then he proceeded to say seven times. It's not like a good number, seven is a number of perfection. Seven times, Peter thinking, ah, I said something pretty good. Jesus saith unto him, I say unto thee, until 70 times, wow, seven. Not seven times. Jesus saith unto him, I say unto thee, until seven times, but until 70 times seven. Quick mathematicians, 70 times seven is, 490! You mean every day I have to forgive somebody 490 times? That's a lot of times to forgive somebody in one day. Come on, amen? But I didn't say that, Peter didn't say that. Peter thought seven was a good number. Past seven, boy, you can thump him. Thought Peter was thinking. Huh? Come on. Hey, God, listen, seven times he's thinking, huh, I said a good answer. That's a good, that's a God's perfection. Seven times, right, God? Right, Jesus? No, I said probably 70 times seven. 490 times? You know what he's actually teaching us and saying to us? That there's not a limit on forgiveness. If we place a limit, now listen, here's what he's saying. Our willingness to forgive, our willingness to forgive should be boundless. Never should we say, no, I can't forgive. It should be boundless. In fact, if we place a limit on forgiveness, we will experience many unfortunate negative consequences as a result. Now what are those consequences? Let me give you eight of them real quick. I'll try to shoot them out real quick if you want to jot them down. A root of bitterness springs up. We talked about that in Hebrews 12, 15. That's one of the worst things. It's a root of bitterness that happens. Harbored resentment is not a secret attitude. It overflows from our hearts. Secondly, our prayer life suffers. Our petitions will be ineffective until we deal with our unforgiveness. Now, folks, you can try to hide it and bury it and say, oh, it's going to go away. And the longer it goes, the less I think about it, the better I am. No, it's still there till you give it to God. and it will affect your prayer life. You will not get the effective answers that you're looking for. Number three, our worship will be hindered. Your worship will be hindered. Resentment, bitterness, unforgiveness keeps us from genuinely praising the Lord because we cannot worship with a hypocritical heart. You see folks get kind of sideways with each other at church, and all of a sudden, they start missing church more, and it's easy for them not to be around. You know why? Because they're uncomfortable. because they have some bitterness with somebody. They have some unforgiveness in the church. They can't hardly stand to look at them. I mean, I've been to people and they said to me, pastor, but I can't sit in the same church with them. I say, well, my goodness, what's forgiveness all about? You should be able to forgive people and be able to worship with them. What are you going to do in heaven? We're all going to be there if we're saved. Be careful. Get forgiveness. Number four, our witness is damaged. We can't tell others about Christ's forgiveness when we're holding grudges ourselves. So your witness is messed up. How can you teach somebody how to be forgiving when you can't do it yourself? You can't do it. And eventually, it'll come out. It creates unresolved conflict. If we want to have Christ, peace and joy and so on, conflicts with others must be reconciled to the best of your ability. You've got to say, I'm sorry. I want to be forgiven. Next, it blocks spiritual growth. If we tolerate any type of sin in our lives, you and I will not grow in Christlikeness. Now, if you tolerate the sin of unforgiveness, and it is a sin, you cannot grow spiritually. Next, it hinders people around us. A bitter spirit can be passed on to others, especially children. That's why our teachers in the Christian school cannot hold bitterness, because it will reflect in that little classroom. That's why musicians can't hold bitterness. It'll reflect in the people they're working with. That's why in the office of the church you can't hold bitterness. It will reflect somewhere in the church. It'll affect the people around you. You've got to be forgiven, and you've got to offer forgiveness. Last, number eight, it affects us physically. Doctors tell us that bitterness and unforgiveness can take a toll on our bodies and cause illnesses. In fact, I think the Bible teaches us the same thing, that we suffer because we will not forgive. We become embittered. We become angry. and we suffer physically many, many ailments because of unforgiveness. Well, dealing with unforgiveness, let's look at number four. We looked at the nature, the consequences, now dealing with unforgiveness. How are we going to deal with it? In order to overcome resentment and bitterness and unforgiveness, we must, number one, I have 10 things here if you want to jot them down real quick. I'm not trying to take too long because I've got so many things I want to give you. I want to say a lot in a little time, so I'm doing my best. Number one, get this one please. Dealing with unforgiveness. Acknowledge it's serious business. One of the things I find out that most people who have really a hard time with unforgiveness, they don't make it serious. and stays down in there and becomes a root of bitterness, and they'll forever remember how that person treated them, they won't forgive them, and they can't even talk to them without being snappy in their words. You've got to understand it's serious business to forgive. It's serious business not to forgive. We can't afford to take unforgiveness lightly. It affects our lives, our relationship with God. Number two, assume responsibility for that unforgiveness. You've got to assume the responsibility. We need to look beyond the hurt and focus on our own lack of forgiveness. Now, somebody did you wrong. I'm not saying they didn't. Somebody did do you wrong, but you still must forgive them. And you gotta be honest about it. and assume responsibility. Number three, confess it to the Lord. We should vocalize our bitterness and unforgiveness and admit to God that we're guilty of holding on to resentment. Lord, I'm sorry. Number four, acknowledge it's a violation of God's word. You've got to see it as a violation of God's word. Until we see it from that perspective, we won't understand that it's an act of rebellion. It is honestly against God, a violation. Number five, you must ask the Lord to forgive us. You must ask God to forgive you. You should admit your disobedience and seek God's forgiveness. Number six, trying to move on as quickly as I can, ask God to enable us to forgive. Sometimes you'll be in a situation where you can't do it by yourself. You must ask God to give you the ability to forgive. There might be a situation that was really nasty, but you have to forgive. You're gonna have to ask God to help you. We should admit our disobedience and seek His forgiveness, and ask God to enable us, giving us our right to retaliate. I can't retaliate. I tell those couples, you cannot. In a marriage, you cannot retaliate to each other. Married couples in this room this morning, forgiveness is so vital. It is so necessary in your marriage. You've got to be able to forgive husband and wife, and you can't retaliate. You can't scream back. You can't try to come back and conquer the person because they did you wrong or they said something wrong, so I'm gonna say something bad to them. No, you cannot. You gotta give up that retaliation. Forget resentment, unforgiveness, and get it right with God. Giving up our right to retaliate isn't easy, but the Holy Spirit will empower us to lay down that urge. Pray for those who hurt you. Pray for them. And all my years of preaching and ministry, there have been numbers of people who've hurt me and crushed me. I pray for them, not forever. I pray for them until I feel like I've gotten completely over that unforgiveness. And when I feel like I'm done with it, I'm done. And I meet those people and talk to those people just like I would anybody else today. There were people who hurt me drastically when I was a young preacher, hurt me terribly. I could give you incidences and I won't, but it was awful and I felt terrible. And I was going to the same church I didn't want to go and actually see those people. God help me do exactly what I'm telling you to do today, how to overcome unforgiveness. It's a hurdle. I've got a hurdle that if I'm going to do anything in God, if I'm going to ever go anywhere for God, do anything for God, have any great work for God, you've got to hurdle over unforgiveness. If you don't, you're going to be hindered in what you do. Ask God to forgive. Pray for those who hurt you. When the offense is no longer our central focus, I believe we can ask the Lord to help those who did harm us. Number eight, do something for somebody else. Do something for others. One of the best things I've found out over the years is choose to help those who hurt us is a powerful expression of true forgiveness. Help those who hurt us. Help those who hurt us. Help those who hurt us. So you say, well, I don't want to help them. Preacher, come on, be real. I don't want to help them. Why not? They hurt you, now you're operating in forgiveness, and now you help them. Now don't get mushy about it, just help them. Amen? Awful quiet in this place this morning. Go to the ones who offended you. Go to them. I ain't gonna go to them. The Lord may lead you to seek forgiveness from others for wrong attitudes and actions, so go to the ones who offended you and say, listen, I know that you and I have not gotten along well, and I know we have little inhibitions here, but I wanna tell you I have forgiven you. I see some of your looks. They don't look too good. What's going on? You don't want to do that? Go to the ones who offended you? Preacher. Someone said, if I did that, I'd probably get in a fist fight. I said, then you're going for the wrong reason. You're not going with a godly attitude. I want to rip their head off. I can't go to them. Then you're not operating in forgiveness. If you really have a genuine heart for forgiveness, you can go to them and talk to them and say, I want you to know, I love you and have forgiven you. I want nothing between us. Some of you are thinking way too hard. Tough stuff, isn't it? Who is it that hurts you? Who have you hurt that maybe you need to go talk to and make things right? Number 10, express forgiveness. There is no need to hold on to past hurts. We can imagine that person sending a cross from us and then we can vocalize it. And then we can go see them and make it real. Here's my last point, Roman numeral five. How can we know we've truly forgiven others? Here's the key. How do I know I've really forgiven others? Now we're trying to learn as a church how to hurdle this thing of unforgiveness. And I know as a pastor, I know as a preacher, and I know as just a man that we all face this situation of unforgiveness, and God's not pleased. We must be forgiving people, loving people, quick to forgive, quick to love. How can we know when we've truly forgiven others? But we have completely forgiven them. How do we know, preacher? I have only five things here, if you want to jot these down. Number one, we won't see the offenders the way we used to. I honestly have looked at offenders towards my life. I don't see them like I used to see them, as enemies. When folks have talked about you or run you down or offended you, and you have a right to forgive now, but you don't want to forgive, I want you to look at those people not as bad people, but as broken people. Broken. They need to be fixed. They've spread rumors. Is it right for them to spread rumors about you? Is it right? No, that's not right. Is it right for them to treat you the way they treated you? No, that's not right. but you must forgive them, because they're broken. They don't know what they're doing. They don't know how they're disturbing the kingdom of God. They're broken, and you need to try to help fix them. You can't do it yourself, so you're relying on God. So you're doing what God said to do. First of all, you're asking for forgiveness, and you're not gonna hold unforgiveness towards them, and then you're gonna leave it in the hands of God. And I love you, I'm praying for you, and I've forgiven you. Now does that mean, preacher hold it back, I got a question. Does that mean that we go out and have coffee every other day? Oh no. There may be some people that you need to stay away from. Hey, there were two men in the Bible who couldn't even work together in the ministry. Is that right? Anybody remember that story? And they were good men, both of them were good men, but they fought about somebody. Who'd they fight about? Anybody know? John Mark? And they squabbled? Wasn't it Paul? And who was the other guy? Barnabas? And was it John Mark? And they split ways because they couldn't get along. Now they were still friends and they still loved each other and they forgave each other, but they just couldn't work together. There's nothing wrong with that. That's a good biblical mandate. You don't need to talk about everybody and run them down and say, well, I got to work with them. No, just part ways. Don't be a harborer of unforgiveness. So number one, I don't see the offenders the way I used to. I see them as broken, and I want to help fix them. Number two, how do I know I've truly forgiven others? Harsh feelings towards them will be replaced with a new attitude toward them. Instead of having a harsh feeling, you won't have that harsh feeling when you've really forgiven. You know, most of us, when we have a problem with forgiving, we want to get back. because they need to pay for what they said or what they did or how they treated me. Isn't that so? They need to pay. You leave that in the hands of God. What's God say? I will repay, saith the Lord. I'm telling you when God does the payment, it's a whole bunch better than what you could ever do. Let God handle it. Let him handle it. All right? Number three. How do I know I've truly forgiven others? I'll be willing to accept wrongdoers just as they are. When I'm finally big enough to accept them just like they are and don't try to change them, then I know I've forgiven them. When I accept them for just what they are. I'm not going to try to improve them. I'm not going to do that. I accept them just like they are. Now I've really forgiven them. Number four, how do I know, preacher, I've truly forgiven others? Well, I try to understand why they acted a certain way. How do I know we've truly forgiven them? We have completely forgiven others. We will try to understand why they acted a certain way, and God will help us. And then number five, now listen to me closely. When we really forgive, we won't try to avoid them if we happen to meet them unexpectedly. I've seen Christians dealing with other Christians. I've been in the store with Christians dealing with other Christians. Guess who's here? So? And they skate out so they can't be seen by them. That means you haven't forgiven. But when you meet them, if you can say, hey, how you doing? God bless you, brother. Now you know you've really forgiven. These little principles are tough today because we have feelings and it's hard to hurdle over unforgiveness. But the Scripture teaches us that we must. If we ignore the sin of unforgiveness, it will continue to hold us, ladies and gentlemen, in bondage. But go with me to John 8, verse 36. If we ignore the sin, now God's speaking to some in our room this morning, some on the radio perhaps who are listening, because this is a major thing in life. Even husband and wife relationships, God's speaking to us. Now, wives and husbands, we can say, well, I forgive him. But you don't act the same around your husband or your wife like you used to because you really haven't. You still hold that in the back of your head, the back of your heart. You've got to give that to God. If we ignore the sin, and many people are doing this constantly, they're ignoring it, ignoring unforgiveness. I'm telling you, I think as a preacher of what I know about this book, that unforgiveness will continue to hold us in bondage. But I want you to see what it says in John 8, 36. Jesus came to do something. The Bible says He came to set us free. If the Son therefore shall make you free, ye shall be free indeed. Why then, why are we always bound up with these things of unforgiveness and hatred and anxiety? God, why? Because we're not following Scripture. Let's follow the Word. Not following the society, they're all messed up. But the Word of God says forgive. Forgive. If the Son therefore shall make you free, you shall be free indeed. Somebody in this room needs to become free. I need the preacher to be free. I'm holding something. He not only forgave us of all of our sins, but Jesus through His Spirit also grants us the grace and the strength to lay down our hurts and lay down our grudges and Trust Him, and when we do, we will be free of this harmful emotion, and our lives will be characterized by the fruit of the Spirit. Well, what is that fruit of the Spirit? Instead of harboring bitterness or hatred or unforgiveness, here's what the Bible says in Galatians chapter 5 verse 22, but the fruit of the Spirit is, here it is, love. Joy, peace, long-suffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance, against such there is no law. Many times in my life I've had to operate exactly what I've just preached, and I've preached this message before over the years to this church. Hurdle. I didn't call it the same message. It was the same message. Hurdle. Hurdle over unforgiveness. And I'm here to report to you it's not the most easiest thing in the world to do. But we can do it. And God can help us. Let's go back to Ephesians, and I'll be finished. Chapter four. Be angry and sin not. Let not the sun go down upon your wrath. Now watch what it says in the next verse. Neither give place to the devil. Verse 29, let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers. And grieve not the Holy Spirit of God, whereby ye are sealed unto the day of redemption. Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamor, and evil speaking, evil speaking be put away from you. with all malice. And then here's the admonition, and be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you. Ladies and gentlemen, that's not only good for a church, that's good for a marriage. Those words are good for a marriage. If there's something going on in your family, and you're holding grudges and unforgiveness, Don't talk about certain things because we just can't correspond with that. You gotta get it settled. You gotta give it to God. You're never accomplishing one thing for God by doing that business. And you who have young people in your home, remember something very important. They're watching what mom and dad do. Those little kids that you're around, they're watching what you do. They may not say one thing, and you might think they don't understand what's happening, but they feel a spirit that's not right. I'm telling you, unforgiveness will wreck a home. It'll wreck a church. We must get over the hurdle of unforgiveness. Let's stand together, please, shall we?