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I mean, although you might feel
like yelling amen when I give you the title, but there are
some things that you may not want to yell amen during the
message, so don't get too excited just till you hear the whole
thing. Then, if you want to yell amen, you can quietly to yourself later. So, Matthew chapter 27, notice
verse 19. When he was set down on the judgment seat, his wife
sent unto him, saying, Have thou nothing to do with that just
man, for I have suffered many things this day in a dream because
of him." Tonight's message, I want to title this, He Should Have
Listened to His Wife. He should have listened to his
wife. Father, bless this evening. We
pray, first of all, that you'd just be with Brother Nicholas,
help us to be able to get a way to get him down to Mexico, and
Lord, that you would possibly use this as a way to get him
back on his feet. We'd love to have him with his
strength back and his color back, and Lord, be able to, and even
some of his memory, Lord, that he could get behind the pulpit
and do, have the strength and the ability that he had in the
past. We thank you for him doing what he can now, but Lord, we
ask you that you might bring back a new person. Cindy as well,
Lord, help her get back on the, the weight back on, Lord, that
she'd be getting around to do better. And I pray, Lord, You'd
just bless tonight. I ask, Lord, that You might give us something
from the Word of God. Lord, I pray You'd help the things that You
gave to me, that I might get them across to the folks tonight. Lord, that
that might be a help and a blessing, and we might leave better people
than we came in Jesus' name. Amen. Title is, He Should Have
Listened to His Wife. Now, I'm a big believer. that
the Bible has a chain of command, and I'd be the first one to tell
you that the Bible has a chain of command. The fact is, that's
my first point. Again, when I say a chain of command, God has a
chain of command in the church, God has a chain of command in
government, and God has a chain of command in the family. By
the way, in the chain of command it's pretty simple. In the family
it is, and you can flip over to Ephesians chapter 5 verse
23, in this chain of command in the family it is, husband
is the head. Now when I say husband is the head, that does not mean
for a second, again, and if you listen to my other points on
that you'll realize, that does not mean the wife, as in some countries,
has no position and no authority and no voice, because the Bible
doesn't teach that at all. But the Bible does teach that
the husband is the head of the home. Ephesians chapter 5, notice
verse 23. For the husband is the head of
the wife, and this Christ is the head of the church, and he is
the Savior of the body. Now, if you know anything about the
military, you know that in the military there is a commanding officer.
Does that mean that all the other guys underneath him are dumber
than him or her? And the answer to that is no.
Many times they notice, but the truth is there has to be someone
that gives the command. There has to be someone that takes
authority, takes that position. So it doesn't matter why. God's
not implying that the wife isn't as smart as the husband, or is
not as wise as the husband. But what the Bible teaches is
that there has to be someone in charge and God put the man
in charge. Now, so again, the chain of command is the husband
is the head. The Bible then teaches us also in Ephesians chapter
5, the lady's position, and that is, by the way, she is under
her husband. Notice where it says in chapter 5, verse 22, wives,
submit yourselves unto your husband, as unto the Lord. Now, what he
says is serve him like you'd serve, I mean, do it just like
you're serving me. Now, it is easy to serve someone when you
do that. Let's just say I have a boss
that I don't like. Which means if I'm going to treat the boss
the way I would want to treat that boss, I'd treat that boss
not very good because I don't like the boss. But if I'm going
to treat the boss like I would treat the Lord, by the way, I
want to treat the Lord pretty good. So what the Bible is teaching
me is you treat your boss like you treat the Lord. Wives, treat
your husband like you treat the Lord. Serve him, put yourself
under him, and just simply say, while you're doing that, I want
to be under my husband because I want to obey God. And God said,
obey your husband. So again, the wife is the second
in command. She is to submit herself to her
husband. The third chain, the third part of this chain is children
obey their parents. In Ephesians chapter 6 verse
1 it says, children obey your parents and the Lord for this
is right. So again, the chain of command, the proper chain
of command is dad or husband and then wife and then child.
So again, when I said that Pilate should have listened to his wife,
and by the way he should have, you say, what would have changed?
Jesus still would have hung on the cross, trust me. Jesus was
going to, I mean, that was why he came. But Pilate wouldn't
have been doing it if he had listened to Brother Nicholas
Tell. History says that Pilate, I mean, continued to wash his
hands, and wash his hands, and drove himself crazy trying to
wash his hands of the innocent blood that was on his hands.
If he listened to his wife, that wouldn't happen. He wouldn't
have went crazy. Jesus still would have died. Somebody would
have put Jesus to death. Because again, Jesus came to
die. So it wouldn't have changed history
at all, but it would have changed Pilate's history, is what it
would have changed. But again, he didn't listen to
his wife. So husbands, we should pay attention and listen to our
wives. Again, wives, realize that that doesn't mean that you're
the boss, because you're not. Number two, wives are not a slave,
but a helpmate. Notice in Genesis chapter 2.
Genesis chapter 2, notice verse 18 and verse 20. Now, if you
understand what a helpmate means, that does not mean that she is
to be a slave to me or a slave for me. There are a lot of husbands
that are not very bright. Usually it's young husbands that
are not very bright. Those of us that are a little wiser, if
we're still married, guess what we did? We wised up. We learned. Now,
it may be that we were smart as a young person, but that means
that we either had a daddy that said some stuff and we learned
from our daddy, or we had a preacher that said some stuff and we learned
from our preacher. Now, I was very lucky. Brother Vineyard
spent a lot of time in Bible college teaching about the relationships
of husbands, wives, kids, all of it. And then he taught a class
called The Christian Home. He had a whole semester of The
Christian Home. I mean, he taught on, I mean,
great details of everything about Christian home. So, not only
did I have a great example because I had a mom and dad that were
godly Christians, and mom and dad both had a great relationship,
I also had Brother Vineyard, I mean, pounding it away in Christian
home, in Bible college. So again, I was lucky in that
respect. I also got to drive to work with some married men
before I got married. And I'll listen to the things
they did that got them in trouble. I'll listen to the things that
they did that got them, I mean, you know, blessings. And I realize,
you know what? There are some ways I can handle
stuff and not be in the doghouse. And there's some ways I can handle
stuff and be in the doghouse. And I can tell you the reason
they call it the doghouse is it's not a good place. The dog
does not have near as nice a house as you have. Unless you're really
rich and then your dog might have air conditioning and a nice
place to lay. But, again, understand, wife is not a slave. She's a
helpmeet. Notice Genesis 2, verse 18. Now, if you know anything
about, again, the chain of command, the commanding officer is the
head. But if he has some good men or
women under him, guess what? It makes his job so much easier. By the way, it doesn't mean,
again, it doesn't mean that they are inferior in rank. They're
inferior in position. They are not inferior in intelligence.
They're not inferior in talent. They're not inferior in ability. The truth is, it doesn't say
for a second that wives have less intelligence or less abilities
than a man. It doesn't. But again, she's
a helpmate. Now, again, when I say that, She's not a second-class
citizen. I know men that treat their wives
like dogs. And if you do that, by the way, not only are you
unbiblical, you're also just not very bright. If you're wondering
why you can't, I mean, why no woman can live with you, why,
I mean, no one can put up with you, it's pretty simple. If you
were married to you, you would hate you too. And there are some
in this that way. Again, your wife is not your
slave. She's a helpmate. Point number three, and again,
this is kind of the introduction, but I got four points of introduction
and one point of why we should listen to our wives. Number three,
Jesus had a special relationship with his mom. Notice in your
Bibles in John chapter 19. In John chapter 19, realize what's
going on at this time. Jesus Christ is on the cross.
Jesus Christ has had his back beat raw. Jesus Christ has had
thorns pounded down on his head. His head is swollen. The truth
is, how many of you have ever been poked by a mesquite thorn?
You know what it did? It hurt. Made you swell up. That
was one thorn. By the way, that was the thorn
that just poked you and you pulled right back out. These, they pounded
down into his head and left there. Again, each of these thorns would
put a poison. His face swole up. After they'd already beaten
him, I mean, again, understand, he's in grievous pain. He's in
awful torment. But while he's on the cross,
notice what he does. Again, what is on his mind and
what he thinks about. Again, he's there dying for the
sins of the whole world, but he also thought about his mom.
Notice John chapter 19, verse 26. When Jesus therefore saw
his mother and the disciples standing by whom he loved, he
said unto his mother, Woman, behold thy son. Then saith he
to the disciple, Behold thy mother, and from that hour that disciple
took her into his own home." While he was on the cross, while
he was in all this pain and all this trauma, just a few moments
he's going to say, I thirst, and a few moments after that
he's going to cry out, It is finished. But while he's in all this pain,
you know what he does? He wants to make sure his mother
is taken care of. Now, by the way, if she was like
in some countries, no better than a dog, he wouldn't have
cared whether she had a place to go or not. And he surely wouldn't
have cared if she was well taken care of or not. But the truth
is, he did care. Now he had some, again, Mary
had other children. But Jesus knew that John, I mean,
John was close to Jesus, knew that John had done everything
through, again, you follow his ministry, John wasn't like, I
mean, Peter was more outspoken, but John was the guy that, again,
I mean, the Bible calls him the disciple whom Jesus loved. I
mean, he had a special relationship with Jesus. And what Jesus was
saying is, John, just like, I mean, you cared for me, I want you
to care for that lady right there, you take care of her. And he
said, and again, understand, Mary would have, if she could
have argued, she would have said, I've got, I mean, I've got the
boys, I mean, I've got the kids. He didn't want to, all he wanted
to say is, I want you to, I want to know what you're taking care
of, and I want to make sure you take care of her. And that's what he did.
Again, one of the few things he, he didn't say very many things
on the cross. One of the few things he said on the cross was
about his mom, which means, again, he thought very highly of his
mother. Now, unlike the Catholic Church, who put her as deity,
and by the way, Jesus didn't ever do that. And by the way,
the Bible doesn't do that. Fact is, if Mary went to heaven,
it wasn't because she was Jesus' mom, it was because she got saved.
That's if she went to heaven, and I'm sure she did. Again,
she was one of those that guaranteed she knew who Jesus was. She knew
he was the Son of God. But the fact is, Jesus took care
of his mom. He had a special relationship with his mother.
The fourth truth, again, underneath this. The Bible makes a big deal
about the right kind of mom or the right kind of wife. Proverbs
31 is known for the fact that it spends so much time talking
about the right kind of lady. Now, if you don't think about
Proverbs, the Bible in Proverbs also talks about the wrong kind
of lady. It talks about there are some
men that have a husband. You know where they'd rather
be? They'd rather be out in the wilderness. Now, by the way,
some of you go camping. Camping's fun unless that's where
you live. Camping's fun when you can go
camping for the weekend and then you come back home. And by the way,
usually if it's raining, I mean, you put the camping trip off
until the weather clears up. I mean, if it's really, really
cold, now we have some folks here that are crazy. They go
out and camp in the rain. They go out and camp in the snow. I mean,
you know, they think that's funny, but I mean, and I'm all for them. When I was their age, I probably
would have thought it was fun, too. At my age, I mean, I like my bed and my
pillows and the blankets and the air conditioning and the
heat, so more power to them. I mean, I'll egg them on, you
know, and listen to their experiences when they come back. Brother
Locke, you want to go? No, not hardly. But the fact
is, understand, the Bible makes a big deal about the wrong kind
of woman, but in Proverbs 31, it makes a very big deal about
the right kind of woman. Now, notice in Proverbs 31, verse
10, the Bible says this, says that, again, a good woman's hard
to find. Notice where it says, who can find a virtuous woman?
raises a question. Where can you find one? You know
what that implies? They're not everywhere. It's
not like they're, you know, a dime a dozen. It's not like you can
find them, they're just hanging on every tree around. I mean, you gotta
look for them. So guys, what that means is, by the way, guys
and girls, the same thing would apply to a good husband. There are
a lot of men out there, a lot of guys out there, but there's
very few guys, I mean, there's very few guys that, again, are godly
men that will be the kind of husband you want. And there's
lots of gals out there, a lot of females out there, but very
few ladies that are godly ladies. So what he says is, who can find
a virtuous woman? And then he tells us how much she's worth
for her price. Now listen, it didn't just say her price is
above rubies. Her price is far above rubies. He's not just saying that, by
the way, and rubies were very expensive, still are. What he's saying is,
listen to me, she's more valuable than the most valuable, I mean,
most valuable thing you can get. She's higher, she's better than
that. And not just, not close. Sometimes some people say, well,
I mean, how close were we? I mean, she is way out in front.
I mean, way, way, way out in front. Again, to find a good
woman, they're hard to find. They're very valuable. I mentioned
that in verse 10. Again, her price is far above Ruby's. Notice
verse 11. In this case, the Bible teaches us that she completely
satisfied her husband and fulfilled her husband. It also says, "...the
heart of her husband that safely trusts in her, so that he shall
have no need of spoil." Now what it says is, you know what? He
has no need to look anywhere else because she is everything
that he could possibly want her to be. By the way, that's the
ideal woman. The ideal woman is one who, I
mean, is virtuous. She's a godly woman, and she's
one, by the way, that, I mean, again, you couldn't think, if
you said, Brother Block or Brother so-and-so, I mean, if your wife
could pick up one more trait, I mean, what would you want her
to have? And if they would think for a second and say, you know
what? I don't think there's, I mean, she's perfect. Now, by the way, guys,
that's a way to get good brownie points. to tell your wife when
she says, you know, I mean, if I could do something to improve
myself, what would you like me to do? That's when you look at
her and say, baby, there's nothing you can do to improve yourself.
I mean, how can you improve on perfection? Say, Brother Barker,
is my wife really perfect? No, and neither is mine, but
the fact is it doesn't hurt you every once in a while to use
your brain, okay? Again, that's why I've been married for 30
plus years, and I mean, and you're still working on the third marriage,
and I mean, you got 14 years between the three, so I mean,
listen up, I learned this from somebody. But again, it says
again, her husband does safely trust in her so that he has no
need for her. He doesn't have any reason to
look anywhere else. She is everything he possibly could want. Notice
again, in Proverbs chapter 31, Verses 12 through 27 give us
this. They give us numerous traits and abilities that she has. You
ought to read this sometime. I don't have time to read it tonight, but you read
all the rest of it. It tells you all the things she does. Now listen
to me. She is an amazing woman. She is. Most people think that
this is Solomon describing his mother, Bathsheba. Some folks
think it's someone else, but the truth is a lot of folks think
it was Bathsheba. I don't know who it is. The truth is, whoever
it is, she's an amazing woman. I do think she really was. I
think it's not just something God made up. I don't think this
is a fictitious story of some lady. I think this is really
talking about someone. I think Mary probably fell in this similar
category. I think Mary was the same kind
of woman. I think you would call her a virtuous woman. I think
she was like that. And by the way, there are still some around,
but they are hard to find, guys. So again, that's why it says,
who can find? What it means is you're going to have to look.
Again, you're not just going to walk out and the first one
you grab, that's it. I mean, you want to make sure you find
that virtuous lady. Notice verse 28. Notice what verse 28 says. Now, notice it
says her children rise up and call her blessed. She's valued
by her kids and she's valued by her husband. By the way, that is, that is,
now girls, ladies, please be careful. Sometimes the world
might look down on you being a wife or, I mean, the right
kind of wife or the right kind of mother. They may, they may
think that you have an inferior job or that, I mean, that you're
having a career doing something else would be far better. And
by the way, the Proverbs 31 lady had a career. Truth is, she worked,
I mean, and outside of the home. But it taught that she took care
of the stuff at home first, and then she did the stuff outside.
And if you read all the stuff she did, I mean, she, I mean, she was
a community servant. She, I mean, she made money for
the family. She took care of the, I mean, she was an amazing
gal. But the fact is, in this case, the kids and dad, I mean,
they, they couldn't have thought of, I mean, couldn't have wished
for a better lady. Couldn't have bet, wished for
a better mom. Couldn't have wished for a better wife. Which brings me
to my fifth and final point. Again, I said the whole thing
was he should have listened to his wife. Let me give you several
things now on let the help meet help. Listen to her. Let the
help meet help. Now, I had to learn this. This
was not something that came natural for me because I'm a doer. When
Brother Taylor worked with me in the youth group years ago,
one time he said something to me. He said, Brother Block, let
me do something. You do everything. I mean, what's
the use of me working with you if you don't let me do something?
So I had to learn to delegate. Now, some of you are already
good at that. That was not something I was good at. Now, I've gotten better
at it, but the truth is, that was something I had to learn.
The fact is, I learned a big part from Brother Blocker. Brother
Blocker was very good at delegating. I was not a good delegator, so
I had to learn. Now, to delegate, you know what really the biggest
issue with delegation is? Not only because you enjoy doing
it yourself, but sometimes you also just don't think the other
person, you don't know that the other person will do it as well
as you, so you hate to take a chance. So it's a trust issue to a degree
as well. So when you delegate, what that's
saying to the person you delegate to is, you know what? I trust
in you. I'm counting on you. I believe in you. You know what
that helpmate's supposed to be? She's supposed to be someone
that, again, I mean, she helps us do what we have to do, and
she does stuff that, by the way, makes it where, I mean, sometimes
we couldn't have got it done, and she gets it done. And by
the way, the proper husband-wife relationship makes it where both
your jobs are easier. Again, my responsibility at Liberty
Baptist Church, being an associate pastor, my responsibility is
to make Brother Nichols' job easier. That's what my job is,
to make his job easier. Now, The truth is, if I'm the
right kind of associate pastor, I'm a blessing to Brother Nicholas.
I'm not just an employee, and I am an employee, but I should
be a blessing to him. Brother Taylor was a blessing
to me. Now, by the way, he taught me to delegate. Now it's much easier
now, but it took me a while. If you're in the youth group
now, you'd realize the first Sunday, I preach. The second Sunday,
Brother Bejewel preaches. The third Sunday, Brother Roy
preaches, right? Fourth Sunday, Brother Taylor
preaches. The fifth Sunday, we have to find somebody, so it's
usually we come in here, and we come into the auditorium.
The first week of Sunday school, we have roundtable. The second
week of Sunday school, I teach. The third week of Sunday school,
Brother Pujol teaches. The fourth week of Sunday school, I teach.
But the truth is, though I'm youth director, and by the way,
you can ask Brother Taylor back then, I taught and preached all
of that. I didn't know anyone had any
of that. But I realized a couple things. One, when they do it,
it's kind of nice. I have some time off. It's kind
of nice. Two, the kids don't get bored
to death with me. They're not all falling asleep because they
haven't heard me 47 times this week. That's what you say, brother
Block? I kind of heard you quite a bit
lately. I'm getting kind of bored, too. Come on, now. But the fact is,
I let all these guys preach. Now, none of these guys are rubber
stamps. Roy don't think like I do. Brother Taylor don't think
like I do. Kurt don't. I mean, so the truth is, they have pet
peeves that I don't have, and they have strengths that I don't
have, and they have weaknesses that I don't have. But the truth is, we all
give the team something, and so they get the best of four
different guys. Same thing with Sunday school. We try to spread
it out so that it's not the same person all the time. Now understand,
if you have a helpmate and you trust her, she will make your
life easier. She won't make your life harder.
A good wife will make you... Now, let me give you some ways
that you ought to... some things you ought to listen to her about.
Number one, child rearing. The Bible uses a mother when
it comes to kids and teaches you, you know what? Mom's the
thing when it comes to kids. Dad's important to raising kids,
but when you see anything about children, you know what I always
talk about? The mom. The mama bear, the mom, I mean,
what it simply says, you know what? You do not, now, it doesn't
say you don't want to mess with daddy. It will say you do not want to
mess with mama when it comes to the kids. I mean, he says,
you know what? You don't want to get between
the mama bear and her cubs, because she will tear you up. I often
tell people all the time, you don't have to worry about me.
I mean, I'm kind of a nice guy. The person you ought to be worried
about isn't a guy at all. She wears a skirt, and her name
is Mrs. Block. I mean, you mess with the kids,
you're going to get a lot more flack from Mrs. Block. I mean,
you're going to have—you better be more afraid of her than afraid
of me. And by the way, that's true of almost all mothers. That's
why they're mothers. You get mama mad. Hoo-wee! It's one of
the reasons, Brother Patton, years ago, I used to say, Brother
Block, I used to say, you say, Brother Patton, when are you
going to get a school? He says, I'm never going to get a school as long
as you have a school. I said, why? He says, because I do not
want to have to deal with the parents. When you deal with people's kids,
he said, you end up with, and by the way, that's true. You
can ask my teacher sometimes to deal with parents. We love
the kids. We just wish we could do without the parents sometimes.
Just joking, more or less. But in child rearing, now, when
I say that, typically in child rearing, Because opposites attract,
you know what's kind of weird? We are not alike. Sometimes it'll
be dad that's really strict and really tough and mom that's sweet. Sometimes it's dad that's really
sweet and mom that's really strict. And by the way, that works because
that's, I mean, again, if you think of the ideal train up the
child in a way that he should go, you know what it means? The
proper amount of love and the proper amount of discipline.
Too much love and not enough discipline, messed up kid. Too
much discipline, not enough love, messed up kid. The proper amount
of love and the proper amount of discipline. And by the way,
that's what's really tough because it's hard to find that proper balance.
But that's why a husband and wife together makes it so much
easier because we... Listen to me. Something that
would bother me doesn't bother her. Something that bothers her doesn't
bother me. There's times she wants to kill him and I'll...
I mean, because I understand. Especially when... I mean, for
instance, there's some things that my boys did that I understood,
you know why? Because I'm a boy. There's some things my, that
my, there's times my wife wanted to kill my daughter, but I mean,
you know, she's my, she's my baby. I mean, so, again, understand
the kids, it's nice when the kids have mom and dad, because
again, they're usually kind of a plus minus, plus minus kind
of thing. Proper mixture. Second thing, you ought to let
your help meet, help win, you ought to listen to her, is when
we're angry, when we are in extreme. Now listen to me, there are a
lot of men that would have lost their job if they came home and listened
to mama. Because they came home mad, and mama would have said,
it's not too bad. Now listen to me, there isn't
probably a man alive that hasn't wanted to quit a job. Hasn't
wanted to, I mean, mess his boss up. But you come home, and mama
will say, I mean, tell you what, let's just sleep on it. If you
still feel that way, if you want to quit tomorrow, I mean, by the way,
you'll find this, a nice sleep changes your feelings about a
lot of stuff. I don't remember who it was that taught us this
years ago, it may have been a brother of Indian. But he taught us this
in class and I made it a rule at my house. And my wife has
the temper. I don't have much of a temper. My wife is the one
that has the temper. So there'd be times she was going to tell
someone something and she was going to get mad at someone. So I would
say, you know what? You can write a letter. And tomorrow morning,
before you mail that letter, you've got to read it again and
see if you want to mail that letter or if you want to change
it. She's never mailed the letter she originally wrote. Now, sometimes
she still mailed a letter, but she never mailed that original
letter. Sometimes she still made that phone call she wanted to
make to whoever it was she wanted to make it to, but her tone was a lot
different the next morning than it would have been the night
before. By the way, that's why husbands and wives work together.
Because we're not now. If we're both angry at the same
time, we're in trouble. If we're both down at the same time, we're
in trouble. I mean, the truth is, that's why a husband and
wife compliment each other. Because, I mean, when I'm going
crazy, I want to commit a million dollars to it. She goes, let's
talk about this. I mean, a million dollars is
a lot of money. I mean, and by the way, there's other times
when you're like, I'm going to quit. And again, she talks you out of that. Let
your help meet help when it comes to your emotions. that you help
me help when it comes to money matters. Now, it may be that
your wife has the money mind and you don't. It might be that
you have the money mind and she don't. But either way, there'll
be times if you pay attention to your wife, there'll be times
your wife will say, by the way, she don't have to say anything.
You can just sometimes look at the facial expression. They'll be like,
and she's saying, I don't know about that. Which means, you
know what y'all do? Talk about it. Doesn't mean you
make, again, husbands will ultimately make that decision, and then
we have to live with that decision we made. But we will usually
make a wiser decision if not only we listen to our wives,
but we also sometimes get counsel and pay attention to the counsel.
But again, in money matters. There'll be times that you want
to do something and your wife will say, you know what, let's
think about it for a while. Let's wait on it a little bit.
There's other times you might hesitate and she might say, you
know what, you need to do this. I mean, so there'll be times she might
push you. There's other times she may hold you back. But again, that's why
you married her. I mean, she is to be the helpmate.
She is to have a voice. She's to have an opinion. She's
to have, I mean, again, a say-so. Number four in household things.
Brother Vineyard told us in Bible college, all the house, I mean,
leave that up to the wife. That has to do with the furniture,
paint colors, how they arrange it, the curtains, the appliances. The good news is, when they're
older, they can't move the furniture by themselves. But how many of
you have ever, I mean, I used to work in iShift, and back at
that time, I had no idea how a little bitty skinny woman can
move furniture. I mean, but I would go to work,
and the room was in a certain way, I'd come home, and I'd trip
over something. Boom! Fall on the side of my toe and
get hurt, flip on the light, and it's like, what? I mean,
she'd rearrange the, now, I don't know where they get that strength.
I don't. I mean, they can move couches
and chairs and desks. Thankfully, when they get older,
it's like, you need to help me move the furniture. And then she'll be like, yeah,
maybe tomorrow. And so sometimes, you know, we just don't do it
because I talk her out of it. But the truth is, if she wants
to rearrange the furniture, we'll rearrange the furniture. You
know what? I really care less. As long as
I can get to the TV and the refrigerator, I'm a pretty happy guy. I don't
care if the walls are pink or they're yellow or they're orange.
I don't care if the refrigerator has two doors or six doors, as
long as it has a door and she don't put a lock on the door,
I'm happy. I mean, I'm not real hard to please and most men are
not. So again, when it came to the house stuff, that's mama's. And she likes to know that she
has a voice, she has some say-so. Matters around the house. Matters
of the heart. Notice in your Bibles in 1 Peter
chapter 3. 1 Peter chapter 3. Notice verse 7. It says, Now
notice the phrase, the weaker vessel. Someone explained this
to me this way and it makes a lot of sense. Here's what they said.
How many of you have a set of fine china? few of us. We have one because
my wife's mother gave it to us. Then I bought my wife one in
Russia. I spent two million bucks on that set of china. Of course,
the exchange rate was $50,000 in Russian dollars to $1 in American
dollars, so it wasn't too mean. I guess it was $200,000 because
I spent $8, so I bought a set of China for $8. Now, to put
that in your suitcase and bring it back on all the airlines to
make it safe, that was the trick, to get all the China back. So
we have two sets of China. Listen to me, it is more fragile. Some of you have that corny word,
some of that stuff, I mean, you can take it, you can throw it
like a frisbee, you can bounce it off the floor, you can bounce it off
your kid's head, sometimes a good use for that. I mean, you can
use all kinds of stuff with that. You don't want to do that with
China, you'll break it. China is, I mean, it is a weaker vessel,
but it's not weaker in the sense that it's useless. Sometimes
people think of weaker, and they think it means, I mean, that
she's, I mean, she's inferior. It doesn't mean that. Brother
Injun said it's like she's fine Chinese. I mean, she's just made
differently. Now, again, I don't care what
people say. How many of you ever go golfing? A couple of us. I haven't went in years. Do you
golf anymore? He hasn't went in years. He probably
went the last time I went, which was probably the last time you went.
which was yours, why don't we go golfing? Then maybe my granddaughter
wouldn't lay on my belly like she did last night. She looked
at the picture on the wall, which was our wedding picture, and
she looked at me and she said, how did that happen to you? That's
what she asked me. How did that happen to you? And I said, just
won't you just shut up and watch the TV? I mean, we were having
a good time a minute ago. Now you're going to. And then
she raised up my shirt, and she looked at it, and she said some other
comment. I don't remember what it was.
It wasn't very helpful either. So I said, why don't you go out
and see your grandma for a minute? Leave me alone. But just joking.
I just put up with it because I love her. But the truth is,
if you've ever went golf, you know what they have? They have
a tee-off place for the professionals, which is not where we teed off.
They have a tee-off place for the men, which is where we had
to tee off. Then they have a tee-off place for the ladies. Now, you
know why they do that? Because women don't have the
same type of bodies men have. And no matter what, you girls say,
now, I know there's some women that can beat me up. But that is a
rarity, by the way, rather than the rule. Now, I know there's
some guys that, I mean, are such sissies, and I mean, a fourth
grade girl could beat him up, and again, but that is, well,
that's not the acceptance of the rule anymore. That is kind
of the norm anymore. But the bottom line is, men are made
differently. Our body structure and our strength and the things,
I mean, we're different than women. For a woman to try to be a man
would simply mean you're going to try to be something that you're going
to fail at. You can't be a man. For me to try to be a woman, I asked
for the prayer. I dressed up like a woman one time. He was not impressed.
It was on Halloween, and he said later he didn't recognize me.
I mean, I really did good on my decorations, but then he told
me later that was the ugliest woman I'd ever saw in my whole
life. That's what he told me. For that matter, I'm kind of
the ugliest man he's ever seen in his life, so not much changes except the
hair and the hairy legs. But the fact is, they're a weaker
vessel. It doesn't mean they're inferior.
The fact is, if you know anything about fine china, it is very
viable. It is expensive. It's not like you're corny and
well. I mean, you can get corny and well. You can get that other stuff. You
can get those plastic plates everywhere. Find China, that's a big deal.
She's a weaker vessel. When it comes to matters of the
heart, they understand that because they have emotions. We don't
always have the emotions. I mean, sometimes men can be
emotionless. Now, I don't know why it is. When we grow older,
we have the tendency to get more emotions. I mean, I can cry over
it. I mean, I always cried over old
Yeller. Now, I mean, I can cry over silly stuff. I mean, I can
just be laying in bed thinking about something to start crying.
I'm thinking, wow, my daddy can only see me now. He'd probably
say, you little sissy. I mean, he wouldn't be too impressed
with my crying. But the truth is, I have a lot
bigger heart now than I did when I was younger. But women always
have, they have those emotions. So again, they understand matters
of the heart. There'll be times, I mean, that mom will say, Let
me talk to him. You know what you need to do?
Listen to her. You're going to go in there and tell him, hey,
shake it off, man. I mean, be a man. He knows how to be a man
anyway. I mean, his heart's broke. Now,
if you've ever had your heart broke, and I'm not even going
to ask if some of you ever had your heart broke. Some of you
don't even have a heart. You like to grinch. I mean, you
know, if it grew any bigger, I mean, your chest would burst.
But some men don't have much of a heart. Women, I mean, so
when Mama says, I'll take care of it, let me talk to him or
let me talk to her, that's a good time to listen to Mama. She understands
emotions. She understands right now, I
mean, you know, they don't want to live. They understand that. You and
I don't. It's like, stop being such a
baby! My grandson broke my heart Sunday.
He went with us on Sunday after church, so we're going to the
house, and we have a great big dog, Dante, about the size of
a small pony, and he loves to meet, he met Thane at the gate,
and Thane was, you know, holding him back and letting him, Dante
was trying to lick him and mess with him. So Dante did his usual,
smart thing. We start, as he turns from the
gate, I close the gate, he walks up and lays right down in front
of the porch. I mean, so, boom, he lays down right there. I mean,
the porch. He lays down on the walkway,
and he's big enough, he covers the whole thing. Now, me, I just step over
the stupid thing, and I get up there. Next thing I hear is a
thunk. Same, trying to go around Dante, ran into the bar that
comes down, you know, that we put our hands on, right with
his head, just, bam, hit his head. I mean, I could hear it.
It sounded like, I mean, you hit, I mean, a watermelon with a sledgehammer. I mean, it was a thunk. I looked
back at him, and he wasn't crying, and he said, I think that hurt
really bad, Grandpa. That's what he said. I think
that hurt really bad. And then he didn't cry yet, and
then he started crying, and I grabbed him, and I said, it's okay. Then
he says, Daddy says I can't scream. I mean, so he's not allowed it,
which is a good thing, by the way. Have you noticed there are
some boys that can scream worse than girls? And I'm thinking,
one of them's screaming, and I thought, what girl? And it
was a boy, and I thought, goodnight. Yell. Don't do the screaming
voice. If you have a girl's voice when
you scream, I mean, scream silently. I mean, don't do it out loud.
But he says, that hurt really bad, Grandpa. And then he says,
but I can't scream. So I just held him, and it felt
really bad, because I thought, Man, I'd have probably screamed
at that one time. I'd have broke the screaming rule. But again,
understand, women understand the things when it comes to emotions
and the things of the heart. We don't always understand. Sometimes
mom will say, you just don't get it, do you? And it's like,
no, I really don't. So again, understand, that's
one of the things she's good at. That's what she's there for.
Another thing, I need to let you help me help. And again,
this is a truth that especially young guys can learn, as older
guys have already either learned it or it's too late for us, which
means, I mean, you know, we're sitting here by ourselves at
church tonight and, you know, we don't have a wife, or we're
not here because she killed us, or any one or the other, but
when she's talking and crying out without saying a word, again,
I said you need to listen to her. Sometimes she'll talk and
not say a word. Here's what I mean by that. You've
got to be aware that silence means something. Sometimes it
means I'm mad. Now, if your wife is one like
my wife, when my wife is mad, my wife wants to be left alone.
How many of you husbands, your wife is like that, she wants
to be left alone when she's mad? How many of you, your wife is mad,
she wants you, you better get your butt in there and talk to her. Because
every wife is different. My wife wants me to leave her
alone until she has some time to think about it. If she's right, she'll
come, I mean, if she's right, she'll let me apologize later.
If she's wrong, she'll come apologize to me later. But she wants me
to leave her alone right then. I don't help it by going there
and there. Now, sometimes, for some reason, I have this weird
personality. Sometimes I think that's funny. And so then I will
laugh or I will make fun of the fact that she's mad, which I
don't do that near as much now because I learned all that really
does is makes her madder, okay? And she'll say, you're not helping
anything. And I'm thinking, I really thought
I was because it was really, if you were looking from my viewpoint,
it is really so funny. I mean, but she didn't think
it was funny. For some reason, it wasn't. It was only one of
us laughing. And I was laughing by myself for a little while.
That's where that went. But again, sometimes you have
to listen. You have to let your help mate.
You have to listen to her when she's silent. By the way, sometimes
you have to understand this truth. Sometimes they mean just the
exact opposite of what they say. When they say it's fine, it really
ain't fine. When they say, well, just do
whatever you want, that really isn't what you should be doing.
doing whatever you want. When they tell you nothing's
a matter, something's a matter. So sometimes they tell you, you
say, well, how do you figure that out? Well, when you figure that
out, you tell all those older married men, because we still
don't know. We just know that that's the time to shut up and
say, I love you, baby. I mean, you know. go buy her
something, okay, or go in the other room and mind your own
business. But, so if you figure it out, that's when you can come
and explain to us. We still don't know the answer, we just know
what the answer is not, okay. We don't know what the answer
is, we just know what the answer is not. But again, she's, again,
Pilate should have listened to his wife and some of you men
tonight, and again, I had to learn this the hard way in some
areas. Again, I was, I'm lucky I had good parents. If you have,
if you young people have a good mom and dad, imitate them. Learn
from them. If you have a good grandma and
grandpa, they have a great relationship, learn from them. There are men
and women at Liberty Baptist Church that have a great relationship.
Learn from them. By the way, if you don't have an example,
find someone that'd be a good example to you. Or, by the way,
read your Bible. A lot of stuff in the Bible about
that. Pay attention to preaching. There's books on it. Read on
it. But again, understand, ladies, you have an awesome responsibility
and an awesome privilege to be the right kind of helpmate. Husbands,
if we're smart, we will let them be the helpmate. It will make
our job easier. Again, it's like that. When I
finally learned to delegate, it was like, wow. This is a lot
easier than it was when I was trying to do the thing. And by
the way, when I tried to do a thing by myself, I didn't get it all done, and I didn't
always do it. Because again, when you've got so many things
to do, you don't always do your best, because you've just got to get it done.
Things are so much better when I learn to delegate, when I learn
to let others, by the way, I let them use their strengths. And
by the way, you know what I did? It made me look good. All of
a sudden, I'd be like, boy, but it was a great banquet. Yeah,
it was. I didn't do nothing, but it was a great banquet. I
mean, I delegate that to those guys, and they did it. So again,
husbands. listen to your wives. Pilate
should have listened to his wife and he wouldn't have the blood of Jesus Christ
on his hands. He wouldn't have kept washing his hands and washing
his hands and washing his hands trying to get it off. Again,
young men, especially if you're married, you need, and again,
you want to make sure you marry a godly woman because you listen
to an ungodly woman, she will steer you in the wrong path,
which is why you want to find that virtuous woman that's her price is far
above rubies. You get the right gal, she will make you better
than what you were. I mean, she will, again, when
you think about it, when you take, when you take Two people,
and you put them together, if they're the right kind of folks.
That's why I tell people all the time, if you're in a dating
relationship, and you are not a better Christian because of
the dating relationship, break it off. If he doesn't make you
a better Christian, and you don't make her a better Christian,
break it off. The right relationship makes
it where it's, I mean, you are better Christians, not worse
Christians, because you're together. If the girl or the guy you plan
on marrying is not, I mean, doesn't help you to serve the Lord, doesn't
make it easier to serve the Lord, wrong one. If they're holding
you back and they're making it where, I mean, you can't live
for the Lord, wrong one. I mean, find the right one. When you
find the right one, that is where the two people, and by the way,
you walk together because you agree, and by the way, it makes
carrying that ice chest so much easier when there's one on each
end carrying it instead of one trying to carry it all by themselves.
Yes, men, we are the leaders. And by the way, that is an awesome
responsibility and a scary responsibility when you realize that the buck
stops here. But understand, you can get some wisdom from that
godly woman that God gave you. You can draw some wisdom from her,
and she doesn't think like you think. She doesn't look at everything
the way you look at stuff, but she still wants those kids to
turn out right, and she still wants God to bless your family.
She wants the same things you want, so if you pay attention,
you'll be smarter because of that. It won't make you weaker,
it'll make you stronger. Me having Brother Joe, or Brother
Taylor, or Brother Mario, or Brother Nielsen, or the ladies
in the school, they make my job easier, and they make me a better
principal, and a better teacher, and a better person. Again, Liberty
Baptist Church needs men who have enough sense to listen to
their wives. Wives, you want to make sure you're that virtuous
woman, you're that woman from Proverbs. Not the one earlier
in Proverbs where he'd rather go to the wilderness or rather
go to the attic. Not that one, not the quarrelsome one and that
type, but the godly one. The one that, by the way, like
Jesus' mom. That godly woman. That, by the
way, God chose her for a reason. He chose Mary because of who
she was. He didn't choose her because she was just an average
gal. I mean, she was special. And that's why God chose her
to bear his son. Again, understand, there were thousands, tens of
thousands, hundreds of thousands of ladies, and Mary stood out.
She was the one. Now, I don't know if she was
way above everyone else. I think she was. I think she was just,
again, one-of-a-kind. Just like the Proverbs 31 lady was one-of-a-kind.
And by the way, ladies, you should strive to be that one-of-a-kind,
and guys, you should strive to get that one-of-a-kind. You young
people that are getting ready to date, you want to be very,
very wise. You say, how can I tell, I mean, what's one of the things
I can tell about, I always tell people all the time, find out
how that girl treats her daddy. Find out how that boy treats his mama.
That is a big way how he or she will treat you, whether you're
the husband or the wife, someday. A girl that doesn't listen to
her daddy is probably not going to listen to her husband. A girl that treats her
daddy like dirt will probably treat her husband like dirt.
A girl that loves her daddy, I mean, and gives him her heart,
I mean, and loves him with all of her heart, and that's a good
thing. And a boy that, I mean, doesn't want to see mama cry,
and doesn't want to hurt mama, and wants to please mama, I mean, that's,
he's probably going to treat his wife the same way. Find a
guy that gives, I mean, gives mama flowers, he'll probably
be a guy that brings you flowers. Find a lady that, I mean, that
does stuff for her daddy. I mean, when he gets home, gets
him a cup of tea and gets his slippers and asks him if he needs
anything and massages his shoulders because he's working hard. I
mean, she'll probably do that to you when you come home. So
that's a good thing to check out. But the fact is, the one
thing you always want to do, you want to compare her to the
lady in Proverbs 31 and find out if she's like that lady.
That's a great kind of lady to be. Again, ladies, that's something
for you to live up to, guys. We want to live up to the right
kind of husband as well. Again, would the Proverbs 31
lady even want to marry us? I mean, would she be able to
serve us? Would she be able to give herself to us? And again,
the relationship is one, I don't boss my wife around. My wife
follows me, my wife obeys me, my wife, again, she submits to
me. I'm not, I mean, again, for a man to stand up and say, well,
my wife don't do it, I mean, you listen to that guy, he is
a knucklehead. You know why? If there is a great relationship
in here, it's because the wife submits herself to her husband.
Now, again, he can lead all he wants, but if she's not following?
How many of you did that? You said, come on, let's go!
You get out in the car, and nobody's there but you. Sounded good. You led, but the problem is,
if they don't follow, it didn't accomplish anything. You go back
in and say, come on, let's go! I mean, the truth is, a husband
only leads if his wife will submit. And by the way, ladies, you're
supposed to submit. It's a clear Bible command. You say, well,
what if my husband's a jerk? God will still bless you for
doing the right thing even if he doesn't. God doesn't bless the
relationship based on, I mean, if both of you are doing right,
that is a great relationship. But you can still be blessed whether,
I mean, whether your mate is the right kind of mate or not.
The lady is still supposed to submit and let the husband lead,
and the husband is still supposed to lead, and by the way, he's
supposed to love his wife. Again, I tell people all the time, if
the man would love his wife like he's supposed to, a lot of marriage
problems would be a lot less than they are. If the wives would
submit like they're supposed to, a lot of marriage problems
would be a lot less than they are. By the way, the proper kind of lady,
we want to make sure that we listen to her. Father, thank
you for tonight. Pray, Lord, you'd help us as
husbands to be wise and realize that when you give us a helpmate,
you've given us a good thing. The Bible says when we find a
wife, we find a good thing. Lord, I pray you'd help us to
realize that you gave her to us to complete us. Lord, we're
more with her than we are without her. We can accomplish more.
We can serve you
He Should Have Listened
| Sermon ID | 2718214700 |
| Duration | 42:33 |
| Date | |
| Category | Midweek Service |
| Bible Text | Matthew 27:19 |
| Language | English |
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