We must contend honestly when we are answering others as to why we believe as we do. Too often when discussions of such nature arise someone (or everyone) will strive to prove himself right that and will be dishonest with a verse or section of the Bible. The important thing is to uphold (present, defend) the word of God and not ourselves. Equally, when discussing an issue, we must contend for the issue at hand and not discuss many other related (or un-related) subjects in such a way that nothing is accomplished. It is more important that one issue is settled than to be confused on all things. Above all, we must contend in love.