Minnesota Wi-Fi out there. So it's kind of a messy thing right now so you know and the Lord kind of revealed unto me and putting this together why he Wanted me to preach this on Sunday morning instead of just being a broadcast but really talk about this subject on on Sunday morning with the Saints and have us understand this right and what God expects from us and and You know, God never leaves us without understanding or the way to understand what He expects from us, whether it's a husband or a wife, whether it's somebody young, somebody old, whatever place you are at in the Lord, God tells us and shows us exactly what He expects from us. That's, that's what he's done here. And the topic that I want to talk to you about is woman's best gifts being wasted in the world. And I'm going to give you some examples of that. I'm going to give you some examples of where fundamentalism as a movement got it way wrong and it caused a lot of damage. I can give you some personal examples of that that I know of in dealing with that. And also, uh, you know, a secular example of something that was, an article that was given to me that I thought was really good. And I'm going to read that to you. And I think it'll amaze you, but that'll be at the end here. We'll get to the scriptures here first. Titus chapter two, four and five, that they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chase keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. Now it says here that they may teach the young women to be sober. That's something that has to be taught. Sobriety has to be taught. The young men are to learn to be sober as well. All of us, every distinction here in Titus tells in the church that we all have to learn to be sober minded when it comes to things. That when it comes to life, to be sober minded. Right, have a right assessment and understanding of ourselves, what God expects from us, what our duties are, and how we're to perform them. So teach them to be sober, and I might, you know, double down on some of that in the weeks to come here, but to love their husbands. You say, I really have to be taught, the younger women have to be taught to love their husbands? Yeah. But it's not the way that you think in this emotional type of simply emotional type of love or closeness or whatever. It's part of it. But really what it means is love is action. Love is work. So you're teaching them when a young lady has challenges or a young married couple, they don't have to be even young, but a married couple has challenges and trials that that lady learns to love her husband through those. She learns to love her husband through things when her husband is not right, when her husband is not doing the things that he should do, when he's not the man that he's supposed to be. That older woman is supposed to be that example, right, of teaching, look, you've got to love your husband. You've got to respect him. You've got to love him. You've got to be there. You've got to do what God has commanded you to do. So you teach them that that's their focus. That's what he's really saying here. He's saying that you teach the young women to be sober. So first, sober-minded is the mind of Christ. So then I look out and I view everything that God has said, and I say, okay, that's what I'm going to do. And that's having the mind of Christ, to be sober minded, to have a right assessment and understanding of myself. And then you teach them out of that sobriety of mind, what's the opposite of that sobriety of mind? Silly women laden with sins. Silly women that get over-emotional, that lose it over everything, that are sporadic, that can't deal with life, they can't deal with challenges that come up, they can't deal with anything like that, and they lose it over the littlest things. Those are silly women. He said, no, you've got to teach them to be sober, that they can't lose it. They can't lose control of their emotions. They have to be able to deal with things. They have to be able to deal with the complexity of marriage at times when marriage is complex. When marriage doesn't work the way that you want it to, they have to learn that, that that's not easy. By the way, if you're an honest man, you'll say sometimes you're not the easiest person to please or to deal with. Sometimes you can just be a jerk. It's just true. Sometimes we can be insensitive. Sometimes we're just not what we're supposed to be. So that's true. So that's the times that that lady has to show grace. It's not the time to get angry and to get fiery and to return anger for anger, wrath for wrath, or it'll just stir things up. Remember a soft answer turned it the way wrath. So the woman with a soft answer accomplishes more than she does with raising her voice or getting angry. The soft answer will do much more. It will, it penetrates more. It has more, More power. So, you know, and we won't talk too much about that, but to love their husbands, right? To love their children. That's the next thing. Why? That's her ministry. Love her husband, love her children. Your ministry is in two phases when it comes to that. Husband, children. That order. That order. Husband, children. That's God's order. That's why he lists it that way. Because remember, like we talked about last week, what a helpmeet was. We define that, what that was. That's suitable help, proper help, right? It's the help that is available, that is needed. It's the help that's appropriate for what the man needs. So that first, she's a helpmeet to her husband. Secondly, she's to love her children. You teach them to love their children, that that is your active ministry, to love your children. Your active ministry first is to love your husband. Your active ministry second is to love your children. Those are your ministry. Those are your boundaries. Those are the things that God has called you to do, primarily. In all of your life, those are the two things that God, the sphere of your influence, your strength, the power that God has given you, lie in those two areas. love their husband, love their children. If you're seeking things more outside of those two areas, it is vain. It is vanity. It is delusions of grandeur. It's not a content heart that wants to accomplish what God has made you to accomplish, okay? So those two areas are what God defines as your areas. Never lose sight of that. If anything that you have in your vision for serving the Lord or being faithful to God, it should be those two areas first and foremost, always. Okay, that's what we see in the scriptures. And in those areas, she's to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. And we'll talk about that, the word of God be not blasphemed. I think there needs to be a sermon specifically on that, you know, how a Christian woman can blaspheme God. You know, I think that I need to preach on that and be very specific with that. And there's other texts that deal with that too, as well, that we'll get into. But, you know, that needs to be understood. The plainer that I speak and that the scriptures speak on these things and that we talk about, the better off we'll all be. The stronger our church will be, the stronger our families, our marriages will be. The better children we'll raise up to fulfill the roles that God has called them to. Amen. So that's the goal. That's the work. Let's pray. Father, Lord, please help us now as we get into this. And we thank you so much for your words, in Jesus' name we pray, amen. All right, so after we discussed that last week on what it means to be a helpmate for a husband, we now come to the specifics in the role of a wife for a husband, which begs the question, is the husband permitted by God to have his wife help him in any way he deems necessary, or are the boundaries of that help laid out in the scriptures? Does man really know what help he needs? Not outside of the scriptures, he doesn't. You just preached to a ton of people yesterday. They have no idea what they need until you tell them what they need, right? They don't know. By the way, a lot of times a man doesn't know what he needs either, unless he's getting it from this book. He might think, well, I need this. No, you lust after that and you want that. You don't need that. God tells you what you need. God will tell you what you need, what that help meat can do for you, right? That's what you need. There are things, well, I want this. Well, your want is not your need all the time. By the way, God's not against wants, unless they're out of his will. God gives us a ton of things that we don't need, but things that we desire, we want, because he's kind and good to us, right? So God's not a tyrant or mean or, you know, he doesn't withhold any good thing from them that love him, right? So he'll give you the things, many things of your desires of your heart, or he'll change the desires of your heart to match his will. But that's what God does. Okay, so we need to understand that. You know, because today we live in a day where women's best gifts are wasted in the world. That's really what I want to talk about. They're squandered, they're used up with nothing left for what her true work is to be. I see it everywhere. First of all, number one, the woman was not made to be a man. I want you to understand that, that's very important. She was not made to be a man. She's not a female male counterpart to you in that sense. So don't make her out to be a man and think that she needs to fulfill her work as a man would. No, that's not the same work. In being the man's helper, she was not made to be like the man. to do the same tasks of a man and to be a breadwinner or a provider like a man. She's not to help you in going out in the world and becoming another man like you, working for the world and paying the bills and dealing with all that. God never made her to do that. We understand sin brings things and unfortunate situations into the world and there's things that have to be done, but that's not God's way, right? This whole antichrist world is not God's way. That's why our lives mostly live to defy the Antichrist world. They're a light, so they shine to defy it. Amen. God's people need to be more defiant to the world and its Antichrist system because they'll shine like that for him. In order for her to live up to and to reach her full potential as a helpmate, she must be doing the work that God has called her and equipped her to do. That's the way that she could fulfill the role of a helpmate for him. A man is not permitted to take the woman and use her for whatever work he can get out of her, which is what the world does, by the way. I'm not saying they don't do it. I'm saying that's not God's will. He didn't lay that, when he laid the role of the sexes out and he laid out what he commanded her to do and what he commanded the man to do, they're different. The roles are different and we need to raise our children like they're different. Amen! The boys and girls, the young men and young ladies, they're different. You know, we hear that all the time. Well, for a second income, or for health insurance, or to pay other half of the mortgage, or to pay, I've heard men say, well, pay their fair share. What does that even mean? Right, what does that even mean? Because the truth be told, you couldn't pay your wife what she's worth anyway. You couldn't even begin. I know I couldn't. You couldn't even begin to do that. I'll give you one example. Just have the phone ring and a kid have a dirty diaper and you try to do it. You watch what men do when they run around and try to do what a woman does. Man, they can't do it. I know I can't do it. It's a mess. I was like, how in the world do they deal with that? Well, because God made him to deal with it. That's why. And the value that is in them guiding your home, you couldn't pay for that. You could hire a whole staff. And they still couldn't do what love can do from that woman. What a loving heart can do. You can't pay for that. And if you don't see that, man, you're ungrateful. You are just plain ungrateful. God help you. You need to get right with God. See for it. That's not what God's purpose and plan is. And what happens is the home is tore down because of it. And the homes are tore down because of it today. What does a woman have to do to destroy her home? Nothing. Just do nothing. And it decays. You don't have to do anything bad. You don't have to be a child molester. You don't have to, you don't have to, you don't have to be a drunkard. You just do nothing and watch the whole thing fall apart. Literally, in your family, in your home, if your wife sat around and did nothing, it would destroy everything in your house, in your family. It would destroy it. Why? She does nothing. But she wasn't doing like terrible bad. Well, no, she was, she was allowing it to decay. She's allowing it to just fold in on itself and destroy it. See, for Christians, your lack of obedience is doing enough to destroy. If you don't obey the Lord, you'll destroy everything around you. Don't ever think for one minute, anyone in this room, that you and I can disobey the clear commands of God in this book, and that there's no consequences for that. Oh, pastor doesn't know. Well, pastor don't have to know, God knows. I don't have to know, your brethren don't have to know, God knows. If you disobey God, he knows. Be sure your sin will find you out, right? By the way, a home is either built up or it's left to decay. Proverbs 14, one, every wise woman buildeth her house. That means she is actively building her house, build death, right? That means she's working towards building that house. Ongoing, working, right? She's not stopping. She's not backing off. She's not, no, she's actively building her home. That's what a wise woman does. So what does that mean? Like Brother Paul said, we're not reactive, we're proactive. We're not reactive people. Oh, I have to react to this and I have to do this. They're doing this and I'm doing, no. You're proactive. You're building your house. You're working on it. You're not being slack, but you're working hard on what you have to do. You're not waiting for, well, so-and-so did this, so I'm not doing this. No, that's not how we live our lives. It's like I told those people yesterday. I had to have this lesson with these young people. I told them, you know, there's personal responsibility. That girl honked her horn, didn't pay attention, and ran into somebody. I don't care if she's LGBTQ or whatever she is. It was her fault. She did it. And she was warned not to do it. The cop went over there and warned her and said, don't do that. Move along. Don't be doing that stuff. And what did she do? She didn't heed the warning that she was given. That wasn't a bad advice, it was good advice. She said, stop causing a disruption and honking your horn like that. You honk your horn when somebody's in trouble. It's like crying wolf, you don't do that. You don't honk your horn, that's not a game. When you honk a horn, people look, because they're concerned that somebody might get hurt. So what'd that lady do? She's wasting her horn, and then she runs into somebody. What is that? And then try to tell those kids that, you know, that's her fault. That was personal responsibility. Yes, you tried to blame us for it. They tried to blame us for it. I'm like, are you kidding me? Do you know what personal responsibility is? Same thing with a wise woman. She built with their house, but the foolish pluck at that down with her hands. She's not actively building. She's, she's tearing it down. brick by brick, destroying her home, destroying the foundation of her home. And a man also destroys his own home for an extra income. Oh, I want to make money. I want to do this. We need this. We need that. So I'm going to send my wife out of the home, away from our children, right away from our responsibilities. And what happens? Well, it's going to cost you more money to do that. And it's definitely going to cost you more heartache. as some total strangers raise your children. By the way, let me say, some total psychopath strangers, devil-possessed statist raise your children. Is that more accurate? Does that help you? Because let me remind you, it takes a village to raise an idiot. Okay. They proved that. Look, you had a whole bunch of publicly educated children out there yesterday that don't know the difference between boys and girls. Or personal responsibility. Why? Publicly educated. By a bunch of psychopath statists. And of course people can make it out of that. But it takes the grace of God. They got to be saved. Right? They got to be born again. And they don't want nothing to do with it. They'll see through it. Again, sin brings certain situations that you can't change. Some people have to go through some things because of divorce, because of different things. That's not the same thing. There are consequences for things. And God will give you the grace to get through those things. But we don't create those scenarios. You see the difference? We don't create them. We didn't make it. We just have to live with it and deal with it. And God will bless you through that. Right? So don't ever forget that. It's not hopeless in any case. You know, when you're going through any of those situations, those aren't hopeless situations. There are reasons to trust the Lord and depend on his grace and say, you know what? I'm going to follow this book in my own life, no matter if everybody around me is anti-Christ. Because remember, Daniel and his Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego were children that were in the midst of a crooked and perverse nation, Babylon. And they still served the Lord and were faithful. They didn't put themselves in Babylon. You didn't put yourself in that situation, but sin and other things have caused that, and that's where you have to deal with, right? Understand that. And you can still shine in the world, right? You can still shine as a light in the world. Remember that. But I'm telling you a more excellent way, right? This is God's way. This is God's excellent way to follow. And I'm talking about people that choose to knowingly disobey this, right? It's their choice. They make that. That is where the woman, though, helps the best. The sphere of her work, the strength of her gifts are designed for the home. She's designed to help you in the home to manage the affairs of the home. That's where she's the strongest. That's where her best help ever comes from. Titus 2, 4, again, that they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. Now I want you to turn to kind of a sister verse of that is 1 Timothy chapter five. So turn there and I'll show you. He's saying the exact same thing in the epistle. By the way, these are the pastoral epistles. So he's instructing Timothy and Titus of how they're supposed to lead the men, how he's supposed to lead the men and women of those churches that they're starting. Why is he, why is he having this conversation with them? Number one, for your benefit in the future, my benefit, right? But also for them, why they were Gentiles. They didn't know what a good biblical structure was for a home. They didn't know what a good marriage was. They didn't know what good childbearing was. They didn't know any of those things. Remember, they're a bunch of heathens that just got saved. They don't have a clue. So Paul, being The apostle to the Gentiles, which is you, the church, right? Paul being, he lays down the order. You wouldn't know if it wasn't for the apostle Paul. That's why he's so hated by everybody. Because Paul lays down the order, otherwise you wouldn't have a clue about it. So he lays it down very specifically. So you don't have to be confused about what God expects from you. My question is, do you desire to obey it? That's the real question. Not whether you're ignorant of it. I intend to educate you, which is my duty. What I want to know is, are you willing to follow it? That's my desire is that you are, but I can't make that happen. But I sure can give you all the evidence you need to be successful from this book. And then you can read it yourself and learn and grow. Amen? 1 Timothy 5, 14. I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully. Now I'll give you a hint. The giving none occasion to adversary to speak reproachfully is a sister interpretation or verse that explains what he actually just said in Titus. What was that? To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. So you don't bring reproach unto God. So you don't bring reproach unto the word of God. He's saying the same thing, right? He's saying the same thing. So reproach and blasphemy go hand in hand when it comes to our walk with God and what God expects from us. So he tells them to guide the house. Young women, the younger women, marry, bear children. Why? It keeps them out of trouble. You'll have all kinds of other trouble, but a man keeps you out of trouble. So there is, there is sort of some truth to barefoot and pregnant, but, uh, but you can wear shoes. There's nothing in there that says that you can't, but anyway, there's truth to that, right? Because that's actually, that's actually a bed with child keeps you out of trouble a lot of times, right? If you're loving your children, if you're loving your husband, If the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary. So they don't give any reason to the adversary to speak reproachfully against Christ by their poor testimony. For some are already turned aside after Satan, he said. So in other words, if the younger women don't marry, they don't bear children, if possible, and guide the house, they're giving occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully. Again, that's if possible. Some can't have children, and that's Something you bring before the Lord and you ask God for. Anyway, which is the same thing that Paul says in Titus, right? A keeper at home is not a matter of preference. It's a biblical command of the divine order of the sexes. It's not a matter of preference. Well, you know, hey, you can do anything you want. Yeah, I mean, somebody says, well, does somebody have to be a keeper at home to go to your church? No, I can't enforce anybody to do that. I can't make you do anything. Honestly, I as a pastor, I can't make you do anything. I can preach to you. I have influence. And if you don't do right, I can bring the church and involve them. And then the men can, you know, we can do that that way of a discipline. But if you dig your heels and you say, I'm not going to do it either. All we can do is expel you. That's it. We can't do anything else. I mean, we wouldn't do anything else. It's not our duty. The Bible says that you're given over to the flesh for the destruction of Satan, you know, to Satan for the destruction of the flesh. That at the end, the soul may be saved, right? What's that mean? You ain't gonna lose your salvation. No, but you're gonna feel real bad. Given over to the flesh, like given over to Satan for the destruction of the flesh is kind of like a meat grinder. It'd be like if you were a whole piece of roast right now, and if you're given over to Satan for the destruction of the flesh, you ever seen those big meat grinders? I got a big Hobart meat grinder. Okay? If you're giving over the structure of the flesh, you're that whole roast going in that meat grinder. That's how that's gonna work. Did you lose your salvation? Oh, no. No, not at all. There's worse things. In that sense, there would be nothing worse than that, but it's not possible. So that's why it can't happen. That's why Paul said it's impossible in Hebrews. But the point is, is that your flesh is destroyed, And you're done. You're gonna die. Amen. So in other words, if the younger women don't do what they're supposed to do, that's what happens. Paul is giving it to the Gentiles because they've lived in a society that was largely ignorant of the role of the sexes. The proper way to treat a wife, the proper deportment or conduct of the wife and her sacred duties before God. So then Paul is going back to the original intent that God has for a harmonious home. And that is the man providing and going out and the woman keeping his home, that her work be focused in the home because that is where she is made to glorify God. That's where she shines the most. That's where she is more like Christ than anywhere else in this world, in the home. Turn to Psalm 144.12. Psalm 144, 12. It's another example of this. The difference. That our sons may be as plants grown up in their youth. Where are plants grown up? In a garden. Where's the garden? Outside. Right? Adam was sent to what? Tend the garden. Right? He worked the ground, right? That's what he did. That was outside. That's where the sons are trained, right? To do that, right? They're trained to do that. That our daughters may be as cornerstones, polished after the similitude of a palace. Where do they shine? In the home. Polished cornerstones. You know what those are, don't you? Beautiful, polished, like marble cornerstones in a palace. Right? So Jesus Christ is what? He's the what cornerstone? Chief, right? He's the chief cornerstone, isn't he? So a woman is like Christ when she is what? That our daughters may be as cornerstones polished after the similitude of a palace when she's in the home. She's like Christ when she's guiding the home. When your wife is guiding the home, she is a polished cornerstone. That's what keeps, what happens to the building if there is no cornerstone? It falls apart. So what is the wife? When she is like Christ, she is the cornerstone of the home. Do you understand the importance of that? Don't minimize what God's word says. Don't think that you can improve on it or perfect and get another plan going that, oh, this will work. I can do this. No, you can't. This is God's way. This is the more excellent way. This is God's plan. You can't improve on God's plan. And if you try, you're just going to look like a fool. That's usually what happens to people that try. They look like a fool. Because, oh, I'm going to perfect. There's a better way. There's got to be a better way. No, there is no better way. Because this is God's way. It's always right. So he says, does it work? It always works. It's God's way. What are you talking about? They ask us, well, all this preaching, does it work? Well, of course it works. What do you mean, does it work? Of course it does. It's God's way. It always works. It always accomplishes what God set it out to do. Well, I want instant results. Well, this ain't a fast food restaurant. Right? That's what people want. They want that instant thing. And then most of them fill their church with false one, two, three, repeat after me converts. Right? Then they put them in the ministry and then a lot of them are molesting kids and all this other kind of stuff going on. Why? Well, none of them were converted. Half of them weren't even converted. That's why. They're filthy. And they just keep pushing them up the ranks and pushing them through there and pushing them through there. Why? Because they were impatient. They wanted those instant results right away. They want to see all those instant results. They want to see all those instant things right away. They want to see all that stuff right away. That's not how God works. There are times that you'll see more of that, right? There are times that you can see that. But generally speaking, preachers in church, the church is a garden enclosed, right? So it's a garden. Plants don't grow up in a day. They don't grow to maturity in a day. Amen. That needs to be understood. Now, if a man sends his wife to work for him or to be a man, he's out of the will of God and she's out of her God-given protected place. He removes her from the protection that God gave her. She's vulnerable to many troubles and trials that she's not equipped to battle. The battleground for the wife is the home. I don't mean that she turns it into a battlefield, but that's it. I got to be clear about that. Yeah, that's my battlefield. Or with my husband, no. The battleground for the wife is the home though, right? It's the battlefield because that's where Satan wars against the work that she does. I don't think you think about that lady enough that when you have that opposition in your home as you're raising your children and you're going through that, like you see it all as carnal. You see it all fleshly. Well, you don't think you have as many enemies as we do when we go out and preach the Bible in the open air? You don't have as many devils that hate you and hate the work you do too? There's a whole kingdom out there that hates everything that you do. Right? I'm not getting spooky on you. I'm just telling you the truth. God gave you armor in Ephesians 6. That's not figurative. It's literal spiritual armor that you were given for a reason. Why? You have a war to do. Now, your battle is not the same as my battle when I go out in the world or when you men go to work and deal with things that you have to deal with in the world. And you've got a battle on your own that you're battling. You're battling through all that stuff. And you need God's grace to get through it. You need the armor of God just to get through a day of work. Of course it's exhausting. Of course it's tiring. It's an antichrist world you're laboring in. Right? Of course. You say, sometimes I just feel so mentally exhausted and so drained. I bet you do. You're literally fighting in an antichrist world to live for God. Of course it is. It's a, it's, it's the battle of the ages. God said when he goes out, he's going to toil and labor in sorrow. If you didn't have any sorrow and it didn't bother you and you weren't, I'd be wondering about you. Of course it's a war. Well, guess what, Mom? Yours is, too, when you wake up in the morning and you face a bunch of children who don't want to do what they're supposed to do, right? And you've got to train them and put the troops in line and get them to be obedient and follow through, and you have to labor through, and you have to have grace, and you have to discipline them, and you have to love them, and you have to show them compassion and care and love and kindness through that. It's a war! Your war is no less important than mine. In fact, in some ways it's more important. Because it's stability, it's stable. It stabilizes the man. when his home is functioning properly, it's a stability to that man. It is an all out war when you have a rebellious kid that you're trying to teach and train and you're telling them the truth and they're looking at you like they know what they're talking about and you're three times their, twice or three times their age and you've been through things and you've been walking with God and they don't know, they don't know anything. They're still wet behind the ears, but they don't want to listen to what mom and dad has to say, right? Sound about right? So you're challenged, right? You're challenged by just going through the normal functions of schooling your children and helping them and guiding them through and preparing the home and making the home orderly and guiding the house through all that. And you don't think you have satanic opposition to that? What do you think, you just went to sleep? Like, you're a Christian, you've been given armor. You weren't given it like as a showpiece. You were given it because you're really worn out about it. So you should be praying against those things and praying for God to strengthen you through that and realize that it's not just flesh and blood, for we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers. There is a war there and Satan does instigate things. He does. And he wants to discourage you too from fighting the war that God has for you to fight. It is a battleground because you're training soldiers. You get that, right? Like you're training soldiers in the home, that's what you're doing? That's your work. Yeah, that's my work too as a pastor and my work as a father, but you're with them all day. You're training soldiers. You're raising up the next generation to fight the Antichrist. Does that hit home? Like, I believe that. In everything in me, I believe that. That's why Satan hates this church. That's why he hates these children being raised up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. He's fearing the army that is being raised! Does it look like I doubt what I'm saying? Look in my eyes! I know full well, God showed me years ago, it's a war! Satan hates him and hates these children. He doesn't want him to serve the Lord He does it because he's afraid of the army that God is raising He's afraid of it Absolutely is so he wants to discourage he wants to get you down. He wants you not to do your work. I Good thing. I don't know what time we started. What time did I start man? I got to go two hours at least no, I'm scared 10 till oh Man, I got another hour and a half. Okay, I'm good. All right Hope you're not hungry, all right? All right, it's fasting time, amen. But the battleground for the wife is the home. She wars against the attacks of Satan on her. She's always praying for wisdom and guidance to guide the home because it's her sphere of work. And it's one that she will answer for at the judgment seat. So then man is not permitted by God to take her from this most important battlefield and work to send her to the world to be vulnerable, to be subject to other men where she's not equipped to do battle, where God never made her to battle there. He never made her to war there. He never made her to fight there. She's equipped for the battle in the home. Man alone without the Holy Scriptures doesn't even know the help that he needs. That's why God appointed the helper and the help that she is to be given to her husband. Man's legacy is built generationally though. The legacy of your family, I'm talking about spiritual. I could care less about money. I don't care about any of that. I care about you walking with God. If you're poor and you walk with God, I'll be happy. If you're rich and you don't, I'll weep for you because I could care less. Amen. God doesn't care about how much money you stack up in a bank for your children over, over spiritually, right? Because, you know, you can pray in anything you need. You don't believe that? Man, I do. You couldn't convince me otherwise. You could never convince me otherwise that I couldn't pray in what I needed. You'll never convince me that. Why? I've seen it. I've watched it. I've watched God do it. And God's no respecter of persons. Amen. None of us are starving. Why? Because God takes care of his own. He takes care of his own children. But man's legacy is built generationally. His legacy lives on long after his death, and so does the woman's through the man. If she does her work, it will be seen generationally. No one will remember the woman's career in the world. Nobody will care. But the woman's children, they'll remember her and how equipped her husband was, how much help she gave him. So then man does not have permission from God to make his wife fulfill the role of a man and send her to do his job. It is counterproductive and is selling out for work that is not nearly as important. Paul gives the guidelines of the woman's work, and it's not in the world, but in the home. Again, Paul says to keep them out of trouble, they should be keepers at home. And with all, they learn to be idle. There ain't nothing worse than idle men and women. By the way, that's why when you come here, I'm always like, you need to get a job, you need to work, you need this, why? Because idle men are dangerous. Having experienced idle men in my ministry and experienced the damage and the wreckage they cause, one of the first thing I say, you want to walk with God, get a job. Get a job, go to work. Why? Because that's the first thing I'm going to tell you when it comes to man. That's the first thing I'm going to tell you. Idle men cause a lot of trouble. Well, idle women that are idle not doing the work that God has called them to do are full of trouble too. Man, you want to wreak some havoc, you be an idle woman that's not doing what you're supposed to be doing. Again, you'll tear the house down, right? Or you'll be a busybody like it says here. And with all they learn to be idle, wandering about from house to house. By the way, that's internet scrolling too. causing trouble and wreaking havoc everywhere. Right? Wreaking havoc everywhere, getting online and scrolling, male or female when it comes to that. Right? And not only idle, but tattlers. Also in busy bodies. Just nosing into everybody's business. Right? And spreading that around. Speaking things which they ought not. They're supposed to keep their mouth shut. Not be spreading all that around. I will, therefore, that the younger women marry. That's why he goes into that. Bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully. For some are already turned aside after Satan. Idle people cause trouble. They need to be busy. You need to be working. Good work, right? Amen. God made us to be busy and to work in whatever our hands find it to do, to do it, not just to sit around and think. You know, David, I don't want to talk about meditating on the scriptures. There ain't nothing wrong with that. God wants you to do that. You know, God wants you to meditate on his word, meditate on these things and good things and read and do those are important. That's all, that's not idleness. You realize that, right? Endless internet scrolling with nothing in mind but dumb stuff or doom scrolling or whatever they want to call it, all that. What is that? It's a waste of life, right? Why? Because you're not accomplishing anything productive. Look, I have learned so much. I've learned so many good things from how to fix stuff and how to do stuff on the, it's a valuable tool. It is. But if you're doing it just to entertain your brain and you're not learning anything, it's a waste of life. Limit how much time you waste on things like that. Because you can't get it back. It's never coming back to you. And there's only so much room in your brain. So if you put too much stupid in there, there's not much room for smart. Right? So put good things in. I love it when somebody tells me they're reading or studying, even if it's not strictly just the scriptures, that's number one, you should be. But when somebody's telling me, oh, I've read in history, I read this, I read that, or I watched this and I learned this on this doc, good, I'm glad it's something productive, that you're filling your brain up with something that's gonna help you and educate you, right? There's nothing wrong with that. The scriptures are always first. But if you're just learning about, if you're just not learning anything and just wasting your brains, God doesn't want you to be idol-like. That's idleness, and it's a waste of life. And you'll answer for it one day. And by the way, it'll dumb you down, but we won't get into that. All right, next, point number 75 here. Women's best gifts wasted on the world. I wanna give you some examples of this. The woman is used to build today in a lot of places. I'm gonna start with the Christian circles, okay? And I got, I thought about this really when I was on vacation, I was going around and I was looking, I saw all the women in different places that they had. And some of them were very good at what they did. And I thought, what a waste. She could be home doing this for a husband and helping him and guiding him. Instead, she's doing it to build this, this big corporation's business to make a bunch of money, right? When she could be investing in children. But it's all like, what really good is it doing there? Yeah, is she profitable? Can she make them money? Of course. But why is it not spent on the way that it should be, that energy and that talent and those gifts? Why is it used somewhere else in the world, wasted in the world? I've watched in fundamentalism, women, they're used to build Bible colleges for pastors. The quickest way to get young men to Bible college is to have young women there. So all the young women go there so they can get married, right? That's the reason they go. And big box fundamentalism was very successful in leeching and stealing all the youth from all the churches by traveling around having fancy singers sing to them and say, ooh, look, you got to go to college. It's so great here. Woo-hoo. And they all jump up and down. And then all the kids go, ooh, I want to go. And they go off to college there. So they drain the churches of all their people. And what are the men stuck doing? making like 14 cents an hour after they figure out that they're not preachers and they're not gonna go pastor a church, they were never called in the first place. Everybody, every young person ever should go to Bible college. Every young person ever, as soon as they turn 18, they should go to Bible college. Could you give me a chapter and verse for that preacher? Matter of fact, could you show me Bible college in the Bible? There, Pastor Big Britches. Dr. Big Britches, could you show me? Oh, you mean it's not there? Oh, what's it for? To build your empire. It's to build their empire. That's what they do. So what happens? I'm telling you, these kids leave Bible college. They spend all that money, they eat ramen noodles, and they do all their work, and they halfway starve themselves, and they ain't got nothing. And then they come out with a degree, right? And then they figure out, no, I'm not called them. pastor or anything like that. I just went to Bible college because my pastor told me I should go because that's where young people go. They go like cattle off to Bible college and they just, the herd van picks them up and they all take, they all take off and they go to Bible college because somebody said they needed to go. Cause if you're going to be a fully equipped person, you got to go to Bible college, whatever that means. Okay, so what happens? So those guys end up making like 14 cents an hour, right? And they get out, and the height of their career is flipping burgers because they have no skills, and nobody can hire them to do anything, right? They're not called to preach. They go back to their church, and they're like, yeah, that didn't work out for me. And they have absolutely nothing going for them at all. What do they have? A degree? They can't preach a lick anyway. Not at all. Not even a little bit. Half of them can't. And they get back there and then they don't have a career. They don't have nothing. They wasted like three years on that. When if their pastor said, hey, I got a bunch of men in my church that are tradesmen. I mean, I got linemen and electricians and these guys and this guy. Why don't you look into one of their, truckers, why don't you look into one of their careers and you can learn to make, a young man to learn to make some money, right? Amen, right? That seems to be like more practical, doesn't it? And then by the way, if you're called to preach, then we'll all see that here. If you're called the pastor, we'll all see that here and we'll train you. And we won't even charge you. What? Oh, don't worry. I pay in gray hairs, but it's okay. But no, but we will, right? Or in no hairs, right, Andrew? But we'll do it and we'll do it for free. And then we'll ordain you and we'll send you out and we'll do it. We'll do it. Why? Because that's what God called us to do. And with enough godly men that are preaching the word of God already and living for God, we'll be able to know if God's called you to do that work. We'll see it, God will show us that, right? And then we'll be a part of that instead of big box money guy out in California that's building a $1.9 million extension on his building that cried to the governor for money or how much ever that was. Please governor. Now what does he get? This big old building, right? So what's my point? Well, they build the colleges. The woman is used to organize another man's office other than her husband. She's used to be a secretary, to be office manager, to be a teacher and administrator for somebody else. To use all her skills to do that, right? I've seen, now let me give you some practical things here, ready? Okay, this is where, this doesn't make me popular. I'm not anyway, so it doesn't matter. Like that guy said, you only have 1800 people on your Facebook page, you loser. I mean, really, 1800, buddy, really? You're gonna make me cry if you keep doing that. Anyway. No idea what that was. Anyway, but I've seen a Christian school. I've seen some things and I'm gonna tell you about them. I've seen a Christian school administrator, a Christian school administrator's children turn into a butch military dyke. Why? Because mom was running the hotel accounting at night, right? So here's this Christian school administrator, right? And he's busting his tail for like, I don't know, maybe 25 cents an hour at the Christian school. And not, I mean, no, seriously, like, don't do it. Like they don't, like, don't start a Christian school. And these, who is that? Oh, is that a little baby? I thought it was somebody whining outside the door mad at me or something. Like, man, you're scaring me. Ryan, you got me back. Touche, Ryan. OK. All right. All right. All right. Like, what is that? Somebody's moaning over here. All I've seen is Marcy's hat, so I don't know if it was her or what. She's throwing her voice. But anyway, but what happened? Here's this Christian school administrator, right? He's working all day long and they'll work you like 20 hours a day anyway, give you like five hours of sleep or four hours of sleep or whatever. And they're working this right. And then the mom at night is not with her husband. She's at a hotel accounting. What would happen? Their daughters turned into a bunch of, well, one turned into a homosexual, a dyke or whatever. Send him off to the military. See, that just seems so odd to me to send a woman to the military, a girl to the military. That's the oddest thing ever. You're sexist. Well, I don't care what you call me, I think it's weird. I think it's the most unmanly thing any country could ever do. I got an idea, let's send our women over there. I got an idea, let's not send anybody. But, okay, right? Anyway, I've seen the wife of an evangelist. run a high school and be the high school principal. The woman, she was the high school principal, is the high school principal. By the way, when her own children were a horrible testimony, they were out running around, getting drunk, partying, doing all kinds of other stuff. He was just whoring around and everything. And she's teaching the Christian school the whole time. And he's being an evangelist the whole time. And I said to the man, I said, look, I told my pastor, I said, look, I don't want that man down here preaching for me. Why? Because his children are like in his home right now. They're not like grown up and left. They're young kids in his home right now whoring around and broadcasting it everywhere. He goes, well, if you have a problem with that, you should talk to him. I'm like, preacher, why don't you have a problem with it? Why do I have a problem? Why don't you have a problem with it? Right? But he's still on the road, away from his kids, never seeing them. So she's running the Christian school. She's the principal of the Christian school. She's managing other people's children while her children are doing that. Right? And by the way, they didn't keep her a teacher. They promoted her to principal for all that good fruit. That's the Independent Fundamental Baptist for you. I've seen an IFB athletic and groundskeeping coach have an affair with his daughter's best friend, who was over at the house all the time, but mom was a career professional woman, never around her daughter. Seen it. Mom's not around. Wife's not around. She's a professional. She's in a career. Got a headset looking all fancy, perfect makeup, fancy business outfits at work all the time. Meanwhile, this is an independent fundamental Baptist church that's supposed to stand for something and believe in something. What do they believe in? Keeping the corporation running. So what happened? So the man had an affair with his daughter's friend. By the way, the girl was like a, the girl was like a butch dude anyway. His daughter was like, he was the athletic director. So they raised her like a girl, or I mean, raised her like a man. So he was, she was all like butch and sports and ugh, and like all manly. And his wife was never around him. She's always out there. She's always out there working a career, making money to fund his poorly paid career at the Christian school. Are you following me? Do you understand why I believe number one, what the scriptures say? And number two, I've seen the other side of it and I hate it. I hate all their corporation garbage. That's why I rejected all of it. I just, I hated it. Made me sick. Her daughter was mostly manly in sports and was raised like a boy. Her father literally raised her like a masculine boy. Here's another one. I've seen two IFB Christian school teachers raise hellions. One that killed his own sister, who actually had a Christian testimony. Killed her in cold blood about a year and a half ago. Didn't only just kill her, but cut her body up into many pieces. What are they busy? Teaching other people's children. raising other people's children, teaching in the Christian school, making pennies on the dollar, living poor and being able to take care of themselves. Why? To run a Christian school to take care of somebody else's children while all their children are going to hell. The other one's like a butch lesbian and the other one is like, it's like, wait a minute, what's going on there? I'll tell you what's going on there. Is it because these people are inherently evil and wicked people? No. It's because when you disobey, I'm not talking about the man that killed him, of course he is, but I'm saying, were their parents, I don't think so. I mean, I don't know. I mean, I think it's kind of weird when you have a few children that turn out like complete, there's a difference in running away from the Lord and chopping your sister up into pieces. There's a little bit of a difference there. I mean, we could agree about that, right? Like there's a little bit of a difference there. Like there's a difference in a wayward son and then somebody that actually mutilates their own sister, like sets her up to come over and she's with child and he kills her on purpose because she's with child. I don't give you, I'm not reading you, you realize I'm not reading you illustrations from a book, right? This one says sermons from parables, but I'm not reading you that. I'm giving you actual, factual things that I have seen. Killed his own sister, mutilator. Wait, you mean they turned out just as bad as the LGBTQ crowd and had the same results? Yeah, because they used the same methods. Are you understanding what I'm saying here? They followed the same methods as the world and you think you're gonna add Jesus to the methods of this antichrist world and it's gonna turn out good for you? No! You have to follow what he said in his book. This is his plan, this is what God said. and you should follow it. It's dangerous to ignore the plain scriptures. It's dangerous to neglect what God has said. They use the same design as the world did. They took anti-Christ principles and used them to raise their children. And in all those examples, mom was gone, doing a man's job, and the home was neglected. God's order, design, and way was not precious to them, and neither were their children. They were in the rat race of the independent fundamental Baptist land, and their families suffered greatly for it. And you think that would cause that pastor to step back a little bit and look and say, you know what? What's going on here? No. You know why? Because the Christian school was making tons of money. because it makes more money than the church probably brings in. Why? Because now they have two-year-olds coming in and doing daycare. So wait a minute, a Christian IFB church, they're teaching the principle of dropping off your two-year-olds or young children like that to be watched all day so mom can be out of the home to make money. Well, yeah, because they do the same thing with the Christian school. They hire all of the wives in the Christian school to be teachers in the Christian school, so all their children attend the Christian school. Because somewhere in the Bible, they find some Christian school somewhere. If the state doesn't do it right, then the church is going to do it instead. So all the churches did was take the same principles of the state and do the same exact thing, but Christianize it a little bit, like Constantine did. Am I making any sense to you? I hope I am. I sure hope the word of God, I sure hope it's plain, these plain examples that I'm giving you. Like I don't have these convictions like, and I don't have the, I don't follow these because I think it's a really good idea or I thought of it. No, it's, it's written in the word of God. It's the authority for what we do. And it really matters how your children are raised. And if you don't want to raise a bunch of psychopaths, then don't hand them off to them and don't use their principles. Don't follow their ways. We're not to learn the way of the heathen. We're not to follow them You know All these people they taught other children and neglected their own Now I want to read you this secular article here that was very good by the way That went along that goes along with this same thing. I've showed you the christian examples of that Now i'll just give you the kind of more of a secular one but it's pretty eye-opening, this article. I'm actually gonna put it online on our website. But this article was found in, is it Reminis? Reminis? Say it? Reminis. Reminis Magazine and published in their January, February issue of 1993. May this testimony be another witness, right? Of what the Lord Jesus Christ has instructed, said one. The future, it starts right here by Roy Remain. The story you're about to read is a little heavier than the kind of features you've become accustomed to in reading in this magazine. But I think it's worth printing because I feel it eloquently makes a point about what's really important in life. It seems to me that there are many women over 50 today who occasionally look back on their lives and feel they've accomplished little. They see today's young women getting college degrees, leaping into the mainstream of business life, making their mark, and making a difference, and leading exciting lives. She puts all those in. By comparison, many over 50 women feel, all I did was stay home and raise a family. I really didn't do much with my life. Well, I ran across a piece in the local newspaper yesterday, and it offered a whole new perspective. By the way, this was written in 1993. New perspective on this. I immediately called Leah Lampone, the writer, to ask if I could share it with the readers. With her okay here. First, with her okay, here first is some background on Leah. She had it all, at least in the eyes of others. After she got a law degree from Marquette University, she became a clerk in the Wisconsin Supreme Court, became an assistant U.S. attorney, and in 1979, at age 31, she was elected and named circuit judge Leah M. Lampone. In a newspaper interview back then, she said she had decided to become a lawyer because she wanted to be something more than just an Italian mother who was always there to wash clothes, wipe noses, and cook meals. Today, she had a dramatic change in her attitude. She's had a dramatic change in her attitude. She's giving it all up to be a full-time mother, and her reasons should provide solace for many women who never had a taste of life in the fast lane outside their homes. Leah, now 44, had temporarily left her post as circuit judge recently when she and her husband Kevin had their third son, Patrick. This is the moving letter she wrote that announced her decision to resign from her job. She said this, with the scheduled day of my return to the bench swiftly approaching, it has become increasingly clear that more important work calls me. As I write, I gaze upon my newborn son and answer to our years of prayer unexpectedly granted late in life. Patrick is napping now, exhausted from his morning's work, viewing the world from his mother's shoulder. He sleeps secure in the knowledge that upon his waking cry, he may reclaim his rightful perch. The burden of his weight on my no longer youthful back is lightened by the knowledge that this tender nurturing will have a lifelong impact on his perception of himself and the world around him. My decision to leave the bench was not easily made. I hope I have served well the trust the people of Wisconsin have placed in me. Yet the job I leave has changed dramatically from that which I first undertook. In each of my judicial assignments over the years, I have seen, heard, and felt the unraveling of society as palpably as a slap in the face. Caught in the trap of lifelong welfare dependence, generations of impoverished and dysfunctional mothers, ignorant of the need for nurturing and incapable of adequate parenting, have produced children bereaved of hope and vision without the capacity for empathy for another human being. I omit fathers here only because in many cases we see today, they have seemingly become superfluous after conception." That's her quote. In this environment, She's talking about what happens when a mother is not home, and you listen to this. She says, Unfortunately, government programs, well-intentioned though they may be, cannot stop the erosion. We cannot be the nurturing parents that the people who come before us never had. Faced with this reality, our job in the court system has become frustrating, as the Band-Aids we apply do little to halt the rapidly spreading cancer. With these thoughts in mind, a reordering of my priorities is overdue. Looking back upon my years as both judge and mother, I have come to realize that the greatest impact I have made in any life is that which I've made in the lives of my own children. I have less than another decade to spend with my Daniel, who's age 11, and my Michael, who's age is nine, before they are off to their life's adventure. I wistfully dream of freezing time for a few years and thank the Lord for Patrick, who has his entire childhood yet ahead of us. While I suppose I could continue as both judge and mother at age 44, after the stress of a hard day, I doubt I could be all the mother that two young boys and an infant deserve. Patrick calls and hence I must close both this letter and my career in the judiciary. I leave with alarm at what I have seen daily. We must do what we can to discourage dysfunctional household units and abdication to the government of families role in teaching moral, spiritual and social values. Could you look at this? What she said here is so true. You're abdicating your responsibility to the government to teach moral, spiritual and social values. Really? That's what happens when you leave your children like that, though. Continuation on our current course will render our courts to being little more than processing centers for movement through foster homes, treatment centers, and penal institutions. Hopefully, by investing more of my time in my home, I will look up at the end of my life to see three young men emotionally vibrant and self-reliant, ready to face their life's trauma. With that solid foundation, perhaps they will be better equipped to meet the challenge of putting back together the pieces of society we let crumble in our hands. Isn't, and here comes the editor, he says this, isn't that a profound and moving letter? I hope many women reading this who sometimes conclude they haven't done much with their lives, except raise a good family, will keep this piece and reread it whenever they need a boost. Leah's letter provides evidence that by raising a good family, they've contributed a lot to this country's future. Do you see what I mean? Here's the thing, and that's the end of that. But you see, here's something that, obviously, we take our authority for what we do from the Bible, first and foremost, always. But you see somebody that's applying a biblical principle to their life here, and it's gonna be blessed. I mean, because it's God's way. We, this, you have all that mess of children that you just saw at Northfield Pride because of what, this right here. That's why you have that. They don't have stable homes. What's that? Yeah, the parents were in the event anyway. And at Defeat of Jesse James Days when they're out there, other parents are getting drunk. They're not even around them. You know, this 14 year old girl, You know, she said that, and I don't know if it's true or not, and I'm not doubting her story, but I, sometimes you question some things they say, but she said that she was raped. And now she's cutting off her breasts and she's, she said, right, she's, or did, I don't know when she's doing all this stuff, right? And I know that can happen. People are wicked, that those things can happen anywhere and at any time. But here's the thing I want you to remember, though, about that. It's a lot harder when mom is there. When mom is there, when mom is watching, and mom is home, and it creates a stability in the home, and your children aren't off running around with different people that nobody knows, and they're influencing them or affecting their lives. When you take mom out of the home, and the children are off with no parental guidance, much trouble ensues, much trouble, much danger, much damage ensues. That's why, that's why it's important to follow God's way. Woman's best talents and gifts are wasted in the world. And here's a judge that there was a very successful judge in that sense, admits and walks away from it and says, you know what? That's the truth. My children need me. If I wanna influence anything, if you wanna influence all these people that are patriots and everything else, and they wanna change America, why don't you start by number one, getting saved, number two, getting obedient to the Lord and getting into a good local New Testament church and serving the Lord and being faithful and raising your family right and continue to the order that God has put down in his word. You'll do more to change the country than anybody. you will do more to change the nation. It does, that's what happened. Of old, that's what happened. If men got back to doing what they're supposed to do and ladies got back to doing what God has equipped them to do. And like I said, I say before, and I'll say it again, there's nothing more beautiful than a well-oiled machine of a family that works together, of a husband and a wife, one flesh working together. There is nothing. Besides, you know the Lord Jesus himself that says that that's a picture of a marriage is a picture of him in the church So when it's working together, right and when that husband and wife is working together as one flesh There's nothing greater on earth, right? But when they're not there's nothing more destructive for the raising of children Father in heaven Lord, we thank you Thank you for the truth and thank you for Just the straight facts from the word of God. And Lord, we just pray that you'd bless your people. Help us to follow you, Lord, and be obedient to you, no matter what the consequences are. Help us not to take on the world's principles, but to follow you. Strengthen your church, Lord. Strengthen us. Thank you, Lord, that we're counted worthy to even have some persecution for your namesake. Thank you, Lord, that you've allowed our voices to be magnified so much that it moves people. Lord, may they see the Savior and be born again. In Jesus name we pray. Amen.