Do you laugh anymore in ministry? Better yet, do you laugh at yourself in ministry or are you so serious that people see you as a mood-killer? Successful leadership takes a particular type of mood; and that mood is not drudgery or misery. The atmosphere you create is the fuel for your team. Everything you feel doesn't have to be said out loud, and every feeling doesn't have to be expressed to the team.
However, almost everything you think should be written down, and processed with the right people to help you overcome challenges. Any General will tell you that in the midst of war, your mindset is critical, your focus is vital, and laughter and high moral are essential. The people that follow you need to experience small victories. People do not support leaders who have defeated mindsets. People want to follow true warriors of the faith who take the risks and look beyond themselves. They want leaders who enjoy serving God's Kingdom, and seeing a big God work.
In the children's books of Winnie the Pooh, Tigger has "can-do" ADHD vision thinking, while Eeyore generally lives in the "can't-do" depression mindset. One is glorious and energetic, and one is gloomy and draining. Don't be an Eeyore.
Listen to one of His quotes and think about how it makes you feel. “'Good morning, Eeyore,' said Pooh. 'Good morning, Pooh Bear,' said Eeyore gloomily. 'If it is a good morning, which I doubt,' said he."
What?! This is so negative, and it did affect my mood. Or listen to this excellent leadership quote From USMC Lewis "Chesty" Puller (The most highly-decorated Marine in history). "We've been looking for the enemy for some time now. We've finally found him. We're surrounded. That simplifies our problem..." He pushed thousands of Marines to win wars in the midst of negativity. This is what a leader does.
I want to challenge you in whatever capacity or area you lead in to be a person that challenges people to be better and motivates people to do more, dream more, and be more. Lead your people by causing them to have a "can-do" attitude as they work, so they can achieve more and inspire others as they perspire in their work. Your mood is everything. Put it in check and watch how your mood will affect those around you. Oh yeah, don't forget to laugh!
Here are some practical things you can put into practice to help your leadership attitude improve.
1. Always look for good in others. Be known in your organization as someone who is still on the lookout for what is right with people. Catch people doing right more than you catch them doing wrong. Catch people doing things right, not just the right things.
2. Read the room climate around you. When I walk into a room or sit around a table, I read the moods of the team members that are around me to better engage with them. Be the thermostat not the thermometer. Engage and set the temperature in the room for a great meeting.
3. Be pleasant and cooperative with others. Be cooperative by sharing ideas and shortcuts. This is another example of how mood affects productivity. Whatever you know, make sure at least two other people know it too. Share the gold!
4. Manage the emotions of change around you. If you are a leader handling a change initiative, don't avoid the emotions that accompany the change process. Set the mood and manage the feelings – or they will control you.
Remember, the mood of the leader is the mood of the team!