Wait for sex and marriage? Evangelicals conflicted
The agonizing message to a young Christian couple in love: Sex can wait, but so can marriage.
"It's unreasonable to say, 'Don't do anything ... and wait until you have degrees and you're in your 30s to get married,"' said Margie Zumbrun, who did wait for sex, and married Stephen fresh out of Purdue University. "I think that's just inviting people to have sex and feel like they're bad people for doing it."
Against that backdrop, a number of evangelicals are promoting marrying earlier, nudging young adults toward the altar even as many of their peers and parents are holding them back....
If a couple has half a mind to marry, then get married. It's a lot better for a person to marry one wife or one husband than to "play the field". It is about commitment on both parts. Sleeping/living together with no vows makes it so easy to end the relationship when things get even slightly rough. I'm glad I waited.
"Couples like the Zumbruns are caught between two powerful forces ‚ÄĒ evangelical Christianity's abstinence culture, with its chastity balls and virginity pledges, and societal forces pushing average marriage ages deeper into the 20s.
"The call for young marriage raises questions: How young is too young? What if marriage is viewed as a ticket to guilt-free sex? What about the fact that marrying young is the No. 1 predictor of divorce?"
I am glad I am just a Christian and not an "evangelical." The source of confusion is obvious: listening to, and being conformed to, the world.
Paul's advice in 1 Corinthians 7 is still valid, of course: It is better to marry than to burn.
If our young people were trained better, the pressure to wait for marriage would not be nearly so great, since couples would look to the husband to provide and protect and to the wife to raise children and make a home.
Only the husband should therefore potentially be exposed to the corrupting influence of the universities, and he is better able to withstand it, since Adam was not deceived. Even then, there are many very good-paying careers that do not require one to swim in the cesspool of secular learning at the Academy.