Spent Matches I have found that using the discovery process outlined in Spent Matches: Igniting the signal fire for the spiritually satisfied, has been invaluable in moving my kids through their spiritual journeys. It also helps out line how the can move through 7 Journeys, Earner to Heir, Receiver to Giver...etc. The book talks more about the church than the family, but is still very applicable to making sure we follow Matthew 28 in all aspects of our lives.