My Dad used to say: “You've got two ears and one mouth; you should speak accordingly.” In James 1:19-20 we read: So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath; for the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God. (NKJV) In the midst of trials we should listen more, speak less, and have a very slow fuse. Our objective should be to keep the unity of the spirit.
Paul wrote to the Christians in Ephesus pleading with them: to walk worthy of the calling with which you were called, with all lowliness and gentleness, with longsuffering, bearing with one another in love, endeavoring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. (Ephesians 4:1-3 NKJV) The unity of the spirit(that is to be of one heart and one mind) is to be guarded, to be kept, to be valued at all costs. To keep this unity of the Spirit we are to be humble, gentle, longsuffering, bearing with one another in love, and to work hard at this. All of this in the bond of peace.
The worthy walk is the glue that holds the peace together. Within the church this appears as we agree to agree. This is done in humility, with gentleness and longsuffering. If we are willing to suffer a little by keeping our mouth closed about those non-essential things and willing to bear with one another in love and not let misplaced wrath interrupt unity, then we will have the unbreakable bond of peace.