In my dealings with the topic biblical courtship, I have found that, to my disappointment and often discouragement, there seems to be a lot of opinion but regrettably, a real lack of clarity.
Reading many articles, talking with other believers, and being a believer who is currently in a courtship myself, I have found myself wrestling vigorously with the different ideologies which are flying about in answer to the following question: How do we, as followers of Jesus Christ, engage in courtship in a biblical way, a way in which honours and glorifies God, leaving both parties obedient to the Word?...
Don't even know what you are talking about,the subject is not husbands,fathers or wives,the subject is the time before that....and my comment still stands that many people are lazy in their relationships and adopt a God'll get ya if you leave attitude which is anything but biblical.
So you are essentially total strangers when you marry having invested no real time or commitment for fear of developing feelings of love for one another...brilliant....people divorce because they claim they have grown apart and fell out of love so lets solve the problem by starting out not loving or knowing each other at all....brilliant.
âHow beautiful, then, the marriage of two Christians, two who are one in home, one in desire, one in the way of life they follow, one in the religion they practice . . . Nothing divides them either in flesh or in spirit . . . They pray together, they worship together, they fast together; instructing one another, encouraging one another, strengthening one another. Side by side they visit God's church and partake God's banquet, side by side they face difficulties and persecution, share their consolations. They have no secrets from one another; they never shun each other's company; they never bring sorrow to each other's hearts . . . Seeing this Christ rejoices. To such as these He gives His peace. Where there are two together, there also He is present.â -Tertullian
Gil Rugh said or, wrote: What should characterize the marriage relationship between two believers? What does God say about the quality of marriage as He intends it to be? What as God provided to enable and empower believers to realize the fullness of joy, happiness and blessings in the marriage relationship? A study of relevant Scriptures reveals that the key to happiness in marriage is for both partners to be living in submission to the Holy Spirit. As the Spirit controls the life of each one, unity and harmony will characterize that relationship and take care of every problem in that marriage. Marriage problems are in reality the result of one or both partners not living in submission to the Holy Spirit of God. By laying the groundwork of this underlying issue, the real potential and full provision God has made for happiness in marriage can be realized in increasing measure as these truths are put into practice.