I hope you know i care about you. Whatever your feelings are about some here on this site, i would just encourage you to take the high road. Your speech is unbecoming of a saint. Believe me, ive lost it a few times here as well, so i can relate. But there is a better way to handle it. I say this out of love.
Like the proverb says..." a soft answer turns away wrath".
It took quite a bit of time for the Lord to clean my mind from preconceived notions on this subject (along with other subjects) that were taught to me by teachers i listened to. Nothing can take the place of a personal teaching relationship between us and the Lord in his word.
Yes, we agree, it is all according to election. To the jew first,and the gentile.
1) yes. Saul(Paul) was the perfect example of this. Blameless according to the law. Seeking a works based righteousness. Denying the Son of God. Yet, The Lord called him to salvation. Up till today. For example, one of my dearest brothers in Christ is a jew according to the flesh. Who was called out of darkness. And was a chosen instrument in my true conversion.
As do I John. That was no accident. How lovley it is when the Lord uses the power of few words. Sometimes we need the Lord to put us into a cell of his creation. Because the cell I tend to build is not sufficient. It sometimes is void of a lock on the door.