More helpful principles A charitable use of the tongue requires that we speak the truth in love; that we not flatter; and that we not gossip or slander. The section on gossip and slander is especially vivid, with word pictures from the Bible depicting the slanderer as a flame-thrower, a farmer sowing corrupt seed, and more.
Helpful message Primarily focuses on a charitable concern for others: that we are to do good when we can, not delaying, not declining and hoping someone else will do it. Also, not to ever devise evil. The message mentions the prior stages before we reach the point of actually devising evil: a bitterness not put to death, leading to lack of communication, coldness and finally to actual plans to harm. It's sobering to realize what may come of attitudes not dealt with in their early stages.
Very helpful material! Contact, communication, candor, constancy, and love . . . the essential elements of meaningful, intimate, constructive friendship. Face-to-face contact to be preferred; time must be set aside for friendship; disclosure of one's thoughts, dreams, troubles, challenges needed; retreat, withdrawal, avoidance not to be practised; initiative to be taken; truthfulness always--and this does not mean indiscretion or haste, but it does preclude all disingenuousness; loyalty required . . . and Jesus Christ's friendship with his disciples the example for us.
Wise Foundations The foundations of friendship in the nature of God: God is triune. In the creation of man: not good for Adam to be alone. Sin destroys friendships; but sin also underscores the vital need for friendships. In a world of sin with sinful hearts we need to have and to be faithful friends who "exhort one another daily . . . lest anyone be hardened by the deceitfulness of sin." Lonerism isn't biblical or safe. A powerful biblical incentive to do the work of biblical friendship.
Truthful, Timely, Tasteful Finally, our communication is to be truthful, timely, and "tasteful." Truthfulness means more than just not lying; it includes not denying the truth, not failing to confront serious problems, and more. This section is very penetrating. Timeliness covers the importance of meting out our words at the moments when they are the most likely to do good. "Tastefulness" means words that are pleasant, persuasive, and wise. There is a great deal of food for thought in this final message in the series. The whole series is worth listening to more than once.
More helpful material! Too little speech and too much speech both must be dealt with. Pastor Domm gives examples of each, with causes and cures--ranging from temperament and upbringing to pride, anger, fear, loneliness and more. The wide-ranging examples are especially thought-provoking. We can be speaking too little in one way and too much in another, at the same time, and great issues are at stake in relationships that matter.
The Flip Side. Who listens and how? Communication: it's not a monologue, but a dialogue; so good listening, not just good speaking, is called for. We are to listen with our whole being, till we can state the other person's position so accurately that the other will be able to say "yes, that is what I was trying to say"; to listen with gracious discernment, not erring by being censorious when charity is called for, or naive about serious problems and deception; and to listen to the right things: not to gossip and falsehood and empty things, but to sound counsel and reproof. Not listening can have profound effects. A searching application shows the roots of our failure to listen to others in another kind of not-listening, of a surprising and serious kind.
Very Helpful Makes the Scriptural connection between who we are and how we speak--a connection which is not always emphasized. Without godly character, effective communication will not take place. Several key passages of Scripture are opened up and combined, yielding six major character areas essential to effective communication, including humility, gentleness, and forebearance. Wise and searching and helpful material, kindly and faithfully presented.
Great Sermon! Clear, eye-opening foundation principles for communication. God as the perfect and original communicator, man made in his image, a scale model of God, made to communicate like God. The goal of communication defined: words and actions designed to promote good relationship. This is how God communicates. Then comes the fall into sin, w/ disastrous consequences for communication. The serpent the first corrupt communicator and destroyer of relationship. Redemption from sin to be evidenced in our becoming more and more able to communicate in God's way, to the promotion of good relationship. Exhortations to be aware of how we communicate and to receive the feedback of others about that humbly. Excellent message.
Soli Deo Gloria! Just wanted to thank you for sharing this testimony! I was first directed to this by my younger brother who is a die-hard rugby fan (unusual for an American). There are very few Christians today who will stand for Christ when it costs them so much- but the truth is, He gave us everything and we owe him our all! I appreciate Euanâ€™s convictions about Sunday being sacred to the Lord; when I first started college (or Uni as you say over there), I came to the same conviction as far as my studies go- that I would not study on Sunday. Praise God for his promise â€śthose who honor me I will honor.â€ť